Unconventional Parents?

[NHdisneylover]

Ok, so here is my thing. As usual some people have taken the opportunity to assume that I am insecure, or there is something wrong with my personality lol. People who make those assumptions are USUALLY the ones with personality issues, coming on these boards and attacking and/or assuming something about someone in a negative manner just shows a sheer lack of character. I just started this thread to see if there are any other parents that are different, and do things differently. Somehow this turned into a thread about tattoos, but it was meant to be more than that lol! Sure, tattoos are more mainstream now but how many people are actually heavily tattooed? This is a lifestyle choice that I love, and have no regrets about..sure people look I am used to that and many times people stop and ask me about them. My point was that everyone judges everyone sure, BUT at what point do we ask ourselves am I making the correct assumption about someone? It seems to me some people on these boards are perfect examples of what I am talking about, thanks for validating my point!

Sorry, your OP focused on your tattoos and how that leads people to make assumptions about you, so that is where i went with it.

I don't know a single parent who does not feel they are judge by other parents (an society in general) in a negative way at east some of the time. It goes with the territory.

And yes, DISsers judge too--I am a charter member of the DIS bad Mommies club to prove it

I've rarely felt judged by how we are dressed; though there were those few people (and one substitute teacher and then the principal) who felt it was okay to make an issue of my son having polished finger nails when he was young

Lots of people seem to think it is wrong that I let my kids have the freedoms and responsibilities that I give them--and then others think it is wrong that i mention it and in doing so am bragging

Some thought we were nuts to let our son be in Pippin at 8 and some that we should not allow him or support him in being a dancer. Some don't like how DD is being schooled right now (online). Yeah, whatever, it works for our family and most people are too busy with their own live and kids to care much about mine.

 

[Pumpkin01]

This is the last I am posting about this bc it is pure stupidity, if you want to say I am insecure more power to you! Nobody here knows me to assume, and an innocent thread has turned ugly. Many people on here are BULLIES, and it is people like you guys who cause other people to hurt or be upset. I do not think making assumptions about someone over one post is acceptable or accurate, so what does that say about you? All of you can fight it out, I will no longer be posting about this, and I am deleting this thread.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Clearly you missed the point, and the circus sideline act was completely unnecessary. Maybe I should just delete this thread bc this has turned into people arguing and that is not what I am about.

Only a mod can delete a thread.

Seems many of us missed your point. Can you try again to explain what it is you want to discuss?

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

This is the last I am posting about this bc it is pure stupidity, if you want to say I am insecure more power to you! Nobody here knows me to assume, and an innocent thread has turned ugly. Many people on here are BULLIES, and it is people like you guys who cause other people to hurt or be upset. I do not think making assumptions about someone over one post is acceptable or accurate, so what does that say about you? All of you can fight it out, I will no longer be posting about this, and I am deleting this thread.

???????? Oooooooookay....

You can't delete a thread.

 

[Pumpkin01]

Thank you NHdisneylover for sharing you experiences, that is all I wanted this thread to be...not an assassination of me.

 

[soccerdad72]

This is the last I am posting about this bc it is pure stupidity, if you want to say I am insecure more power to you! Nobody here knows me to assume, and an innocent thread has turned ugly. Many people on here are BULLIES, and it is people like you guys who cause other people to hurt or be upset. I do not think making assumptions about someone over one post is acceptable or accurate, so what does that say about you? All of you can fight it out, I will no longer be posting about this, and I am deleting this thread.

This thread has turned ugly? You are new here, aren't you?

 

[NHdisneylover]

This is the last I am posting about this bc it is pure stupidity, if you want to say I am insecure more power to you! Nobody here knows me to assume, and an innocent thread has turned ugly. Many people on here are BULLIES, and it is people like you guys who cause other people to hurt or be upset. I do not think making assumptions about someone over one post is acceptable or accurate, so what does that say about you? All of you can fight it out, I will no longer be posting about this, and I am deleting this thread.

Following the rule

Um, I am so confused as to how you (or anyone) could see any post in this thread as bullying? Is there history with you and some of the posters that is bringing up these feelings? It is really kind of out of left field otherwise.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Thank you NHdisneylover for sharing you experiences, that is all I wanted this thread to be...not an assassination of me.

You're welcome. I'm glad I accidentally stumbled upon what you wanted

This fall someone here posted that they "shudder to think about" that I let my then 13 year old go back to the hotel on his own (with a cell phone) at WDW one evening. I chuckled (and it stuck in my head for some reason)--partly because I highly doubt that same person would have any issue at all with ME doing the same--even though he is bigger, stronger and runs faster than me.

We run into all kinds of cultural differences too because we live in Germany but are American. One fun one was last fall we left the kids home on their own (with friends and neighbors on call) for a week while we took a cruise. On the cruise, if we mentioned that, every single American we spoke to was shocked we'd leave them so long without family staying with them, etc and every single German said something along the lines of "that is so good for kids that age" The again, we probably would not have left them in the US--not unless we lived somewhere that they could get everywhere with public transit (like here) and doctors are used to minors going in on their own if needed, etc. (DS did have an asthma flare up while we were gone and the kids went in together and handled it just fine--doctor never even asked where I was).

 

[DawnM]

But you are arguing and calling people names.

Clearly you missed the point, and the circus sideline act was completely unnecessary. Maybe I should just delete this thread bc this has turned into people arguing and that is not what I am about.