Toys for Christmas right??? Not clothes... vent ahead..

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Oh and you seem like such a peach... maybe you could write a parenting and etiquette book for folks like me who apparently need it ASAP.

Who would have thought that it was a unique and far fetched concept that children get, dare I say "toys" for Christmas.

Or MAYBE...You can understand that if you are going to post a vent like ths in a public forum, that people are going to disagree with you.

You DO come across as ungrateful...Maybe you're not...Maybe you are...I personally don't care...Just saying.

 

[RitaE]

Ahh, another holiday in-law bashing thread.

How refreshing.

With the requisite meltdown as an update.

 

[usnuzuloose]

Ahh, another holiday in-law bashing thread.

How refreshing.

 

[Dee77]

Or MAYBE...You can understand that if you are going to post a vent like ths in a public forum, that people are going to disagree with you.

You DO come across as ungrateful...Maybe you're not...Maybe you are...I personally don't care...Just saying.

Obviously on a public forum there will be a variety of opinions and yes they are expected to be shared on a site like this, calling me or my child ungrateful or saying that I am backpedaling or whatever is just what this thread is bound to bring on but what I do have a problem with is being called "nasty" totally unnecessary.

 

[cornflake]

Oh and you seem like such a peach... maybe you could write a parenting and etiquette book for folks like me who apparently need it ASAP.

Who would have thought that it was a unique and far fetched concept that children get, dare I say "toys" for Christmas.

Well, yes, to many here it is. As many people have the concept that people, including children, get, dare I say, "gifts" for Christmas.

However, if your notion is that kids should get piles of toys and that's that, as it apparently is, then own it.

That's what you said originally, you said you were looking forward to hearing other people's opinions, and when those opinions were largely opposed to yours, you posted a whole thing totally contradicting your original post and basically saying everyone who disagreed with you were unable to understand, didn't get it, were making assumptions, etc., because, apparently, this alternate reality wasn't clear.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Obviously on a public forum there will be a variety of opinions and yes they are expected to be shared on a site like this, calling me or my child ungrateful or saying that I am backpedaling or whatever is just what this thread is bound to bring on but what I do have a problem with is being called "nasty" totally unnecessary.

But you got just as snarky back

 

[Dee77]

But you got just as snarky back

Why yes because I have fingers too and can type just like everyone else.

 

[happygirl]

Tis the season

 

[JaneBanks]

But you got just as snarky back

I don't blame her. Have you read the snark she got? Time and time again I read on here how people can be respectful when they disagree but nobody ever really practices what the preach on here.

 

[Sandy321]

Obviously on a public forum there will be a variety of opinions and yes they are expected to be shared on a site like this, calling me or my child ungrateful or saying that I am backpedaling or whatever is just what this thread is bound to bring on but what I do have a problem with is being called "nasty" totally unnecessary.

sometimes the heat of the moment on an anonymous board gets the better vent, not the reality - and sometimes when you see something like Cornflake put all in one post, you can better reflect on posting...

 

[Planogirl]

I am personally grateful for anything we receive. I used to get some pretty awful clothing items from a few relatives when I was a kid. My parents made it clear that I would be grateful or else! I think that I'm too scared to feel anything but gratitude now.

We also save things until Christmas. To each their own but that's just how we do it.

 

[YodaGirl]

"Tis the season to be jolly..."

Seriously, though, I don't think that I'd have had a problem with that.

In fact, I read the list of presents to my 4 yr old DD (will be 5 on Jan 2). All she could say was, "Wow. Can I have those, too?"

We've taught her to be grateful and appreciative for what she's given. I would be pretty upset if she made a face at a gift. She knows better than that, and honestly, I don't think she's done that in quite some time (think 2-ish). She's been taught that people don't HAVE to get her ANYTHING, and that she should be thankful for what she's given - favorite present, or not.

 

[Dee77]

sometimes the heat of the moment on an anonymous board gets the better vent, not the reality - and sometimes when you see something like Cornflake put all in one post, you can better reflect on posting...

Excuse me but Cornflake said "y'all are nasty" and that is unacceptable, plus many have made it abundantly clear that you feel that I am some kind of a monster and my child is a diva in the making, none of you know me or my child who by the way is very well mannered. We both know that gifts are a blessing and to be appreciated but again as I have said before, I came here to vent about my child's family members getting all practical gifts for her and not a single toy, it seemed odd and a bit ridiculous to me since they clearly spent a good amount of money and yet a puzzle from the $1 store is one of her favorite things to have to keep her busy and entertained.

 

[happygirl]

Excuse me but Cornflake said "y'all are nasty" and that is unacceptable, plus many have made it abundantly clear that you feel that I am some kind of a monster and my child is a diva in the making, none of you know me or my child who by the way is very well mannered. We both know that gifts are a blessing and to be appreciated but again as I have said before, I came here to vent about my child's family members getting all practical gifts for her and not a single toy, it seemed odd and a bit ridiculous to me since they clearly spent a good amount of money and yet a puzzle from the $1 store is one of her favorite things to have to keep her busy and entertained.

I guess they figure it the parents jobs to give her toys. Don't worry about a silly message board. Have a great Christmas.

 

[mickeyboat]

I get it, OP. You figured your in-laws would give your DD some toys, and they didn't. But you do sound ungrateful, and that attitude is going to rub off on your DD.

It's not the end of the world and it's really not worth venting about. It's just they way it is. Teach your DD to be grateful for whatever she receives. I am sure she will be sufficiently spoiled with toys from you, Santa and your family. Her Christmas is not ruined. She will just learn that the gifts from the in-laws will typically be clothes. It's no big deal.

