Update post 202 & 207. A 22yo girl calls and says to my DH, he is her father.

[The Mystery Machine]

Hope everything is going well this weekend for you....let us know!
Also, KUDOS to you!!! You have raised healthy, (mentally & physically) children!! You should be proud!!

Oh yea....things are going well. I am emailing the girl and she is excited to meet us. Not sure when...we are leaving on Thur.

I should probably bring gifts for the grandkids, right?

What do you think?

 

[ilovejack02]

Grandma's always bring goodies lol.
Congrats on the things going so well.

 

[Poohnatic]

She asked if it was OK that she call me "grandma" and I said no problem.
So there you go...grandma at 42.
As far as my own adoption issue, thanks for the support. Believe me it is much appreciated.

I am so excited FOR you-to meet your stepdaughter and her kids. Wow, just wow.

As far as the quotes, one of my colleagues a few years back was my age (we were both 29). He'd married a woman 10 years his senior and she'd had a daughter at 19. Daughter had her own daughter at 19, so there he was at 29 being addressed 'Pop Pop'!

I know of several peers who had kids while still in high school, coworkers who had kids while still in their teens. It happens. You showed great maturity in giving your child a better opportunity than you could provide at that time.

Go, enjoy the new additions to your family-and get cracking on that "Grandma's my name, spoiling's my game' job you have ahead of you!

Suzanne

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Dang it.....I guess I need to do something!!!

The grandkids are girls, 2yo and 10 months.

Have to think about this.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

Have a great trip!!!!

I'm very excited for you and your family.

How about taking them some stuffed animals. At that age they still love them or even some baby dolls.

 

[Pooh Crew]

On the topic of gifts, taking something sentimental (like a toy from your dh's childhood or some other "familial link" type gift) would probably mean a lot to her. Good luck with your visit!

 

[JohnsPrincess]

She asked if it was OK that she call me "grandma" and I said no problem.
So there you go...grandma at 42.

Is she asking if SHE can call you grandma or if her kids can? I'm sitting here trying to picture a 22 yo call a 42 year old "Grandma" and it's not computing! I imagine I'll be a young grandma too. I'm 28 and have 3 step sons who are 12, 13, and 14.

Good luck with the meeting!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Is she asking if SHE can call you grandma or if her kids can? I'm sitting here trying to picture a 22 yo call a 42 year old "Grandma" and it's not computing! I imagine I'll be a young grandma too. I'm 28 and have 3 step sons who are 12, 13, and 14.

Good luck with the meeting!

The kids of course.

Thanks...

She is a bed of 22yo drama that is for sure. DH and I go.....well, I suppose we did the same thing at her age.
So we are going with the attitude of a nice visit and leave the drama at the door.

 

[ZPT1022]

For their part, I think they knew about my brother and I. As my step-mother had a picture of me at a very young age and a picture of her oldest grand daughter at that same age side by side. It was really scary to see a mirror image of myself 10 years younger than myself.

We don't keep in touch. A part of me wish we did. But it's one of those thing were you can't keep in touch with some, with out keeping in touch with all. I have no plans keep in touch with my bio father. Once he is gone, the story might be different.

That's too bad, but that's what I come back to too. it will be hard to keep in touch with her without meeting him at some point. A good example- she wants me to come to/ be in her wedding. Well, there's no way to do that without seeing him now is there? And that's definitely NOT what I want, or want my kids around.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Yes, small goodies are definitely a must. Let's see...baby dolls and stuffed animals were already mentioned and definitely a good choice. I also like books and you can sit and cuddle with them while you read to them.

I have a granddaughter (4 in July) thanks to my SD as well. I'm only 41 so I feel your pain. The people at work laugh at me being a grandmother since they know my DD is only 7.

Have a great trip and enjoy!

Oh and BTW, my DD loves being called "Aunt". One of the parents at school spoke to me to let me know that my DD was telling people that she was an aunt and that I might want to address that with her. I asked the woman if she wanted to see the pictures of my granddaughter. That shut her up! Guess she figured that my DD was having lying issues.

 

[ExPirateShopGirl]

The kids of course.

Thanks...

She is a bed of 22yo drama that is for sure. DH and I go.....well, I suppose we did the same thing at her age.
So we are going with the attitude of a nice visit and leave the drama at the door.

I have been reading this from the beginning and my opinion of you gets nothing but higher. You really are handling this well. I have a feeling the 22 yo will present you with a lot more drama in the years to come so don't be surprised. Always keep in mind that she wasn't fortunate enough to be raised by you and your hubby. In the meantime, you are still raising your own daughters. Don't let the drama spill over and affect them!

Keep doing what you're doing. Great job!

 

[vettechick99]

Geez, I just found this thread today. Where have I been?

Anyway, just wanted to post that I'm in awe of your positive attitude and classiness. This girl is biologically related to the right family!

Way to go, MM!