Too many funerals.....

[Bornteach]

I have no idea if this will make me feel better or not....but I think it is worth getting it out.....


Ask any parent and they will tell you, the worst thing that can ever happen is to lose a child.....it is unthinkable......

I help run a large elementary school, and even though many of them are older than me, I tend to "mother" them. I care about them, I enjoy what is going on in their lives....I know their children's names, I know their husbands/wives/S.O.'s names. I know their stories.....

One of them....one of my great staff members, died today. She was 54................................


She found out in August that she had pancreatic cancer, it was looking ok there for awhile.....

It went downhill fast......

Last Monday we all got together in the staff room and sang about her as she could not make the tribute we planned. We filmed it and brought it to her to see. She could not speak but that smile was the same.

Today, I had to call my staff and tell them she was gone.


I am devastated for them, me, the district. THis was a smart lady who knew her stuff. She was highly respected, she worked as she lived...wide and full of energy. I can't believe she is really gone.....


A week ago yesterday, we said goodbye to my grandmother who never recovered from a surgery last June. She was 84 and independent until a mistake took her from us....

And all of this brings up (does it for everyone else too?) the worst loss I have ever suffered and I end up feeling guilty that I think of my Mom and miss her the most. I just want her to tell me it will all be ok. I am 40 years old, and I want my mother who I can never have again.....

Wow, today is kinda yuckie.................

RIP Bette, we will miss you always!!! You made a difference....

 

[Willow1213]

Prayers to you and your entire school community.

 

[Applemomma]

Don't know what to say except I'm sorry .....

 

[DVCsince02]

I'm not your Mom, but I am one so I send you my love and hugs. These events teach us that each day is a gift.

 

[kab407]

 

[ckdsnynt]

My preayers and sympathies to you and your staff.

 

[UrsulasShadow]

Some periods of our lives are just overwhelming, and we wish we had those people who offered us the most comfort in our youth. Sometimes it stinks to be the grownup.

 

[AnneR]

There are never words for times like this.

 

[robind]

And all of this brings up (does it for everyone else too?) the worst loss I have ever suffered and I end up feeling guilty that I think of my Mom and miss her the most. I just want her to tell me it will all be ok. I am 40 years old, and I want my mother who I can never have again.....

Wow, today is kinda yuckie.................

Don't feel guilty, I lost my mom, about a year and a half ago, and I feel the same thing almost everyday, still. Holiday's are the worst, and even though I spent the day with extended family it was still kinda yuckie.

 

[DisneyKevin]

My mom and I had a disagreement this morning over something stupid.

We've spent the day in our own houses not talking and, as she lives across the street...we usually talk several times a day.

Reading this thread made me realize exactly how dumb this is. I dont know if she was right or I was right, but in the grand scheme, it doesnt matter

I just walked across the street....apologized...and gave her a hug.

When Bob passed, I suggested that every tell those they love how much they love them.

Today I didnt take my own advice and you all have shown me how dumb I can be. Thank you for that.

I'm sorry anyone has to feel this kind of loss.

 

[ADP]

I'm so sorry Bornteach. Prayers and sympathies to you, the families, and the school system.

Kevin...You have provided us with the best possible advice. It's made a difference in my life since you brought it up over a year ago. For that I Thank You.

 

[jewjubean]

I'm sorry....:*(
We just buried a great friend that I worked with for almost 3 years. It was hard because it happened on April fools day...imagine having to tell everyone that. My prayers are with you and your school.

 

[Whipperwhirl]

You are absolutely right Kevin.

Big Huggs Bornteach!

 

[YellowMickeyPonchos]

I buried my mom 3 weeks ago. I didn't talk about it much at all on the boards, cause I really didn't know what to say. I do understand your perspective on losing parents young - I'm 42. Bless you Kevin, you made me start crying again.... You are a good man.

I spent Easter, today, with her favorite cousins, who live out here in Orange County and who immediately started inviting me to have holidays with them when I moved out here in 2000. Her favorite cousin - cried her grief about my mother when I hugged her before going home. It ripped my heart out, as she is suffering from Parkinsons and doesn't have very much time left either.

Take comfort. We all have to and this is just the start of the passing years for all of us. It will be very real as the next few go on. A painful part of life, but also, as Kevin indicated, a reminder to cherish those we have and the time we have with them.

 

[IWISHFORDISNEY]

I have suffered alot of losses in my very short life too. I have lost all my grandparents, my mom and dad. All I have left of my family is my sister brother and now one aunt. Both my uncles and my great aunt died last week. It is so very hard to deal with sometimes. The greatest losses I have suffered are that of my mom. Because you only have one mom in life who loves you unconditionally. I wish she could have met my son. What I would give to have just 10 minutes with her again. The other greatest loss was that of my 4 year old neice. She was killed by a drunk driver. Some things are just uncomprehendable. So yes. Always be grateful for the time you are given. Life is to short. Hugs to you. I hope things improve. I too just visited my coworker in the hospital today. Whe is also dying. She has non-Hodgkins lymphoma. It was so sad to see her today. She looks like she escaped from a concentration camp. 3 months ago she was vibrant happy and a totally different person. They think she caught it from inhaling the stuff on 9/11; she was a paramedic in the city at the time. We are praying for her every day she has 2 young children. Our thoughts and prayers are with you also today.

 

[Madi100]

I am so sorry for the loss that you are dealing with. I have been very fortunate in my life that I have not lost many people close to me. I lost 2 grandparents when I was young and that's it. Kevin makes a good point that we should take advantage of every day to tell our loved ones how special they are to us.

 

[ms*mountaineer]

I am also sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 1993 and I still miss her so terribly. I wish she could have seen her granddaughters.

I lost my best friend in a car accident last summer. She was only 38. I miss her everytime I go shopping alone and the smell of a Starbucks will bring me to tears - just thinking of the things we did together.

Please tell the ones you love how important they are to you! (Kevin, I'm glad you hugged your mom!)

 

[simonkodousek]

I feel your pain. My second grade teacher passed away from leukemia only a few months after school ended. She was a fantastic teacher, not to mention an amazing woman who was always there to lend a helping hand. She never expected anything in return, and finding people like that is very rare in the world we live in. She and my mom were great friends and luckily I got to see her often before she passed.

I know this statement is a bit old and maybe overused, but I 100% believe that we shouldn't focus on the deaths of the ones we love, but rather cherish and enjoy every second we have with them for they will always be in our hearts and minds.

Good thoughts, prayers, and pixiedust...

~Simon

 

[miss missy]

 

[Yvet]

to everybody...