The Official New Mom Thread Part 2

[DisKim]

FF - I'm really sorry your DH said that to you . Sometimes people say things without thinking about how hurtful it is. I'm sure he doesn't really believe what he said. Could he be stressed out at work? I know that work stress affects my attitude when I come home and I do have a tendency to take it out on DH because he is "safe".

SL - Good luck with your class tonight!

 

[tkyes]

ff - I'm so sorry I hope he apoligizes and you guys are able to talk things out.

sl - oops! Dh did that all the time when he was in school. He would realize he was supposed to do something the night before class! Woo hoo on booking the trip!

glt - I hope school can help your daughter work through her phobia.

bellacam - I have no experience with the prozac, but good for you for getting some help. You've had a rough pregnancy and a rough time with Bailey being sick, it's understandable. We're all here for you.


Thanks for the advice on the disciplining, I'm glad to know I'm not alone. We do the step - timeout thing, just to remove him from the situtation and get him to look us in the eye. He sits there for a minute or so, nothing too long. I know he doesn't get it yet.

He has a cold and hasn't been sleeping as many hours as he should. I'm sure his tiredness isn't helping his mood. We put him to bed a half an hour early last night and he slept 45 minutes later than he has the past few days. Hopefully that helps.

I need to get going and clean my mom's house and then go workout today. My girlfriend offered to do my hair for me (she's a stylist, but works out of her home). It won't be nearly as relaxing, but it will be MUCH cheaper! That's ok, saving $60 is soothing too

Have a great day everyone - sorry I babbled so much about my monster child!

tamie

 

[zalansky]

Good morning everybody....

FF - for you. I hate that feeling of being upset and not able to sleep. Did you and DH resolve things before he left today? Assuming he is not off work today. I hope so!

diskim - are you home today?

Bellacam - I don't think I've had PPD but I tell you, at time I wondered over the past year with my sleeping problems. I do know several friends who have taken something to help out and always told me not to discredit PPD, that it could get worse without treatment. I also know I felt overwhelmed when I went from one child to two. Hugs to you too.

Robin has inspired me so I am going to try and list some Gymbo things today. Or tomorrow and at least get photos done today.

I will check in again later. Probably sooner than later!

 

[justhat]

Last night was busier than I thought so I never got a chance to come back on. I hear Henry waking up so I probably won't get to much now either. The kid needs to consolidate at least 2 naps a day, these 30 minute naps are killing me cause it's not enough time to get anything productive done.

Bellacam - I didn't have any PPD, but my friend whose kids are about the same age apart as yours had it and went on medication. She said it made her feel like a new person and she was actually able to care for her kids and not feel constantly drained and depressed. I say to do whatever works cause having 2 young kids can be quite the challenge on the best of days.

FF - Sorry to hear about your husband. Sometimes I don't think men realize that what they say is hurtful. And that they just plain don't think lots of the time. I hope things are much better for you today.

Like I thought I wouldn't have much time as Henry's babbling is quickly turning angry. Be back later.

 

[nucpharm29]

Hey all--drive by from me! Just wanted to say that Alice you inspired me to finally list some stuff on Ebay--I went rumaging through closets and found loads of summer boy stuff--now for the girls--I might list some of the gymbo stuff I bought for Emma last year for this summer, so I can get some of the cute stuff they have right now.

bellacam--please, don't ever feel bad about having to take medication to make the mommy better. All I'll say (pharmacist speaking) don't abrubtly stop taking the Prozac for any reason--can have some devasting side effects (mostly mental) and we don't you worse off. Also, if you have any disturbing thoughts of any kind while on the medication let your Dr. know immediately, but once again don't just stop taking it! Now that I'm off my soap box, I hope you feel much better soon. You can come and talk with us anytime

glt--sorry didn't make it to the PO yesterday--I hope to get that package out today--might not be wrapped though, sorry!

ff--Hugs to you! I hope you are feeling better and that you and DH patched things up.

justhat--Wow on the PO experience--I would definitely try to report them to somebody in management and never go to that location again. Some people!!

