TTC thread take 2

[cherbear]

Hugs to you guys and hope all is well.

Well, we probably won't be ttc-ing again till April due to all this crap that's going on. I do feel better today. My dx gave me two weeks of Lyrica (it's a nerve stabilizer) and also Ibuprofin. He wants to see me in 2 weeks. If I'm all right, he'll release me to go back to work. We see the RE April 20th.

But, I got to thinking....in June we have a trip to D-land coming up. If it happens....I would be due in March. Now if it's a boy, the boys in my hubby's family are usually late. My Kenny was VERY late. His mom took castor oil to get him to come out. She doesn't recommend that. If I'm due in late March let's say and he's late....my b-day is April 6th...we could have a birthday baby! Wouldn't that be an awesome birthday present?!

Gabbie

glad you got some meds and feel better.

They don't typically let pregnancies go more than a week past the due date these days.

I was born 2 weeks late and they had to rush me to NICU because my lungs were full of fluid due to the fact I'd been in there so long. I was a smurf. (yes, small and BLUE)

Because of this I will be inducing labor (assuming I ever get pregnant) if I go past my due date.

 

[shruley]

Hope and pray everything continues going well so you can be on track in April!

I haven't really said much lately but I'm on cd 11 of my last cycle before I start BCP for IVF #2

(assuming everything works out right...I'm still nervous about something going wrong physically or financially)

God willing, we will have a retrieval around mid April -- with a transfer to follow hopefully FIVE days past retrieval this time.


I am following all of you and rooting for everyone!

 

[shruley]

So sorry for the bad news. I, too, had always heard that after 3 months of Clomid if it's not working, to move on. So it certainly worth asking about!

Got the call from the RE. BFN
RE wants us to do 1 more month on Clomid and if it doesn't work then move on to something else (injectables). DH is going to call back and ask if we can just move on to injectables now. I'm just fed up with Clomid... it didn't work the first 3 cycles so I'm really not hopeful at all that #4 will be any different.
I'm actually taking the news ok. I cried when I had to call DH and tell him but not since then. I think I'm just numb to all feelings at this point. By the time I have that BFP hopefully I will still been able to have emotions.

Oh, and the icing on the cake is that we got the bill from the RE for the IUI in the mail today. Nothing better than throwing money out the window

 

[D&DDisney]

Got the call from the RE. BFN
RE wants us to do 1 more month on Clomid and if it doesn't work then move on to something else (injectables). DH is going to call back and ask if we can just move on to injectables now. I'm just fed up with Clomid... it didn't work the first 3 cycles so I'm really not hopeful at all that #4 will be any different.
I'm actually taking the news ok. I cried when I had to call DH and tell him but not since then. I think I'm just numb to all feelings at this point. By the time I have that BFP hopefully I will still been able to have emotions.

Oh, and the icing on the cake is that we got the bill from the RE for the IUI in the mail today. Nothing better than throwing money out the window

Oh joanne - I am so sorry. Don't know if I'm more or . It just sucks that it hasn't worked for you yet.
I cried every month we threw IUI money out the window too. Feels like such a waste.

I also agree that moving on from Clomid is probably a good idea. My RE told me that after 3 tries and no success, it's time to move on. That might have just been my particular case though.

My doctor told me the same thing.

Hugs to you guys and hope all is well.

Well, we probably won't be ttc-ing again till April due to all this crap that's going on. I do feel better today. My dx gave me two weeks of Lyrica (it's a nerve stabilizer) and also Ibuprofin. He wants to see me in 2 weeks. If I'm all right, he'll release me to go back to work. We see the RE April 20th.

So sorry you're having such a bad time Gabby. Hope you get some relief soon.

 

[Falltime]

Had my cd12 u/s yesterday and had 2 follicles measuring at 14 so taking bravelle for a few more days then go back Thurs for a followup u/s and hopefully both will be at 18 then I should be able to trigger this weekend while vacationing at Disneyland and have some extra fun to boot.

Found out this weekend from my MIL that my unwed, unemployed, who has a new boyfriend every 2 weeks, who has been drinking heavily since turning 21 in December sister-in-law is 10 weeks pregnant. Sometimes life seems so unfair. I am glad I don't live near her.

 

[D&DDisney]

Had my cd12 u/s yesterday and had 2 follicles measuring at 14 so taking bravelle for a few more days then go back Thurs for a followup u/s and hopefully both will be at 18 then I should be able to trigger this weekend while vacationing at Disneyland and have some extra fun to boot.

Found out this weekend from my MIL that my unwed, unemployed, who has a new boyfriend every 2 weeks, who has been drinking heavily since turning 21 in December sister-in-law is 10 weeks pregnant. Sometimes life seems so unfair. I am glad I don't live near her.

