This old lady at Ikea went off on my kid today.

[luvmy3]

The kid was ignoring her mother so she wasn't being effective.

But what makes that the business of a stranger?

 

[npmommie]

I did punish her. She wasn't allowed to do anything when we got home. No TV, no toys, no computer. The only thing she was allowed to do was have plain paper and colors. That was it. Then she went to bed an hour and half earlier than on a school day, when she was so excited about not going to bed at 8, but at 9 b/c she is out of school for the week. She was in bed at 6:30.

Was I supposed to reach back and beat her all the way up I-75?

Should I have snatched the roll of paper and start whacking her with it so that all the other parents and the old codger would applaud my behavior?

I didn't laugh.. . NOT ONCE.. while we were in the store. I was mad as hell. I didn't have to be mad as hell, though. I did have to be mad as hell for her being rude to the old lady after the lady escalated it to that point. Before that, I was just irritated that she wasn't listening.

I have never in my life seen a bunch of women twist and turn a story to suit them so much in my life. I'd say y'all are bored, but obviously I'm here too, and well... Go Team Codger.

but you kept her in the store 2 hours. ANY 6 yo is going to get antsy, and bored, and honestly, I don't see what she did ( twirling paper you were buying ) as all that bad.
but thats just me.
It wasn't a battle I would have chosen because honestly like i said she did 2 hours shopping and that is the worst thing she did?? not bad.
even I don't like being in 1 store 2 hours and I am a grownup

 

[luvsJack]

No one is ignoring this, because it didn't happen. The mother corrected her child twice. Both times she was ignored and the child continued to do whatever she wanted. If mom was handling it, the behavior would have stopped. The child had no business twirling or throwing around wrapping paper. Just like children have no business riding bicycles around in Toys R Us while their parents shop, even if they aren't running people over.

She told her twice to stop and then either said she did or was in the process of taking the paper away from the child. This is taking care of it. It may not be what some here say they would do (and I am sorry, I find a very hard time believing that everyone here would do what they are saying every time, but whatever) but it was what she was doing.

The fact of the matter is, the Op did not post asking for parenting advice. She was shocked about what the woman said and did, and that is what she was asking about.

As I have said before, if the woman had said or done something HELPFUL, it would be different. She didn't, she only added to the situation.

 

[focusondisney]

I plan on going to Disney in a few weeks and raising hell at every kid that isn't listening to their parents, and wearing a lime green tshirt that says "The Dis'ers say it's A-OK" on the front and "GO TEAM CODGER" on the back.

I'll be there at the same time. Glad to know someone will be controlling all those unruly kids! I'll be on the look out for you, I'll know you by the shirt!!!!

 

[glitterkittyy]

But what makes that the business of a stranger?

The kid's behavior was impacting others. If the mom doesn't do something to stop it, the woman has the right to speak up. Of course the OP has the right to like it or not. I think we know her choice.

ETA: I know the OP tried to stop it, and I commend her for that. But trying and succeeding is what I'm talking about.

 

[luvmy3]

Nah, that's reserved for the kids with the high pitched squealing. You know the ones.


I kid, I kid.

Oh yes, those darn Walmart shoppers


Disclaimer: This is not directed at any one person who shops at Walmrt in particular

 

[Stitchfans]

Only read the first page, but the first thing that pops into my head is why didn't the OP just take the roll of wrapping paper away from her DD since her DD had a problem listening? That is the first thing I would of done. Without the paper to toss around, there is no problem. Problem, solved.

 

[glitterkittyy]

Oh yes, those darn Walmart shoppers


Disclaimer: This is not directed at any one person who shops at Walmrt in particular

Not just the ones with screeching kids!

 

[PrincessKsMom]

She told her twice to stop and then either said she did or was in the process of taking the paper away from the child. This is taking care of it. It may not be what some here say they would do (and I am sorry, I find a very hard time believing that everyone here would do what they are saying every time, but whatever) but it was what she was doing.

The fact of the matter is, the Op did not post asking for parenting advice. She was shocked about what the woman said and did, and that is what she was asking about.

As I have said before, if the woman had said or done something HELPFUL, it would be different. She didn't, she only added to the situation.

OP didn't ask for parenting advice, but I think she found out not everyone agrees that the older woman was such a cranky codger.

I'm confused. Do you want the woman to mind her own business? And it's okay NOT to mind your own business if you're helpful, but please DO mind your own business if you're not being helpful? Can't have it both ways. It's either everyone elses business or it's not.

 

[luvmy3]

I'll mind my own business when your (not you, the general you) child's behavior stops interfering with my day. My kids won't bother you so I'd appreciate the same from yours.