Okay, really must go! Got tons of errands to do today! Will catch up better later!

 

[floridafam]

DH came home to talk and I just couldn't stand the idea of talking to him so Kona and I left and went to the grocery store. I called him earlier and told him how upset I was and he said that's not what he meant and he had no idea why I was upset.

Excuse me? It's one of the most hurtful things he has ever said to me. I don't know if it was because of the fact that he picked up his bike yesterday or what.

They had a great pair of bike shoes on sale for $100 off and he called me from the place to ask if we had enough money to get them. Well, yah, but I might have to cancel my facial and pedicure this Saturday.

I was so ticked I threw his new bike shoes outside.

Will someone please tell me how cancelling something I had planned so he can have something he wants is selfish?

He left a note to call him when I got home but I just can't. I'm so upset that I just threw up. It takes a lot for me to do that.

I don't even want to see him tonight. I don't think I have ever been this upset.

 

[Alice28]

FF- I'm so sorry your DH said that to you last night. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you like that. I know DH and I are both guilty of saying some pretty hurtful things to each other without even thinking about what is coming out of our mouths. Were you able to resolve anything this morning?

Tamie- I agree with Kim that this age is the HARDEST to try and discipline. It's all will-power and no understanding on their part. After they turn 2 it gets a little easier because they can understand you and you can negociate a little bit. I remember talking Sam into throwing his bottle away at Target when he was 2.5. He couldn't have done it any earlier and understood the concept. But I had told him a few days earlier that if he gave up his Bottle forever, I would buy him this Toy Story toy he wanted sooooo badly. We get to Target, Baba in hand, he sees the toy, looks at his baba, asks where a garbage can was, chucks it, and runs over to the toy. And that was that. No way could he have done that before 2.....I was just giving that as an example of how you can kind of negociate with them....but at this age of 18-24 months....forget it.

SL- YIKES about forgetting to print those things up, etc! That is a recurrent nightmare I have- that I am back in school and all of a sudden it's finals and I forgot the term paper, forgot to study, forgot to show up to class all semester! Not that you're going to do that, but it just made me chuckle a little bit. I'm sure the class will go well and you'll be an A student.

I am waiting for the UPS truck to come....it has a bunch of nice shampoos I ordered from drugstore.com with my Christmas money. I don't want to wash my hair one more day with my el cheapo shampoo. I need a cut and color soooo badly, but can only afford the cut the next 3 weeks. I guess I should just do it, and then schedule the color for late January. I prefer to get it all done at once, but at least this way I can write a $30 check and then a $55-60 check at different times instead of $100 all at once. Makes budgeting easier. Have any of you who get your hair colored in a salon tried the root touch up stuff you can buy at the store for in between colors? My whole hair doesn't need the colors, but the grays are starting to be obvious at the roots. I just don't want my stylist to get that 'look' when he realizes I colored my own hair.

Well, it will be my turn at the PO today. I hope they aren't grumpy or the lines aren't long! All but 2 of my payments came in, so I have several packages to mail! Yikes!

 

[DisKim]

Aidan is finally napping and I should be cleaning but I really don't feel like it. I've been working on making this short Disney trip happen in May. It looks like we will only be able to stay for 3 days. I'm going to try to question Alex on his favorite places to go so I can plan better. I was actually thinking of taking them to Sea World. They always ask me to go and I refuse because we always have these great Disney package deals. That would leave only 2 days for Disney parks. My mom thinks she can get a suite for free at the Mariott World Center. I can't argue with a free room. I checked out the website and it is really nice and only 6 miles from all the parks. I really wish we could get down there earlier so we had more time. I guess I'll take what I can get.

