The Official New Mom Thread Part 2

[DisKim]

FF and Robin - Thanks for your comments. It really helps to get others' point of view on my situation. Robin - the reasons you stated are exactly why I would quit. DH and I fight all the time (actually I yell at him and he takes it because he feels bad about my situation) and I can't stand feeling like I'm always running out the door. I want to relax and enjoy my kids. I don't want all these other things taking up space in my brain. Also, our wonderful governor is trying to raise the retirement age for teachers to 62 as well as taking away our medical after retirement. I'm only 34. I can't teach until I'm 62! I'll go postal!! There is some politics going on at my school. They want to dissolve our district. I guess that means that we will merge with another district. We are very well paid in my district. If we merge with another school, I'll be frozen at my current pay for years. I almost hope it happens so I wouldn't feel so bad to walk away. I'll probably be driving you girls nuts with this because I'm not the type of person who can make a huge decision without thinking about it forever. That's why my kids are all 5 years apart!

FF - No one in my school stands up for anything and our union is basically nonexistent. The teachers who got yelled at were all apologetic and kissed up to him. I would have told him to go to hell. I really would have. Of course, he has never yelled at me. That's why I don't really act on any of this. He likes me for some reason. He never says anything when I ask to leave to go to my kids' school, but if another teacher does, he gives them garbage about it. He just has a "little man's complex". He is a small man who is not respected and he knows it, so every once in a while he tries to assert himself by getting nasty. He also doesn't view most of us as humans with lives outside of school which is why we have parent conferences on a December evening .

I have to say my babysitter is one person who makes this all bearable. She is the BEST in the world. I just love her. I'm so glad I switched Aidan back to her. It was the best decision I ever made. Of course, my DIS buddies helped me with that one too. Obviously, you girls are good !

 

[icebrat001]

Okay, I've got to make this quick, I've got to assemble Tess' bed and it's the most difficult thing in the word, the instructions have been modified 3x's, I am so fed up with this bed!



Well back to assembling the bed I go...

 

[floridafam]

Okay Mommies, I can't believe I'm typing this but I just have to share the humor.

I received a coupon in the mail the other day from Victoria's Secret for $10 off any purchase during my Birthday month (this month) so I thought I would be brave and buy the little Santa skirt thing and hat. Hey, DH has been gone, going through crud at work, blah, blah, blah and I thought this would make him feel better.

The damn thing won't fit over my hips. I AM NOT BIG. I'm a size 10 and the thing won't budge. So, I put it on over my head and it's all of about 4 inches in length. I wish I could have taken a picture. It's already back in the bag and is going back to the store. That's what I get for trying to be sexy.

The thing looks like it was made for my daughter. My Mommy tummy didn't look so great with it on, either.

 

[Alice28]

OK, gotta make this quick as I need to get molly down and work on some more WPASADI stuff....3 of our teammates are either sick, on vacation or are pretty much MIA, so suddenly I feel like I need to do a bunch of other stuff.

Icebrat- do you have an Gymbo outlet near you? They have been basically recycling the last year's lines...so comes May or June, you will see Summer Safari at your outlet. Not the EXACT pieces, but darn close. I was having de ja vu when I went in our outlet last month- it looked like Molly's last year's wardrobe! And, I have the coveted aqua blue dress with the animals on the hem, but it's an 18-24 m. I don't think it would fit Tess...I hope to make bucks on it with ebay next month, but we'll see. NWT they still sell for what they sold in the store. I have some other stuff from that line- it was my favorite warm weather line, but again, I think all of it is 18-24m.

FF- I stopped buying Vicky's secret long ago....like when I was still technically a 14 or so in other stores, but I could NOT squeeze into their larges or extra larges. It drove me nuts. Their stuff definitely runs small IMHO. I was LOLing at your description though!

HEY- did you guys see that Gymbo's jammies are 2 for $20? What a freaking deal. Plus I still have a coupon. I'm sorely tempted to go buy all 3 another pair, but then I would have to buy a 4th pair and none of them need two more sets of jammies. Maybe I will just buy one in a 3T for Molly for next year. $32 for 4 pairs of jammies is a deal and a half!