So when you are out and a person is doing something that isn't even directed at/to you, you feel its appropriate to but your nose in their business if its *interfering* with your day?
Wow, talk about that entitlement mentality

ETA, You know I'm kidding, well at least half kidding

 

[crazee4mickey]

I did punish her. She wasn't allowed to do anything when we got home. No TV, no toys, no computer. The only thing she was allowed to do was have plain paper and colors. That was it. Then she went to bed an hour and half earlier than on a school day, when she was so excited about not going to bed at 8, but at 9 b/c she is out of school for the week. She was in bed at 6:30.

Was I supposed to reach back and beat her all the way up I-75?

Should I have snatched the roll of paper and start whacking her with it so that all the other parents and the old codger would applaud my behavior?
I didn't laugh.. . NOT ONCE.. while we were in the store. I was mad as hell. I didn't have to be mad as hell, though. I did have to be mad as hell for her being rude to the old lady after the lady escalated it to that point. Before that, I was just irritated that she wasn't listening.

I have never in my life seen a bunch of women twist and turn a story to suit them so much in my life. I'd say y'all are bored, but obviously I'm here too, and well... Go Team Codger.

That would have been a start...see I also know sarcasm!

Twist a story...no you told a story and didn't like the responses you received so it has agitated you because the majority felt from what you said the situation was handled poorly.

Glad to hear there were consequences at home but that still doesn't teach her that she can't act that way in public.

It sounds more and more to me like you really didn't want to embarrass yourself by enforcing your authority in public so you allowed your child to not listen and do whatever she wanted and expected others to tolerate it.

Well, I guess on this particular day, someone got fed up with another parent allowing poor behaviour and stood up to it. I would take that as a start......

 

[glitterkittyy]

So when you are out and a person is doing something that isn't even directed at/to you, you feel its appropriate to but your nose in their business if its *interfering* with your day?
Wow, talk about that entitlement mentality

ETA, You know I'm kidding, well at least half kidding

Sorry, did you forget who it's all about?

 

[hegsag]

Only read the first page, but the first thing that pops into my head is why didn't the OP just take the roll of wrapping paper away from her DD since her DD had a problem listening? That is the first thing I would of done. Without the paper to toss around, there is no problem. Problem, solved.

That's exactly what I would have done - problem solved!

 

[ogreenlee]

OP didn't ask for parenting advice, but I think she found out not everyone agrees that the older woman was such a cranky codger.

I'm confused. Do you want the woman to mind her own business? And it's okay NOT to mind your own business if you're helpful, but please DO mind your own business if you're not being helpful? Can't have it both ways. It's either everyone elses business or it's not.

Commenting and raising hell are two different things. Can you not, at least, agree on that, or do you just like to be contrary?

 

[PrincessKsMom]

So when you are out and a person is doing something that isn't even directed at/to you, you feel its appropriate to but your nose in their business if its *interfering* with your day?
Wow, talk about that entitlement mentality

So if you're not paying attention and your child is about to knock over a display, would you like me to mind my own business?

If your child is running in the street, would you like me to mind my own business?

If your child is about to fall into a swimming pool, would you like me to mind my own business?

If I find out your child is being bullied, would you like me to mind my own business?

Your daughter is now a teenager, and she's about to knock you on your butt, would you like me to mind my own business?


None of these would technically be my business, but I would hope someone would step in and do the right thing. Unfortunately, you can't pick and chose when someone steps in and realistically, if you had a problem with the older woman, you should have said something to her. If you think you're right, why didn't you stand up for your child?

 

[glitterkittyy]

Commenting and raising hell are two different things. Can you not, at least, agree on that, or do you just like to be contrary?

Wait, who are you saying raised hell? The lady in Ikea?

I like being contrary very much.

 

[Scurvy]

when she's good... she's really good.

But when she's bad, she's horrid?

Sorry, I couldn't resist.

 

[ogreenlee]

So if you're not paying attention and your child is about to knock over a display, would you like me to mind my own business?

If your child is running in the street, would you like me to mind my own business?

If your child is about to fall into a swimming pool, would you like me to mind my own business?

If I find out your child is being bullied, would you like me to mind my own business?

Your daughter is now a teenager, and she's about to knock you on your butt, would you like me to mind my own business?


None of these would technically be my business, but I would hope someone would step in and do the right thing. Unfortunately, you can't pick and chose when someone steps in and realistically, if you had a problem with the older woman, you should have said something to her. If you think you're right, why didn't you stand up for your child?

Would you put your meanly raised voice on and scold a 6 year old in front of her mom? PLEASE tell me you would.

 

[ogreenlee]

Wait, who are you saying raised hell? The lady in Ikea?

I like being contrary very much.

Yes, the old codger wasn't politely saying something to my kid. She raised hell at her.

But when she's bad, she's horrid?

Sorry, I couldn't resist.

I won't lie. Heck yeah, she is.

 

[glitterkittyy]

Yes, the old codger wasn't politely saying something to my kid. She raised hell at her.

So was her tone rude or was she screaming at her? I'm just trying to understand what your definition of "raised hell" is. If she was a radio dial from 1 to 10 with 10 being the loudest, what was the codger's setting?