To all you Disney planners - What do you think would be a good place to celebrate the boys' birthdays. I was thinking the Ohana character breakfast because Alex loves Lilo and Stitch. He doesn't care for the Pooh characters so CP is out. Chef Mickey's might be a good choice but I hate their dinner. Any ideas??? We did 1900 Park Faire for Emmy's birthday and it was really nice but I don't think Alex was so thrilled with it.

FF - Oh my goodness, I feel so bad for you. I would be very upset too. Give yourself some time but I think you will feel better after you talk to him. I hope everything works out and that you feel better soon.

 

[floridafam]

DisKim,

I have heard some pretty good things about SeaWorld and we always have a good stay at Marriotts so I say go for it.

When in May are you going?



Thanks for the well wishes everyone. Usually, things just go by the wayside and we make up but I'm just too upset to even think about that right now.

 

[Alice28]

Kim- I think 'Ohana for breakfast would be great! I've been contemplating it, but my boys aren't big breakfast eaters so it seems a waste of money if all they're going to eat is a croissant and some fruit. Stitch is fun~ or what about that Donald's Breakfastosaurus in AK? That might be a good one if you wanted to go to AK one of the days.

We went to SeaWorld in San Diego with the kids in June. It was OK. I think Sam liked it, Josh thought it was so-so. Maybe your kids are more animal lovers than mine are. I do know that both DH and I felt at the end of our stay that we were glad we didn't spend $50 each to go (we got tix for free with the military- Busch treats the military well!) as we mostly just saw 3-4 shows and Sam and Bob went on two of the rides, and then we left. HOWEVER, if your kids have been clamoring to go, I definitely think Emmy is the perfect age for it. I remember going when I was 12 and just being ENCHANTED with the dolphins and whales. That Marriott looks very nice as well!

FF- I'm so sorry you are still feeling upset. I have had those days too, where I just cry most of the day cause I think my DH is such an a$$. And then we work it out, and 24-36 hours later, all is well....at least for 4-6 months until the next 'words' are said.

Well, I need to hop in the shower. I'm a tad nervous because I put a set of Circulon pans up for sale on Craigslist (too heavy to ship for ebay). Someone is coming to my house later today to get them. I'm going to call my neighbor and ask her just to be on 'alert'. I think it's a woman coming, but I just get nervous to give a stranger my address. We've done it several times before, with our cars and other baby items I have put on Craigs...Anyway, if she buys them, it's another $40 for my fund. I just found them incredibly hard to clean...one pan is in pretty sad shape, but I noted that in the listing- I'm sure someone with more patience and elbow grease than I have can whip it into shape.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Good afternoon all! The gods have smiled, and I have a clean house and two sleeping kids! I better not get used to this...

Robin--WTG on the e-Bay stuff! I haven't bought on e-Bay in forever, my Paypal doesn't work from our computer for some reason, so I have to go to the library, and it's just a pain. It's great that you'll have some extra $$ for your trip--always feels good!

FF--Sorry about the stuff with yoru DH. I think they always try to make you think "it's about you". DH and I had a blow-up last week--it seems he couldn't work on getting Luke to sleep through the night, because he was too busy surfing shortskirts.com on the 'net, or some such! I reamed him a new one on that--perhaps he get more real if he let me get a good night's sleep?!?! But no, somehow the surfing was doing me some kind of favor. I'm not sure what. Men are just jerks sometimes. Of course, now DH thinks I just jumped on him because I was tired. Well, maybe it was a factor, but can we look at the big picture here? I'm tired from nursing his kid night and day!!!


Okay, sorry, rant over.

GLT--Sorry to hear about DD's new phobia. Sometimes it really helps to feel you have an advocate in the school when Mom and Dad are having problems.

Oh, I have to tell you guys--I think Jocelyn, my little "boys are disgusting" girl, may be changing her mind! A new boy started this week, Scott, and she was telling us all that he's in her seating group and which classes they shared, on and on. Then yesterday, she asked me if she could wear her hair down today. Now, you guys may recall that she has hair down to her knees--she wears it down maybe twice a year, because it's such a PITA and everyone wants to play with it. So, I suspect something is up. I don't want to make a huge deal about it with her, though.