Truth be told, DH and I give clothes to our DDs for Christmas. For many years all the toys and fun stuff came from Santa and the clothes came from Mom and Dad. Since we knew Santa took care of bringing toys, the kids understood that Mom and Dad would get them some things that they needed.

BTW - we generally put gifts that are sent to us under the tree and open them on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. They are few and far between, though.

 

[Mkrop]

Really??- even as a kid we opened them as they came. There was enough under the tree to open on Christmas that we didn't need to add the other gifts under there too. If my daughter gets a package in the mail she opens it as it comes-everyone else I know does it that way too! I never heard people actually put them under the tree for Christmas!




Exactly-if I am buying a gift its going to be something the person really wants-I don't buy a gift just to give something-if that is what someone is doing I would rather they not give at all. I think most kids would have the same reaction as OP's child and it is not because they are spoiled- Christmas is for fun gifts not clothes (unless they are asked for!)--I buy my daughter clothes all through the year as she needs them, they are not gifts-they are just part of raising a child! Geez do you people give underwear and bras as gifts to your kids too????

Sure why not, esp for little ones if it is cool underwear that had Barbie on it, or Spiderman or something. And then for the teens, um definitely when the prices at places like Victoria's Secret and stuff cost so much. I got underwear and bras from VS all the time when I was a teen, I LOVED it!

Oh and you seem like such a peach... maybe you could write a parenting and etiquette book for folks like me who apparently need it ASAP.

Who would have thought that it was a unique and far fetched concept that children get, dare I say "toys" for Christmas.

This is YOUR concept! And as many have pointed out, getting clothes for kids is not that far fetched or unique either. As a kid Grandma got me the cool Jordache jeans I was begging for, or that Benntton shirt that my mom could not justify paying $80 for. Or when I was little that frilly dress that just looked so cool when I spun around.

I have gotten nieces and godchildren clothes (all girls) and I try to buy them from one of the trendy places, they certainly seemed grateful and I always provided gift receipts just in case they had too many purple sweaters or I missed the mark on taste or size.

I could maybe sympathize if your SIL did what my does/did. She want nothing to do with us but sends Christmas gifts...ok, but she has no idea what my kids are into or their sizes. She would send clothes that were way too small bc she refused to ask anybody, and she bought them at the outlets (perfectly fine btw) but she would rip off the tags or not give me agift receipt so I could exchange them for the right size. It was hard one year explaining to DS why he couldnt wear the fire truck tshirt, he loved it, but it was way too small, and the Gap would not let me exchange it bc she bought it at the Outlet and I didnt have a receipt on it.


And my boys have loved clothes more so when they have there favorite team/player or charcter on them.

I also teach my boys to be grateful no matter what, but they have slipped up at times, like saying they already have something but we use that as a teaching moment to try harder next time

 

[gracie1]

 

[YodaGirl]

Excuse me but Cornflake said "y'all are nasty" and that is unacceptable, plus many have made it abundantly clear that you feel that I am some kind of a monster and my child is a diva in the making, none of you know me or my child who by the way is very well mannered. We both know that gifts are a blessing and to be appreciated but again as I have said before, I came here to vent about my child's family members getting all practical gifts for her and not a single toy, it seemed odd and a bit ridiculous to me since they clearly spent a good amount of money and yet a puzzle from the $1 store is one of her favorite things to have to keep her busy and entertained.

Maybe they spent their budget all on clothes that they thought that she would like/look cute in. Just because they aren't toys doesn't mean that she might not like them.

I haven't seen where you mentioned the puzzles before. Do they know that she enjoys inexpensive puzzles from the Dollar Store? An inexpensive puzzle may not have done too much damage to their budget after they purchased the "cute/trendy" clothes.

 

[Jennasis]

Gonna dig me a hole...
(gonna dig me a hole)
Gonna put a post in it...
(gonna put a post in it)

 

[Magic Mom]

Sure why not, esp for little ones if it is cool underwear that had Barbie on it, or Spiderman or something. And then for the teens, um definitely when the prices at places like Victoria's Secret and stuff cost so much. I got underwear and bras from VS all the time when I was a teen, I LOVED it!

DD is getting underwear in her stocking...she always does. She loves it. I think my kids would be disappointed if they didn't get their "practical" gifts in their stockings.

This is YOUR concept! And as many have pointed out, getting clothes for kids is not that far fetched or unique either. As a kid Grandma got me the cool Jordache jeans I was begging for, or that Benntton shirt that my mom could not justify paying $80 for. Or when I was little that frilly dress that just looked so cool when I spun around.

This is true. It's obvious by this that not everyone thinks giving clothes is a heinous crime. Maybe the OP's inlaws see clothes as a fine gift.

I have gotten nieces and godchildren clothes (all girls) and I try to buy them from one of the trendy places, they certainly seemed grateful and I always provided gift receipts just in case they had too many purple sweaters or I missed the mark on taste or size.

I could maybe sympathize if your SIL did what my does/did. She want nothing to do with us but sends Christmas gifts...ok, but she has no idea what my kids are into or their sizes. She would send clothes that were way too small bc she refused to ask anybody, and she bought them at the outlets (perfectly fine btw) but she would rip off the tags or not give me agift receipt so I could exchange them for the right size. It was hard one year explaining to DS why he couldnt wear the fire truck tshirt, he loved it, but it was way too small, and the Gap would not let me exchange it bc she bought it at the Outlet and I didnt have a receipt on it.


And my boys have loved clothes more so when they have there favorite team/player or charcter on them.

I also teach my boys to be grateful no matter what, but they have slipped up at times, like saying they already have something but we use that as a teaching moment to try harder next time