 

[zalansky]

FF - that is funny! I went to the VS website and saw two sets, one is pink and other off white. Both skirts look ultra short! I give you credit for buying that because I would not have even thought about it! You're a far better wife than I am.

 

[tkyes]

ff - you're my hero! I love it that you tried it, kudos to you! Sorry it didn't work out!

robin - The jammie deal is tempting - I wish I still had a coupon to use to make it even better.

diskim - I'm so sorry work is so awful for you. You've received some good advice, hopefully you can find something that works for your family.


tyler would not take a nap today. He was in his crib playing for an hour and then started screaming. We just ran and errand and he fell asleep. I don't want to let him sleep too late, but I don't want a monster child tonight. Allthough I'm going to a clothing party at a friend's house and dh has child duty tonight.

gotta run!

tamie

 

[vald1977]

Hi everyone ,
Things have been so crazy here that I haven't gotten to post in way too long . I have been putting in over 40 hours a week at my "part-time" job and dh has been super busy running relatives to their doctor's appointments. I don't even have my tree up yet .

I know I'll never touch on everyone's posts but I'm going to attempt to catch up a bit here:

Robin,
Cograts to your neighbor!

Diskim,
Good luck in deciding what to do about your job. It sounds like it has been very stressful for you lately but I know how hard it would be to give up the income.

SL,
We have secret santas at work too. I ended up with the 17 year old dishwasher. I ended up getting her some bath and body stuff.

GLT,
I hope you are enjoying your time with your bro. It was me who sent the Cars dvd. I'm glad it got to you . I had never heard of St. Nick's day either but someone came into the store to buy candy for it and told us about it. Personally I think there is enough going on in December without the stress of another holiday .

FF,
Your victoria's secret story cracked me up . I have never been able to wear anything from there - the girls are too big .

Justhat,
I think your dh's theory on when to visit the dr. sounds really good. Of course he is a dr. so that could be why .

Jill,
I hope you have a wonderful holiday season and break from school. You so deserve some rest and relaxation!

Hi to bnb, icebrat, fab, J&D, GM, diz, Tamie, Hillbeans, Joats, Bellacam, Gems, and everyone !

I have so much to get done before Christmas and absolutely no idea when I'll ever get done. I still have some shopping to do, all my wrapping, christmas cards, the tree to put up, cookies to bake for our cookie swap next week - ugh! I wish I could borrow Santa's elves for an evening! We are going to visit the big guy on Sunday and then plan to put up our tree after that. I just hope Katrina doesn't attack it. Speaking of Christmas, I plan on shipping my exchange gift tomorrow. I'll send a pm to J&D once it's at the P.O. . Talk to you all later .

 

[zalansky]

FYI - the TMX Elmo's are still showing available at TRU!

 

[llij]

Hi DIS Moms!

This is a drive by post for me too......

I took John to the doctor's this morning b/c she wanted to check his gross motor development. He'll be 14 months old at the end of this month and no crawling, no pulling up, no getting in or out of a sit position, etc..... He has the same muscle condition that the girls had so we now need to go see the neurologist and start PT. I was hoping to avoid this, but oh well.... I know he will catch up one day.

The only thing that worries me is that Meagan has started to develop severe muscle pain lately. She has always had muscle aches and it has been attributed to the hypotonia but now that she is hitting puberty the pain is getting worse. The doctor is concerned and now she needs to see the neurologist too. We went through genetic testing, muscle biopsies and many many other tests and doctors when Meagan was a baby but they couldn't put a diagnoses with the hypotonia. We also lost three babies and our first little girl died in utero due to a genetic defect so that is a factor. Since genetic testing has come far in 10 years, the doctors are confident they can now diagnose what my children have. Anyway, enough babbling from me. I just pray that whatever Meagan, Katie and John have that it isn't too serious. Ok, I am a total downer tonight.....sorry about that. I just needed to get this off of my chest so to speak.