 

[Ginamarie]

Justhat- I meant to comment before. I just couldn’t believe the post office story!! The employees by me can be a little curt, but nothing like the rudeness you mentioned. Maybe there’s someone you can write to and complain. I wouldn’t want to go back there!

DisKim- Poor Aidan. I hope he’s feeling better today. I’m trying to lose some weight too, hoping to have ten pounds gone by the end of March, but we’ll see how that goes.
O’Hana sounds like a good idea, especially if they like Lilo and Stitch.

Bella- I’ve never been on prozac myself, but I spent several years working in a pharmacy with my mom and both my mom and brother are in the pharmacy field (mom as a pharmacist and brother as a tech). From discussions I’ve had, prozac is a pretty good drug, with minimal side effects. It doesn’t work for everyone (part of the problem with any psychological drugs is that what works for one person may not work for another, but if prozac isn’t the way to go, there are others out there that may work better). I’m glad that you talked to your doctor and now you’re on the way to recovering. Just make sure to keep monitoring how the drug effects you with your doctor!

Tykes- I’m sorry you’re having discipline issues. They’re so tough at that age, because they don’t really understand consequences yet.

FloridaFam- Sorry you had a fight with your DH. My DH says really stupid things sometimes too. Usually when we get to the bottom of it, he’s mad about something completely different from what he comments on and is just looking to hit below the belt.

SL- Your trip sounds great with or without the dining plan. It is a really great deal though if they continue offering it. I’ll have to make my DH keep checking the employee “portal”.

BNB- Uh oh-- once boys get in the picture I want to run the other way screaming! Poor Olivia may never date.


Well, I had my doctor’s appointment today and they set up my surgery schedule. I go in February 9th to have the cyst removed and then a week later to have my stitches come out. The surgeon said it’s a good thing I came in, because if the cyst doesn’t get removed it will continue growing and start cutting off the hair follicles from the top of my head, so that I’d stop growing hair!! So yes, it’s coming out ASAP.

After the doctor’s appointment I decided to stop by the mall for a LITTLE bit of shopping therapy. I was in luck though, I went by Gymbo and it looked like a hurricane had been through. The woman there said that they just brought out EVERYTHING from the back room to sell off. So it took me a long time, but I made it through the racks and wound up with some really great bargains. I got Olivia a whole ensemble of the Autumn Highlands stuff (velour pants and jacket, shirt, corduroy dress, and the matching hat) for $30! They had sooo many things marked down by 70% in there. I wish I had some of your phone-numbers to see if anyone was looking for things. I’m half tempted to stop in the Gymbo close to my house to see if they’re doing the same thing, except I really shouldn’t spent any more $$. I was also tempted to just buy some of the stuff to try selling it on ebay after seeing how hot those clothes were for Robin last night.

OK, back to work now for me!!!

 

[DisKim]

OK, this situation with my mom is not working out. Apparently, she can only book a regular room at the Mariott. She does not have enough points banked for a suite. There is no way I am staying in one room with my mom. She snores like a train! I can't even stand being in one room with Tom and the kids. The problem is that if I want to just stay on-site or wherever on my own, she won't be able to afford a room on her own. She is always crying money. So, I basically have to accomodate her somehow. I wish I could nicely tell her that she should just go down to the Keys early for the wedding and let me have some family time. I can't do that though. I'd feel too mean.

BNB - Your use of the banana smilie cracked me up!!

robin and ff - Thanks for the infor on Sea World. I really think Emmy and Alex would like it. It's hard because it only leaves us 2 days in WDW. I'm trying to plan this without their input so I can suprise them. I'm going to let them think we're going straight to the wedding.

Well, Aidan is in destructive mode so I guess that's a good sign. He's destroying our dvd collection. I don't have the heart to stop him since it's the first time in 2 days that he hasn't been crying on the couch.

