Untitled Hyena Thread

[XTinabell]

Ok I need some advice,

has anyone been to ITALY?

At dinner tonight we are going to tell my mom that we are surprising her with a trip to Italy just her and I for the fall of 2009. Yep, I know its not really a surprise but I wanted to let her plan the whole thing because its her trip. She wants to see the countryside and the vineyards of Tuscany and other parts I cannot remember. Me I would be in Rome and Venice studying the history but there is history in the coutryside right???!

Anyway her lifelong goal has been to go to Italy and she has traveled all over the world and all over Europe but never Italy for some reason. With her arthritis so bad she does not want to go on a tour because she cannot keep up. She has her ankles fused so she has been told she is going to have a very hard time walking on the cobble stone streets because they are uneven and she doesnt want to go with any of her girlfriends because she said she would feel bad because she goes so slow.

She asked me 3 years ago if I would go with her and I said no because I had small kids. Well they are still small but a little larger now not so babyish and will be in school full day then so dh can work half days when I'm gone. She asked my aunt last year but she said she just wanted to get away with her husband so my mom has given up all hope of going.

Dh proposed this so that I can take care of her while she is there, help her up and down off of curbs and hold her hand while she walks the streets etc as a thank you for all she has done for us over the years.

Anyway, I want her to be able to do and dictate the vacation. This is why we are teling her so early. Plus I want us both to take Italian lessons. It should be easy for me to pick up with my french so if we do it together over the course of the next 17 months we should be doing pretty well by the time our trip comes around.

I think the harvest is in September and I'm pretty sure that is when she said she wanted to go.

I know she will say no to this initially but I think I can talk her into caving over a glass of wine!! I'm really excited. I"M GOING TO ITALY!

SHAWNA THAT'S SO EXCITING! I'm going to Italy in May, we're going to some country places to do a hike. I can't wait. Too bad it's a mom daughter trip, it would have been fun to meet up with you. I can get fairly cheap flights from where I am to Italy. You're gonna have so much FUN!! WEEEEEEEE! I can give you some tips when I get back, first part of may, but don't know how much good it will do you. I'm going to Rome, Florence, Pisa and some country places by La Spezia where we're doing our 5 city hike.

Edited to say: I'm not saying it's too bad you're doing a mom daughter trip, I just meant that I'm not going to impose on your mom daughter trip, I would try if it was just you and your hubby and kiddies if you know what I meaner.

 

[XTinabell]

Moto, I'm curious about how long you've been dating your dbf? It takes time, years sometimes for a girlfriend to really fit in and understand the family relations of her boyfriend and his family. I think it is very likely his sister is jealous of your relationship with her brother and feels threatened by you. I don't want to say too much because I dont know the whole story but I think the reason your dbf doesn't think there is a problem is because he's a guy and sometimes guys don't understand how women work. They wouldn't be clingy and possessive (typically) to intentionally exclude someone so they assume women don't either, and I think that's likely why he thought you were over reacting.
This situation really sucks, if I were you I would just give them some space. Allow them some time to work through what they need to together, and if his sister is intentionally trying to exclude you (and I think she probably is) it will become evident soon enough. And go get a massage.

 

[XTinabell]

Ooh, and pixter, do you remember how you mentioned once that someone posted a picture you took and tried to make it look like they took it? Well she did it again with someone else's picture and they called her on it, so I think she'll stop trying to take credit for other people's pictures now.

 

[dizzyami]

Wow, I kinda just cheered myself up and made myself understand by getting all this out and looking at it in writing. Holey smokes, I was jumping to conclusions, wasn’t I? I think I’m going to Wal Mart at lunch and buying myself a journal. Unless you guys don’t mind then the DIS can be my journal.