Have a great time at Disneyland! Hope you come home w/ a souvie!

Good gravy! Life is truly unfair!!!!

 

[cherbear]

Had my cd12 u/s yesterday and had 2 follicles measuring at 14 so taking bravelle for a few more days then go back Thurs for a followup u/s and hopefully both will be at 18 then I should be able to trigger this weekend while vacationing at Disneyland and have some extra fun to boot.

Found out this weekend from my MIL that my unwed, unemployed, who has a new boyfriend every 2 weeks, who has been drinking heavily since turning 21 in December sister-in-law is 10 weeks pregnant. Sometimes life seems so unfair. I am glad I don't live near her.

Crossing my fingers for Thursday!!


ummm...yeah...I would wanna slap a witch. (except replace witch with something else) 10 weeks uhh that would mean she got pregnant IN December. When did she find out and does your MIL know whats going on with y'all?

 

[cherbear]

Hope and pray everything continues going well so you can be on track in April!

thanks so much!

 

[Falltime]

Crossing my fingers for Thursday!!


ummm...yeah...I would wanna slap a witch. (except replace witch with something else) 10 weeks uhh that would mean she got pregnant IN December. When did she find out and does your MIL know whats going on with y'all?

That's the way I felt too! SIL just found out last week. MIL has no idea what's going on with us. I'm not really close with her and actually no one in our family knows of our struggles. I think they have an idea since the questions of when are you guys going to have a baby have stopped being asked a few years back.

 

[cherbear]

That's the way I felt too! SIL just found out last week. MIL has no idea what's going on with us. I'm not really close with her and actually no one in our family knows of our struggles. I think they have an idea since the questions of when are you guys going to have a baby have stopped being asked a few years back.

geez so she's been drinking all that time. Does she even know who the father is?

I'm glad the questioning has stopped. At least they are smart enough to stop drilling into you. Regardless of whether someone is trying or not trying, enough is enough. We used to be asked over and over by a certain aunt even before we started trying. And apparently "We'd like to have one before we are 30" wasn't a good enough answer. (Oh by the way, my husband is now turning 30 this October and I follow suit in June 2012 )

 

[Kennywife]

glad you got some meds and feel better.

They don't typically let pregnancies go more than a week past the due date these days.

I was born 2 weeks late and they had to rush me to NICU because my lungs were full of fluid due to the fact I'd been in there so long. I was a smurf. (yes, small and BLUE)

Because of this I will be inducing labor (assuming I ever get pregnant) if I go past my due date.

Huh. Did not know that. Good to know.

Feeling better today. The Lyrica and Ibu is working. Oh...I lost five pounds!

Good luck and baby dust to you guys! We'll all get there, soon enough!

Gabbie

 

[Falltime]

geez so she's been drinking all that time. Does she even know who the father is?

yep, and she is as thin as a rail and hardly eats a thing. MIL indicated that SIL "thinks" she knows who the father is and MIL hopes that he stays away. They live in another state and we only visit once a year or every other year for a few days so I don't know her too well. However every time I have been around her she dresses like "one of those girls of the night who likes to flaunt her assets" and stays out all night and comes home the next day. She still lives at home. DH's parents adopted her when she was around 5 and have spoiled her rotten giving her anything she wants and obviously letting her do whatever. It's kinda of strange since my in-laws are very religious and my DH and his biological siblings were all raised with a high set of morals but they were all out of the house when they adopted her. Anyway given her lifestyle I don't think any of us were really surprised by the news. It just really bites though.

 

[joanne312]

Thanks for all the support with my BFN ladies.
After many voicemails back and forth between the RE office, we decided to go and meet with the RE to figure out our next steps. I'm going to call tomorrow morning, hopefully they'll get us in ASAP so we know before my cycle starts what the plan is.
Our biggest concern is that our insurance coverage is awful (only $10,000 lifetime maximum), and there is a question of if they will cover injectables or not. So we need to sit with the doctor and try to figure out what's the best bang for our buck. We don't want to waste what little insurance funding we have on cycles that aren't successful. So we'll figure out if we'll switch to injectables now, give Clomid one more try (which I do not want to do!), or possibly go all out for IVF

 

[cherbear]

Thanks for all the support with my BFN ladies.
After many voicemails back and forth between the RE office, we decided to go and meet with the RE to figure out our next steps. I'm going to call tomorrow morning, hopefully they'll get us in ASAP so we know before my cycle starts what the plan is.
Our biggest concern is that our insurance coverage is awful (only $10,000 lifetime maximum), and there is a question of if they will cover injectables or not. So we need to sit with the doctor and try to figure out what's the best bang for our buck. We don't want to waste what little insurance funding we have on cycles that aren't successful. So we'll figure out if we'll switch to injectables now, give Clomid one more try (which I do not want to do!), or possibly go all out for IVF

Glad you are going to meet and come up with a plan.

