Hi everyone,
I've noticed that quite a few mothers from this board are concerned about Tess and I,
so I suppose that maybe I should begin posting again. While I was 'away' I lurked the
board a little but not everyday so I don't know what is going on. However like Tasha,
I probably won't be posting much as I have an 18 unit course load this coming semester
and I know I am going to have butt-loads of homework. Although the good news is that
I will only be in class twice a week, granted it is all day from 8am - 8pm.
Since I have classes twice a week, obviously little Miss Tess, also known as the crapulator
and destructo (I'll explain later) needs daycare twice a week. I've looked at several schools
and so far I haven't found one, they are horrible. I don't know if I am judging to difficult or
if they really just suck that bad. One school I looked at had ages 1-5, all in different rooms and
for the 2 year old room if Tess were to attend would make 11 kids (9boys) with 1 teacher. The two year
old playground outside is located next to another wire fence where there are goats and chickens, the teacher
said the animals are friendly. I can just imagine Tess getting her little fingers chewed off. Loretta, PM or Call
me and I will tell you where the school is! I went to another school and one of the teachers told the kid to get
their @ss back on there cot, if a teacher will say that in front of a 'parent' thinking about sending their kid
there, I can only imagine what they do when no parents are there. Two other schools didn't want to even show me the
school because, I am assuming Tess would throw off the 'balance' of the school because they didn't have a single
ethnic kid. So that is my search so far, I must find a school that has an opening next week because school starts
and if I miss the 1st day of classes I'm going to get dropped.
Tess has been doing better since I last posted, thank goodness! She is starting to say please and thank you. She isn't
doing as much back talk, and she is learning that certain behaviors cause her to get sent to the corner or her room
and she doesn't like that, so she tries to do better. Of course she still throws things at me or the pets out of frustration
DP was finally able to notice some of the behavior that I was talking about, so she/we will be making an appointment in the
near future for her to see someone about her anger issue. Her father has serious anger problems, so we think it's a good
idea.
Her new behavior is taking her poop out of the diaper and smearing it on the walls or the floor. She has done it several
times. For instance yesterday I was on the phone with my school, the phone call was less than 10 minutes, she was sitting
less than 15 feet away from me and I thought she was playing with her thigh (she does this a lot) but she was really removing
a turd of poop from her diaper hiding it under a table. She does not like soiled diapers, she thinks that it is bad and she
will get sent back to her Mommy S. and she says that Mommy S. does not love her and is mean to her. How does a 2 year old
know this.
Lately Tess has been going to nap and bedtime without a fight, however the last couple days when I put her down for nap
she sneaks out of her bed and plays instead and then around 5pm she is sleepy but I don't get her go to sleep that late
because she would wake up at some odd hour, so the last couple days I have removed every single toy from her room in an
attempt for her to nap but still no luck, she just talks to herself. So it looks like she is trying to change her nap time
from noon to 3. I really don't want her to nap at 3 considering that she goes to sleep at 8 and wakes up at 6. I know she
isn't ready to give up naps as she is still super tired later in the day.
I normally take Tess to the community park every day unless it is raining or something, I usually go at a weird time as
to avoid other kids because I didn't want her to harm anyone else's kid. However, the other day when I took her there were 5 other
families there and she was nice to 4 of the families, the 5th one as they were talking into the park she said my park go home
so I told her that wasn't nice. We also took her out to eat for the first time 2 days ago, Red Lobster and she shocked the crap
out of us! She was so good, she got her drink and drank some of it and then ate biscuits and then her apple sauce and then our
salads, by the time our real food came she was ready to leave so we had our food packed and left. We were so happy that she
didn't have a break down!
I'm starting to get used to having a kid in the house. It was a huge adjustment for both of us. We both got frustrated and I
had unreasonably high expectations of how she should act. Now that I've thrown that out of the window things are better. My only
main concern is that when we are walking she doesn't want to hold my hand outside, she wants to do what SHE wants to do, the other
day she yanked her hand from me and was going to fall and I was trying to save her from the fall and ended up falling myself, I
guess some kind of instinct kicked in or something. We really need to go ahead and get her a stroller, for her safety and our
sanity. Only thing is DP is still determined to get a jogging stroller and I want a regular stroller. Jogging strollers are so
heavy and they are more difficult to maneuver.
The bad news, she is still 'stuck' on the doodlebops, the other day she told me she didn't want Dora on her bed, she wants Moe
and she says for her birthday cake she wants doodlebops. She keeps talking about her birthday and christmas and getting presents. She doesn't even have friends yet to have a birthday party.
I'm trying to get her to like other shows so we can ditch the doodlebops, I have every episode recorded on Tivo since she has
been here. She likes Mickey Mouse Club house, Jojo's circus, blues clues, the wiggles and little einstines, but she still
request the doodlebops. I think we are going to be stuck with that show for a while.
Well, I better get going, she is watching Jojo's right now and they are talking about popcorn and now she is asking me for
popcorn, but little does she know that she isn't getting any.
I hope everyone has a great weekend.
Thanks for sending out that Gymbuck. 
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