I am glad that helped...and yes...feel free to use us as a journal. (and yes, I read it all, but didn't want to quote the whole thing )

 

[MotoXPrincess99]

Moto, I'm curious about how long you've been dating your dbf? It takes time, years sometimes for a girlfriend to really fit in and understand the family relations of her boyfriend and his family. I think it is very likely his sister is jealous of your relationship with her brother and feels threatened by you. I don't want to say too much because I dont know the whole story but I think the reason your dbf doesn't think there is a problem is because he's a guy and sometimes guys don't understand how women work. They wouldn't be clingy and possessive (typically) to intentionally exclude someone so they assume women don't either, and I think that's likely why he thought you were over reacting.
This situation really sucks, if I were you I would just give them some space. Allow them some time to work through what they need to together, and if his sister is intentionally trying to exclude you (and I think she probably is) it will become evident soon enough. And go get a massage.

It will be 9 years in August. I get along great with his family in CA. But this sister I had never met, heck DBF has only met her two times before this. She went with her dad at age 2 (it's a big long story) so I partly think DBF is trying to make up for her being taken away KWIM? And yes, guys don't think like we think. He's helping his sister feel better but not noticing that it's making me feel bad. She leaves tomorrow so I a few days after that DBF should be back to his old self, I hope. I'm going to try and plan something for just the two of us this weekend.

 

[XTinabell]

It will be 9 years in August. I get along great with his family in CA. But this sister I had never met, heck DBF has only met her two times before this. She went with her dad at age 2 (it's a big long story) so I partly think DBF is trying to make up for her being taken away KWIM? And yes, guys don't think like we think. He's helping his sister feel better but not noticing that it's making me feel bad. She leaves tomorrow so I a few days after that DBF should be back to his old self, I hope. I'm going to try and plan something for just the two of us this weekend.

oh then yeah, pretty much ignore what I said Sounds like you've got it under control now. Some alone time sounds great. I still think you should get a massage

Edit: You know what's weird? I'll be with my dbf for 9 years in august too. WEEIRD

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Edit: You know what's weird? I'll be with my dbf for 9 years in august too. WEEIRD

CHRISTINA!!! How are you? It's nice to see ya! My bf and I have been together for almost 12 years.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Ooh, and pixter, do you remember how you mentioned once that someone posted a picture you took and tried to make it look like they took it? Well she did it again with someone else's picture and they called her on it, so I think she'll stop trying to take credit for other people's pictures now.

Yeah, she posted the pic I took of some baby ducks. I'm glad someone said something.

 

[staley7580]

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh!!

Can't sleep. So I thought I would get up and look at costumes for Kaitlyn's play.

Megan, do you have plans to see Yosemite or the Sequoias? IMO a definite must see. And I'm going to Frisco this May, with Kaitlyn on her 8th grade trip. We pack in every possible thing you can do, so I'll let you know anything that stands out besides what you have mentioned. Usually when I go in December, I just hit the stores in Union Square for shopping, and no sight seeing. Lynn knows some cool places to eat there too.

We are skipping Yosemite on this trip... Just not enough time to get what we want in.

Just wanted to say a quick Hi. Things did not go to well these past couple of days. I've just been feeling really sad and crying all the time. DBF and I got in to a big fight and things are just not good right now. With everything that's been going on it makes my stomach in knots and I can't eat and it's making me physically sick. Things have been up and down between DBF and I for a while but I really don't like the way he's been treating me since his sister got here, actually since he went to visit his sister. This is going to sound bad but when the three of us went places it was like DBF and his sister were the ones dating and I was left trailing behind. She was constantly hugging him and kissing him and holding his hand and putting her arm around him. DBF and I don't hold hands when we walk or anything and it's never bothered me but seeing them do it was just weird. I know it's his sister but it was like seeing him cheating on me. And I tried telling him how I felt but he just gets mad he would say why am I jelouse, it's just his sister and she needs to be close to someone because of what she's going through. And I would just let it go because I have been really trying to make things work lately but it's been getting hard becasue it seems like DBF just doesn't care anymore either way.

Wow, that is probably way TMI, sorry. I really did mean to just say hi but when I get going it all comes out.

Well I have to get back to work. I left early on Thursday and didn't come in on Friday becasue of everything that's been going on.