It's not as awful as you think....my insurance covers absolutely ZERO infertility treatments. The policy says they cover the TESTING but not treatment. They covered the initial testing (basically....bloodwork and an ultrasound or two). Then once I was actually IN treatment, they didn't even cover the testing anymore. (not even the FDA required bloodwork that I need every 6 months)

It blows don't it?

 

[cherbear]

yep, and she is as thin as a rail and hardly eats a thing. MIL indicated that SIL "thinks" she knows who the father is and MIL hopes that he stays away. They live in another state and we only visit once a year or every other year for a few days so I don't know her too well. However every time I have been around her she dresses like "one of those girls of the night who likes to flaunt her assets" and stays out all night and comes home the next day. She still lives at home. DH's parents adopted her when she was around 5 and have spoiled her rotten giving her anything she wants and obviously letting her do whatever. It's kinda of strange since my in-laws are very religious and my DH and his biological siblings were all raised with a high set of morals but they were all out of the house when they adopted her. Anyway given her lifestyle I don't think any of us were really surprised by the news. It just really bites though.

that's disgusting. People like that make me sick.

 

[ckret01]

Glad you are going to meet and come up with a plan.

It's not as awful as you think....my insurance covers absolutely ZERO infertility treatments. The policy says they cover the TESTING but not treatment. They covered the initial testing (basically....bloodwork and an ultrasound or two). Then once I was actually IN treatment, they didn't even cover the testing anymore. (not even the FDA required bloodwork that I need every 6 months)

It blows don't it?

Same here. Right now my ins covers just the testing of the underlying cause but not the treatment...and I still had a deductible and co-ins to pay during that time. When I started IUI's, medication, ultrasounds, blood work nothing was covered. Plus this IVF I just did was not covered either...not even a penny. It definitely stinks!

And what stinks more is 4 years ago, my ins DID cover all of these things, up to 6 IUI's and 3 IVFs per calendar year.....but my company kept changing our plans and lessened the coverage every year. So when it came time to me actually using it I had to pay for everything because nothing was included.

Although I shouldn't complain, because at the end of this year my husband and I will be laid off and I wont have any ins.

 

[shruley]

Thanks for all the support with my BFN ladies.
After many voicemails back and forth between the RE office, we decided to go and meet with the RE to figure out our next steps. I'm going to call tomorrow morning, hopefully they'll get us in ASAP so we know before my cycle starts what the plan is.
Our biggest concern is that our insurance coverage is awful (only $10,000 lifetime maximum), and there is a question of if they will cover injectables or not. So we need to sit with the doctor and try to figure out what's the best bang for our buck. We don't want to waste what little insurance funding we have on cycles that aren't successful. So we'll figure out if we'll switch to injectables now, give Clomid one more try (which I do not want to do!), or possibly go all out for IVF

I know what you mean, we have $10,000 in coverage for treatment as well (testing isn't supposed to count in that, and so far they've coded my testing as other things, like PMS for my hormone testing, so we should be good there.) When you look at it, $10,000 does not go far!!!

 

[DisneyElite4]

This makes me so thankful that we have fairly good infertility coverage right now. I have a $25,000 maximum and $15,000 for meds. We haven't started any treatment yet, but hearing how insurance coverage is rapidly declining makes me want to get started sooner, just in case they stop offering the same coverage next year.

And ckret01, I am so sorry about you and your husband's jobs. I hope you are both able to find great jobs very soon after the layoff later this year.

 

[Kennywife]

Glad you are going to meet and come up with a plan.

It's not as awful as you think....my insurance covers absolutely ZERO infertility treatments. The policy says they cover the TESTING but not treatment. They covered the initial testing (basically....bloodwork and an ultrasound or two). Then once I was actually IN treatment, they didn't even cover the testing anymore. (not even the FDA required bloodwork that I need every 6 months)

It blows don't it?

Yup. Ours is exactly the same. In our group insurance, it's not considered a "need." But Viagra is.

 

[joanne312]

Yup. Ours is exactly the same. In our group insurance, it's not considered a "need." But Viagra is.

It is SO unfair. Our insurance covers 100%- no copay or anything, on all cholesterol meds and diabetes meds. They also cover gastric bypass at a higher rate than infertility. So, I can be big fat obese and eat McDonalds all day long and insurance will pay for everything!

DH is going to call our insurance to clarify our coverage. Since DH works at the corporate office of Walgreens we have a Prescription Plan thru them that's separate from our insurance. I'm not sure if injectables are covered on the prescription plan or if we'd have to pay out of pocket for them, or if it would be counted as part of our $10,000 infertility coverage. It's so confusing, frustrating, and overwhelming!