Unconventional Parents?

[Pumpkin01]

Any parents out there feel they are different than the social norm of what a parent should act, look or be like? I certainly am different than most parents, and I notice often that I am being judged..luckily I don't care!! I have several tattoos, which for me is art, and I get looks like I could never be an educated, well-rounded, great mom/person. Anyone else deal with this?

 

[PizzieDuster]

Everyone is different. I don't care. I worry about my own kids/family. My cousin owns his own tattoo company. He's a great father. He's daughter adores him. He's very talented and I like all his pictures of his work on his FB page. It took courage to leave his prior employment and go out on his own. I'm proud of him.

No tattoos for me. I'm not skinny. I'll still get in the water. Judge away. I don't care either

 

[Pumpkin01]

Thanks for the encouraging words!! More people should be open minded!

 

[NHdisneylover]

I could care less if somehow has tattoos, etc most of the time. I only would think poorly of someone with very violent images displayed.

But normal stuff? Nah, I don't care. They aren't my thing, but they do not make someone a bad person. It is just a style choice, like a gazillion other style choices.


It seems like tattoos have become extremely common pretty much anywhere I have been in the US in the last few years (rural, urban, north, south, you name it). If you are truly getting a lot of stares and looks and not just running into the occasional judgmental idiot, it might be wise to stop and think if there is anything ELSE going on that maybe the root cause that you are not noticing. Maybe ask some trusted friends or something. I just don't think tattoos are enough "out there" to be a blip on most people's radar anymore, you know?

 

[Justmeandnooneelse]

Where I live, tattoos are conventional.

 

[kamik86]

I dont think anything of tatoos. I live in a small area and know many people with them.

Now there are a few tatoos I have seen that would make me think twice about the person that would put that on their body, but those are much more rare.

Personnally I don't have any just because I can't think of anything that I like enough that I am confident that I would still like it 10 years from now.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Any parents out there feel they are different than the social norm of what a parent should act, look or be like? I certainly am different than most parents, and I notice often that I am being judged..luckily I don't care!! I have several tattoos, which for me is art, and I get looks like I could never be an educated, well-rounded, great mom/person. Anyone else deal with this?

People judge everyone from head to toe, tattoos or no tattoos. That is life unfortunately.

It is all how you present yourself when you open your mouth.

 

[ronandannette]

What did I miss?. Anybody know why the first version of this thread got deleted?

 

[NFLDERS]

What did I miss?. Anybody know why the first version of this thread got deleted?

I'm wondering the same thing. Too tired when I read them last night. I wanted to compliment one poster on how they were raising their daughters.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

This man came to mind as soon as I read this thread. Make sure you look at all of the photos. http://www.nypost.com/p/news/national/utah_father_spends_school_year_waving_hknSfEPF5nzistDXvFE1mN

 

[NHdisneylover]

I didn't even know there was a prior version of the thread. Usually people reference an older thread if that is what they are doing.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Not saying this is the case with you, OP but a lot of people decorate their bodies head to toe and then get offended when anyone looks. If you have a tatoo or piercing in an odd, but visible place, obviously you did it because you WANT people to see it. So, people looking should be expected.

As for my opinion, I don't have a problem with tatoos, but I do feel that getting them on parts of your body that cannot be easily hidden during a job interview is a BAD idea.

 

[NHdisneylover]

This man came to mind as soon as I read this thread. Make sure you look at all of the photos. http://www.nypost.com/p/news/national/utah_father_spends_school_year_waving_hknSfEPF5nzistDXvFE1mN

I can't imagine having the time to dream up and pull together all of those get ups!

 

[msjprincess]

May I ask where you live? Tattoos are pretty conventional where I live.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

Slightly, but not because of how I look. We "unschool," which is loosely structured or not structured at all homeschooling, and I am very "free range" (opposite of helicopter).

 

[minkydog]

Mostly I don't care about tattoos. I don't have any but I don't care if you have them. But I will freely admit to snickering when your body art is misspelled, grammatically incorrect or your "portraits" make your kids look like the Joker.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

My husband just shared this site with me. Seems appropriate for this thread: 24 People who are really nailing this parenting thing

 

[MomofIndigo]

Judgement comes in different forms. I live in a very conservative area with very conservative parents. Do I have tattoos? Yes because I think they rock! do I show them off? No but they are place on my back and I am a plus plus size girl that is not interested in showing people all the rolls that I carry but that is me.

I am judged as a parent because I only want one child and that is our plan. In my neck of the woods that is "unconventional" and I have been told that I am doing a disservice to my child for keeping her an only child but that is a different topic. I am judged because I am teaching my child about musicals and 50s and 60s music. I am judged that I want to surprise my one child with a trip to WDW for her birthday. We are judged no matter what.

Even if its a positive comment remember that person is judging you, just its a happy judgement. You as a person decided to get tattoos for whatever reason. Be happy about it and now as a parent you can show your children that not everyone is a carbon copy of each other.

 

[ronandannette]

I didn't even know there was a prior version of the thread. Usually people reference an older thread if that is what they are doing.

It was started last evening and disappeared within the hour... this is the same title and topic but with all new posts.

 

[gottaluvPluto]

I see a lot of tattoos on parents. I don't have a problem with it unless it is sexually vulgar, and you are displaying it around children.