 

[llij]

Good afternoon moms!

My dad just stopped by to take some measurements in my office. He is making me some bookshelves which I desperately need. It was good to see my dad since both my parents will be leaving first thing in the morning to drive to Jax, FL for the funeral of their friends’ son.

John still has his rash, but it is starting to fade. I’m still scratching my head on what it was but at least he is on the mend.

FF – I don’t have any ‘words of wisdom’ for you and I am so sorry to hear how upset you are. I think everyone gave some good advice here and I definitely agree that we all have times where we don’t think before we speak. Perhaps your dh wasn’t thinking and was upset about something else. I hope that your dh realizes how hurt you are and that you guys can talk this through.

DisKim – I hope that you and Aiden are on the mend soon! I think O’Hana’s is a great idea for breakfast. We really enjoyed Donald’s Breakfastsaurus as well when we ate there years ago.

Justhat – Holy Moly on that Post Office! That is just horrible how they treated you all.

Bellacam – I had PPD with both Katie and John. I probably had it with Meagan, but I thought that it was the winter blues. The PPD didn’t hit me hard with John until last February and I remember just sitting there one day crying and feeling a terrible hopeless feeling. It was awful and my doctor put me back on Wellbutrin. I took that before I had John for my hormonal issues and it really helped. If you ever want to PM me, please do. I second what everyone else has said about all of the stressful things you have been through. It is hard enough to adjust to having two kids, but all of the medical stuff takes its toll.

Welcome to Pooh4evr and congrats on the birth of your dd! I love your dd’s names! Feel free to PM me if you have any questions.

Cabmom – How is everything going?

SL – Good luck with class tonight! I’m sure you will do great this semester! I had something similar happen to me with not checking my university e-mail account and getting the necessary information. Let us know how everything goes!

Robin – Congrats on the E-bay sales. That is amazing!!! Also, good luck this afternoon with the Craigs sale. I hope it all goes smoothly.

BNBmom – Ohhhh, I am dreading the day that Meagan discovers boys! Sadly, I think my days are numbered.

GM – I’m glad to hear that the surgery date is scheduled. Is it outpatient surgery?

Tamie – Good luck with Tyler! I’m starting to venture into that area with John. John is definitely mischievous and loves to throw his food and anything else he can get his hands on. He doesn’t respond to “no” and just looks at us and laughs. I have a feeling he is going to give me a run for my money!

GLT – That is good to hear that the counselor is going to meet with your dd. My sister’s kids went through counseling during the divorce and it was a godsend. BTW, a package will be sent to you tomorrow! Enjoy!

Nucpharm – How did the errands go today?

Z – Good luck listing your Gymbo stuff!

Dizagain – Have a great weekend!

J&D - Where are you? I want to see pictures from your trip!

Hi to all the moms!

I realized today that I only have two more weeks until classes and I was hoping to read a lot of fun books while I was on break. Unfortunately, I never got around to it. Since I still have a small window of time, I want to hit the library and check out a few reads. Do you all have any recommendations for fun reads? I want to do some reading for pleasure before I get stuck reading school textbooks again.

 

[Hillbeans]

HI Ladies,

Justine - LOL, your post office story is one for the books. What lunatics!

My town has a tiny post office with super friendly (but very slow) employees - but they give out lollipops to the kids.

FF - Hope things are better today.

Bellacam - I think PPD is underdiagnosed. Please take care of yourself.

Sorry to be so brief but i'll catch up more later, i'm just taking a super quick break.

I wanted to ask the other mommies if you all have teenage babysitters in your neighborhood and if you do, do you use them? DH and I really need to find a babysitter in town, and I posted a ? on the CB earlier about getting an invitation to a neighbors party 8 days in advance and that for me that's not enough time to get a sitter. Generally I don't want to make it a habit to use sitters every weekend because the kids already go to a sitter or school part of the week. I have my brother's family nearby, but when we "babysit swap" we usually only do it for special occasions. MIL likes to babysit but she lives 4 hours away and my Father, while he has good intentions, can't handle babysitting the baby alone.