Im sorry you are having a rough time.

Tink and I can help we can help


pix how do you make sticky rice??? i love it but i cant figure out how to do it...I might be using the wrong rice or something


where is the hotel? when are you going?
if you panic going over that bridge then you will pass out going down lombard street...I wont do it....it has nothing to do with it being windy but streets in san francisco are VERY TO THE EXTREME steep and the problem with Lombard is that you come down the hill and have to stop in between streets as normal but because its so steep you dont want to and then theres a fear of not being able to stop...so you might want to rethink that or maybe just going down a few of the streets but not the whole thing

well duh you make the kid go to bed at dusk what do you expect...cant you let him stay up a little longer mom???? kayla I totally understand...shes still needs to be in bed that early..

okay... Sticky rice... Use Calrose Rice, it is in the Asian section at the grocery store. Its all I buy!!

We are like a block or 2 back from the Wharf. I read on Trip Advisor, and it got great reviews, which is good.. Im a little freaked out about staying smack dab in the City like that. We are going the week before Labor Day.

Driving over the bridge doesnt bother me, but I have this crippling fear of my kids falling. Totally irrational, I know.. But I cant take them out on a bridge (walking) without having a compete cow. We went to the Hoover Dam when we got married, and we walked over it... All I could picture in my brain was Alex jumping up, and flying over the side. (at the ripe old age of 2! )

Alex has to go to bed early. I have tried pushing his bed time back, but by the end of the week he was a crabby crying fool. He has ALWAYS woken up at the crack of dawn.. Oddly enough Mikalah is the one who can stay up late. I dont understand it, but I go with it.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

What's up Staley?

 

[XTinabell]

CHRISTINA!!! How are you? It's nice to see ya! My bf and I have been together for almost 12 years.

PIXTER! I haven't chatted with you for ages, you're never online when I am anymore

Yeah, she posted the pic I took of some baby ducks. I'm glad someone said something.

Yeah they called her on it and gave her a hard time lol. She claimed she didn't know she wasn't allowed to post other people's pics. I dunno, she'll probably stop now tho.

 

[staley7580]

What's up Staley?

Chillin yo. Whats the haps ladies?

 

[dizzyami]

What's up Staley?

Hey Pix, I have to work soon but delete your PM's.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

PIXTER! I haven't chatted with you for ages, you're never online when I am anymore



Yeah they called her on it and gave her a hard time lol. She claimed she didn't know she wasn't allowed to post other people's pics. I dunno, she'll probably stop now tho.

I know! You are not online when I'm on! It's always a hit and miss!

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Hey Pix, I have to work soon but delete your PM's.

Okay, I deleted some. I didn't realize it was full! Hello by the way!

 

[staley7580]

Mmmm... I love perogies.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Chillin yo. Whats the haps ladies?

Are your kids still on spring break or did they just start? My little sister went back to school today.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Mmmm... I love perogies.

Is that something that contains Daniel Jackson as the main ingredient? J/k!!

 

[dizzyami]

Okay, I deleted some. I didn't realize it was full! Hello by the way!

Oh, uh sorry...let's try this again....

HI PIXSTER!!!


and just because I fear getting abused

HI CHRISTINA!!!

and one more

HI STALEY!!! (I have no specific fear of you, but didn't want to exclude you)

And now, I must go get DD and go to work

 

[staley7580]

Are your kids still on spring break or did they just start? My little sister went back to school today.

Alex just started his break today.. We are having lazy day today.. Tomorrow we are doing something, most likely grocery shopping.. But Wed. we are doing a bouncy place. Should be fun.. I hope!

Is that something that contains Daniel Jackson as the main ingredient? J/k!!

Yup! They mix it him in with the mashed potatoes.

Oh, uh sorry...let's try this again....

HI PIXSTER!!!


and just because I fear getting abused

HI CHRISTINA!!!

and one more

HI STALEY!!! (I have no specific fear of you, but didn't want to exclude you)

And now, I must go get DD and go to work

HI! and BYE!!