I am having a little dilemma and I am hoping that you other Disney brides may be able to help. DF and I are writing our own vows. He wants us to share the vows with each other before the ceremony. He is thinking that it would be good to make sure that the vows are consistant, in length and concept. Apparently he read some horror stories online about couples who had completely different themes to their vows. Okay, I understand that. But I think of the vows as a gift. I think it would be great to share them with each other for the first time at the ceremony, in front of our family and friends. I am fine with discussing length ahead of time, but I am not convinced that the vows will be as emotional if we know exactly what is going to be said. What do you think? Did anyone else write their own vows? Did you share them ahead of time?