 

[floridafam]

All is well.

DH came home to talk to me and he meant something totally different than what I thought he meant. I listened to his explanation and understand what he was trying to say.

We had a long discussion and both agreed to communicate better in the future. I was able to get a lot off my chest and I feel a lot better.


Men


jill,

I'm sorry about John's rash. I hope you find out what it is.


I'll be back later to get caught up with everyone. I just need to take a break.

There's one good thing about getting into an argument with DH. My house is spotless. I clean like a mad woman when I am mad. You could eat off my kitchen floor today if you want to. I did dishes at 4am.

 

[nucpharm29]

Hillbeans--when we lived in WI we used a teenager to sit for Emma at least every other week. She was great--we never used her for the baby b/c he was still too young (we moved when Matthew was only 9 months) We haven't had to find a sitter here yet, b/c dsis and I do baby trades quite often. She's actually babysitting for us Sat. night, so DH and I can actually spend our anniversary alone!

glt--I've got the package boxed up and ready to go--just have to see if the kids wake up in time to hit the PO before closing!

jill--I haven't read any good books in a long time! I've been perusing many cookbooks, though. One of the authors I love is Dorothea Benton Frank. She writes books that are set in Charleston or the surrounding islands--chick reads as DH would say. I've read pretty much all her stuff and loved them all--also really like Luanne Rice; good family drama/chick books!

ff--glad you and DH talked things out!

kim--glad Aidan is feeling better. Hope you can find a solution to your Disney plans! Believe me I know how hard it is trying to accomodate family!

Well, I think the "golden hour" is coming to a close. I got to watch one DVR'd epsiode of Gilmore Girls and wrap a present to take to my parents on Sunday--that took up most of the naptime--now I hear squirming!

Oh, don't know if any of ya'll shop at Chico's but they're having a great sale right now--and they now have a lingerie store as well, Soma, and they are having a great sale on panties (buy 1 get 2 free) and bras (buy1get1free). Also, some great sales at Kohl's as well. Chat later!

 

[cabmom]

Hi everyone,

Bellcam, I've sent you a pm about my PPD.

Jill, I'm doing ok, thanks for asking!

I'm looking at returning to work in the next couple of weeks. I've used all my sick time and now I'll have to start using my vacation days. I'll let you all know how I do.

Icebrat, please pm me if you are reading this!

Marilynn

 

[pooh4evr]

Thanks to everybody- I am taking Lexapro now I started before I left the hospital, I ahd PPd really bad after DD#2 was born so I talked with my Dr this time about meds to try to head it off in a way, things have been better this time so far I ahve had a few spells but overall it is better. I don't know much about Prozac but if it will help TAKE IT or something similar!! Good Luck!

 

[llij]

Hi again!

Pooh4evr - I'm glad to hear that things are better this time around. I didn't think too much about PPD 8 years ago after I had my dd. After speaking with my OB, he thought that I did have PPD. Best wishes you too.

Cabmom - Good luck with going back to work. I hope that everything goes smoothly for you. Keep us posted on how it all goes.

Hillbeans - We have my parents babysit when they can, but we frequently used a few teenagers in our neighborhood in the past. Since John was born though, we've only used a teenager once and that was for 2 hours. I'm trying to get John used to having a sitter so Dave and I can go out more. We went out so much more before we had the baby.

FF - I am so glad that everything has worked out with you and dh.


I can't believe how beautiful the weather here is today. It is in the '60's! My daffodils are coming up since they think it is spring! I wouldn't be too sad if this nice weather continued throughout the winter!

Everyone have a great evening!


ETA: Nucpharm - Thanks for the recommendations! I love a good Chick Lit! Also stories about families are always great. I'll have to go look up the author you recommended.