We're going to start our remodel any day now, as soon as the permits come in. (Long Island's permit departments are apparently swamped in the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy.) We're knocking down the wall between the living and dining rooms, and adding a front foyer with a coat closet. (Don't tell my husband, but this is one of the best parts of the project!!) We're moving the back door, and changing it to sliders. This is a project that's long overdue for my post WWII kitchen.
Anyway, a great source of inspiration is
www.houzz.com You can open up an Ideabook and flag any pictures that appeal to you. After a while, you'll start to see trends in the stuff you're choosing.
We met with 3 different contractors. The first was one we've used before, and I assumed we would go with them. But the two different people we were talking to there weren't on the same page, and it really turned us off. The second was a delight... but $30,000 more than the other two. (Not a typo: thirty thousand dollars more.) The third contractor, the one we're using, listened to what we wanted. At that point,we were talking about blowing out the back of the house for a mudroom. He asked why. He asked whether we used our front door (we do.) Then he asked why not blow out the front instead of the back, knowing that the kids would be unlikely to walk through the house to hang up their stuff. This was a professional who knew his job, and knew how to give us what we needed, not what we thought we needed. We checked around, and found that two good friends worked with him and recommeded him highly.
We asked about Ikea cabinets. He said that they come unassembled. Either we do it ourselves (and put them somewhere until they're ready to go in) or he had to charge us to assemble them. He sent us to the local Home Depot. Home Depot will do a computer workup of your room for something like $100, and change and change it until it's to your liking.
As for the appliances, we went out Super Bowl weekend, just to look. We found a great sale on a 4 piece LG kitchen. It's been stored in our garage since February. We used a small local appliance place (Jays in Levittown for anyone on LI) that we've used in the past.
As for surving with kids, we're planning to move our current fridge into the basement to replace the 20+ year old model currently there. We'll use that during the construction. And we'll plug the micro in somewhere. And BBQ a lot, and probably do too much fast food.