True Life: I'm in an Interracial Relationship

[Conservative Hippie]

Being 8.5 months pregnant, I don't sleep very much anymore. And when I can't sleep, I watch True Life on MTV.

I can't believe the ignorance of these people on TL: I'm in an Interracial Relationship! This girl's parents disapprove of her being with/having a baby with a hispanic boy (she is white). They say what if her baby comes out brown skinned? What if????? And this is in New Jersey, not even in the South where it might be expected (and before anyone says anything, I have lived my whole life in the South!). Their whole excuse is that while they have no problem with the baby being mixed, they think it will be hard for the child to grow up mixed. IMHO, people who say that are the only ones that have a problem with mixed children. I grew up mixed (mom is hispanic, dad is white) in Alabama, and it was not traumatic. Sure, there were some mean kids, I can remember being asked in 1st grade why my mom was black and my dad was white (apparently Mexicans were a rare sight in Alabama back then). But most certainly not a reason for interracial couples to be discouraged!

I am pretty fair with dark features, one of my brothers is really there's-no-mistaking-you-are-Mexican dark, and the other brother actually has red hair. Yes, we all have the same mommy and daddy! To top it all off, we all have extremely Irish first names, and an extremely Irish last name. The dark one is actually Patrick. You have no idea how funny it was once when he showed up for a job interview, this Mexican guy when they were expecting Patrick O'Irishman. He actually just got married (to a white girl) and watching this True Life made me wonder if her family ever had a problem with it. DH's mother had a bit of a shock the first time she met my mother, but I assume she got over it because she never said anything after that.

You know, there is a possibility that my child will be dark skinned, which would be funny I think, seeing as how DH and I are both fair.

So anyway, I'm bored, I can't sleep, maybe this will cause some excitement. What are your feelings about interracial relationships?

 

[Stacerita]

I have no issue with interracial relationships.

My mother is Mexican and my father is white. When I was a baby, my mother was always asked if she was the nanny since I was so fair skinned. Then my brother came, and he looks the opposite of me with darker complexion. Then questions about my adoption would come up. WTH??? I have the same mom and dad as my brother. Just the way things worked out you know.

The sweetpea is mixed as well. She is part me and part Pacific Islander. She has a very nice tan complexion and dark hair and dark eyes. I get stares all the time and when she was younger people were more rude about asking where I adpoted her from. Some people. Just ignorant.

I myself have been in several interracial relationships. Luckly, Ive never been subjected to predjudice because of it. But Im sure there can always be a first time.

 

[MamaLema]

What are my feelings?

I am white. DH is Hispanic. We've been together forever and have 3 kids. If you don't like it, I don't give a ****! The only thing that bothers me is when I'm asked if I am my kid's babysitter.

Honestly, I am very surprised how much ignorance is in the world still! I'm always amazed that people care who other people marry and stuff that's none of their business.

 

[Tiziminchac]

I voted "I have a problem with interracial relationships, and I will tell you why... " but I thought I was voting for "I have no problem..." I didn't read the choice well enough! But I'll tell you why anyway... Because I like women, all women. There are too many hot ladies who aren't exactly like me and why would I want to narrow my choices down by being narrow minded?

Seriously, love is a mysterious thing. Why question it over something as shallow as appearances?

 

[Mysteria]

What are my feelings?

I am white. DH is Hispanic. We've been together forever and have 3 kids. If you don't like it, I don't give a ****!

Honestly, I am very surprised how much ignorance is in the world still! I'm always amazed that people care who other people marry and stuff that's none of their business.

Almost ditto. We don't have children though. I can't beleive people still hide behind their racism by saying what will it be like for the kids growing up. Well it would fine if not for people thinking just like that!

 

[Tiziminchac]

Does any of that make sense? I need to go to bed.

 

[HannahFan72]

I think the interracial thing is fine, but you are going to find it all over, no matter where people are from. I'm on a team of 5 people in my office. The 2 of us born in America are both married to men not of the same ethnicity. The 3 on the team who are from other countries are only interested in dating/marrying people from their own country. They've never said that they dissaprove of my relationship, but they have all said they would never consider an interracial relationship for themselves. It's everywhere, not just in the US or on MTV

 

[disneychrista]

Love is color blind. That is all I have to say.

 

[Mickeyluver37]

I really don't understand why anyone would care who others date/marry/have kids with.

 

[JennyMominRI]

Does any of that make sense? I need to go to bed.

You like women...All women. Race is immaterial?

 

[Apparitions]

I have no problem with it but in high school I couldn't do it. Maybe it's because I grew up in such a horribly judgemental town (where he didn't live) but I couldn't commit to him.

Loved him to pieces but feared what people would say too much

 

[PoohnPglet]

I chose "I have no problem with them, but I've never been in one myself."

Not that I wouldn't. In fact, I have the biggest crush on a guy that is mixed himself, (his mom is white and his dad is African-American and American Indian.) Whoa Nelly, he is one handsome man!

 

[Tiziminchac]

You like women...All women. Race is immaterial?

Thank you!

 

[MamaLema]

I think the interracial thing is fine, but you are going to find it all over, no matter where people are from. I'm on a team of 5 people in my office. The 2 of us born in America are both married to men not of the same ethnicity. The 3 on the team who are from other countries are only interested in dating/marrying people from their own country. They've never said that they dissaprove of my relationship, but they have all said they would never consider an interracial relationship for themselves. It's everywhere, not just in the US or on MTV

They are not against it, just wouldn't consider it for themselves. That's a little different, at least to me.

 

[julie_yet]

I'm all for interracial relationships. I've never been in one but I'm not rulling anyone out because of their race. My first kiss was from a little black boy that lived in my neighborhood and one of my very good friends is Puerto Rican and Trinidadian and I've had a semi-crush on him since we were kids. Also my niece and nephew are mixed and I love 'em to death. I grew up in a very diverse community and race has never been an issue.

 

[flipturngirl]

I do not care about interracial relationships. I have learned about it more in high school and don't look down to it or anything. It is fine not matter what.

 

[mommasita]

No problem with it, and am teaching my kids the same..

I was happy when my DD8 did not even KNOW what prejudice meant. It almost sickened her when she found out. I took it as a good thing, that perhaps the world is a better place..

 

[precious pixie]

I really don't understand why anyone would care who others date/marry/have kids with.

What matters most is if a person is happy. I love my DH and I hope everyone gets to experience that feeling no matter who they share it with

 

[Planogirl]

I can't see any negatives to an interracial relationship except for the idiots that cause trouble of course. But they're not even worth considering.

However if a person is uncomfortable dating someone of another race that's one thing. But how can they justify trying to make someone else feel the same way? It's silly to spend time caring one way or the other about who other people love.

 

[poohandwendy]

I have no problem with interracial relationships.

But, I have to say, I have a preference for specific men and they happen to be in my race. I just have never been attracted to anyone who is outside of my race. (well, besides some celebrities, but I am talking about people i have met) If I were, I would have dated them without question.

I hesitate to even admit this because every time this discussion comes up, it is automatically asssumed that I have something against men of other races, but just have specific things I find attractive.