The words, "Baby Mama," and "Baby Daddy," what do they mean to you?

[ksjayhawks]

Baby daddy or baby mama refers to the person you had sex with and the result was a child. There is no relationship with the person except for having a child in common. There usually is no love lost between them and often the other person is absent from the child's life.

 

[PollyannaMom]

It does call up a negative connotation for me. I get that it means "other of two parents not together" but to me it just sounds too...casual? flippant?...I don't know, something. It feels to me almost as if the child isn't being taken seriously.

 

[Tiffylv]

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[tvguy]

I only hear Baby Mom and Baby dad on after court shows and Jerry Springer. Never hear a person I actually know use that term. Actually, and not that this is any better term, the people I am around who have children out of wedlock seem to use the term "biological father" and "biological mother"

 

[tzolkin]

I only hear Baby Mom and Baby dad on after court shows and Jerry Springer. Never hear a person I actually know use that term. Actually, and not that this is any better term, the people I am around who have children out of wedlock seem to use the term "biological father" and "biological mother"

I don't see how "biological father/mother" would be viewed as a negative term like "baby daddy".

Isn't that an accurate descriptor for a biological parent?

Maybe I'm missing something in your post

 

[diz8297]

I think it's trashy, and a flippant way to identify a biological parent

 

[lauradis]

Not to hi-jack the original purpose of the thread but:

I jokingly asked DH if he would switch with me and be the pregnant one when we go to Disney in a few weeks so that I could ride some rides and have some cocktails. He said "that would be so unfair." Then I asked him what he thought the other 39 weeks were and he didn't really have an answer . Alas WE can never be pregnant.

I actually heard a man the other day say "WE are breastfeeding." I've gotten used to the "we're pregnant" thing by now even though it still irritates me, but that took the cake.

I find it sweet and endearing when a man say "We", even if they aren't doing " it".. Its a frame of mind to them in speech form.

OP I think "baby daddy" is used in a negative way, which is sad. When I hear it sometimes it makes me want to hit the person saying it.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

To me it means the baby's father or mother that were never married and have no intention of marriage.

 

[Keli]

I take that term to mean I slept with someone I had zero commitment to and the result is my baby. Whether that's accurate or not that's how it comes across to me. And it has a negative connotation, sleezy.

But I most often hear people using it in jest. Like my husband of 30+ years who makes a lot more than I do referring to me as his 'sugar mama' just because he thinks it's hilarious, lol.

 

[aprilgail]

It might be more mainstream, but that doesn't make it positive. Would you apply for a job or college scholarship and say "here is a letter of recommendation from my babydaddy and another from my homie"?

Love it! I think people who use that phrase are people you would see on Maury or Jerry Springer.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I find it to be (for lack of a better word) trashy. It makes me think of Maury guests.

 

[eliza61]

I think it's trashy, and a flippant way to identify a biological parent

And what's wrong with that?

Sorry but some parents are most definitely trashy and flippant. I don't understand giving some one a name of honor, when they are the antithesis of that word. Why call someone a "father" when they are anything but. lol.

Would saying Low life, scum bucket, no good, self serving, absentee biological father be less flippant.

 

[JanaDee]

And what's wrong with that?

Sorry but some parents are most definitely trashy and flippant. I don't understand giving some one a name of honor, when they are the antithesis of that word. Why call someone a "father" when they are anything but. lol.

Would saying Low life, scum bucket, no good, self serving, absentee biological father be less flippant.

I think what most people are saying is those that use the words baby mama or baby daddy are trashy.

 

[Tiffylv]

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[undertheradar]

The only thing I conclude from it is another drain on public assistance. May not be the case for all, but what a negative connotation for the child.

 

[eliza61]

I get it....as I mentioned up thread my son's father had his rights terminated when my son was a year old and he has had no contact since. But I still don't use the term baby daddy. Instead I say my son's father. Do I think he deserves that title? No. But I still say it because do his trashy actions say anything about my son or I? No. We are doing just fine without him and will continue to do so. His actions have been deplorable but that doesn't make my son any less and I really don't like the connotation that the term baby daddy brings to me and especially my son.

Oh, that's a different take. around here it doesn't have any connotation to the child at all. I've heard some of my son's friends (young adults) refer to their deadbeat dads as either the "sperm donor" or the ex "baby daddy, they don't sugar coat it or try to make it nice. If the father (usually the father) is a low life, that's exactly what they call him. My niece does not ever, ever use the word "father or dad" in relation with her biological dad. She call's him "the shadow" or "the waste of air".

So around here it's definitely all about the crappy parent.

 

[spima3]

Oh, that's a different take. around here it doesn't have any connotation to the child at all. I've heard some of my son's friends (young adults) refer to their deadbeat dads as either the "sperm donor" or the ex "baby daddy, they don't sugar coat it or try to make it nice. If the father (usually the father) is a low life, that's exactly what they call him. My niece does not ever, ever use the word "father or dad" in relation with her biological dad. She call's him "the shadow" or "the waste of air".
So around here it's definitely all about the crappy parent.

Yeah, same here. It's more about the trashy behavior of the parent(s) than it is about the child.

 

[Tuffcookie]

I find the ones that use it are using it in a way to put the biological parent down. In actuality, it is a poor reflection of them and tells me they are not very discriminating in their choice of who they have sex with and are too lazy to take precautions!

 

[TLSnell1981]

I hear it used jokingly by long term/married couples. I don't think about it in a negative way. Does that make me trashy?

 

[Turn the Page]

I find the ones that use it are using it in a way to put the biological parent down. In actuality, it is a poor reflection of them and tells me they are not very discriminating in their choice of who they have sex with and are too lazy to take precautions!

To the bolded, easy now. You know that is not always the case. No birth control method, barring abstinence of course, is 100% effective.