And I can totally see that. I really can.
Disney resorts work for some people. If you like the dining plan, if you like the buses, then chances are onsite is a place for you. I am a devoted offsiter who doesn't like either of those "perks" (and I have stayed onsite before, so yes I have experienced both sides) but can still see why onsite works for some people, despite the cost.
I think what many of the onsiters fail to realize is that onsite doesn't work for some of us, either. I wouldn't get my teen son to go to Orlando at all if we had to squeeze into one room when it came time for bed.
There are tons of ways to "do" Disney. One size does not fit all. Same with accommodations. I can't imagine that Disney execs feel that the only people who deserve a "magical" experience are those staying onsite. I think that's what the OP was most disappointed about. She felt as if she was being punished for not staying onsite by having no access to the tools Disney has created to give guests a great experience.
Other parks have found a balance. Ways to give both groups a great time, and reasons to return. Let's just hope that same balance is in Disney's future when all is said and done

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