Ok, I'm off to bed. I'm exhausted from trying to get my Christmas stuff done. I hope you ladies are all doing well! I'll try to catch up tomorrow when John naps!

Have a wonderful evening!!!

 

[Alice28]

Aw Jill, what a load to have on your mind. I pray it is nothing serious for Meagan and that the doctors can quickly diagnose what is going on with her muscles. And that John does the PT well and catches on quickly. Please don't feel like you're a downer, we all come here to vent; and we're all here to support each other when we're having hard times.


GM- you must be getting so excited about your trip! I will PM you my address- I think my boys would love getting a 'can't wait to see you in March' postcard from Mickey Mouse. Maybe of Star Tours? That's one ride they both like very much.

Thank you for doing that!

I got in the Christmas spirit this afternoon. I've kinda been in a funk about it, which I feel is stupid, since DH is home this Christmas! I should be decking the halls full speed ahead! I put up a few strings of outside lights- we're the only house on our dead end with lights so it looks festive. My dear neighbor's mom came to talk with me while I was untangling lights. I guess Christa (neighbor) had been at a 3 and at the hospital yesterday afternoon and they sent her home to take a bath and try to sleep. So, being the stubborn person she is, even though the contractions got stronger and more regular, she was afraid to go back to the hospital to only be sent home again. So when she finally went in at 3, she was complete! I guess they didn't have her push for a few hours cause the baby wasn't descending, even though she was at 10. She only had to push for 30-40 minutes- good for her! Amazing! I'm so excited to see her, but she was very tired today, and lots of people coming and going. Her DH is Filapino, and he has a TON of family that can be kind of overwhelming to Christa. Hopefully her DH held them back today a bit for her.

I never made it to the grocery store today- Molly was an A class bear. And I figured out why- she woke up from her nap with a runny nose and a bit of a cough. She caught Joshie's cold. We have hardly any fresh fruit or veggies and running low on milk. And the Comcast guy will be here between 10-12, so I can't go until after he's done. Some of our cable channels just aren't showing up, same with the on Demand. Which is frustrating since I decided to go back to doing 30 minute workouts every other day with my DVDs and then 15 minutes on my off days with the on Demand.

So, anyway, DH is bringing home BBQ for dinner. Can't wait.

Hi Val- somehow all your Christmas stuff will get done! I will pixie dust some elf power to you! I need to bake this weekend- time to make the ingredient list.The kids go to school next week, and then are off until Jan 2! Thank goodness the PS2 came back today!

I am so tired- I will be going to sleep after CSI. I was up for at least an hour last night, so amped from the phone call from neighbor. I must have been up from 3:40-4:40 and it's caught up with me!

 

[nucpharm29]

Jill--hugs to you and your family! I hope the docs can determine exactly what the issue is and treat it accordingly. Will be thinking of you!

alice--congrats to your neighbor. What a peanut of a baby--Matthew was almost double that size!

ff--LOL about the santa suit! Congrats to you for trying! I gave up VS years ago--their "larges" are even too small!

val--good to hear from you! Hope you can get all you need to get done! No matter what, though, around the holidays I start freaking out with too much to do--DH reminded me that we leave for the IL's 2 weeks from today--EEKK! It's going to take me 2 weeks to get this family ready for a 10 day trip!

tamie--hope Tyler isn't being horrible tonight and that you had a fun party!

icebrat--doesn't take long to get sucked into the blackhole that is "Gymboree"

diskim--I hope that you're feeling a little better and the meeting wasn't too bad. Wish I had an answer for you, but I don't--at least you can be thankful for your wonderful babysitter!

alice--thanks for the heads up on the jammie sale---but alas, I just bought Emma a pair last week, and then I bought some new shoes today--so I've been cut off!

Guess I better go--baked cookies today. I tried a new recipe and didn't care for it at all. Back to the old standbys! I also ordered the kids xmas pictures--3 8X10s and 3 5X7s for less than $100--I'm so excited! Okay, so really, off to bed for me.

 

[zalansky]

Just stopped by to say Goodnight.

Jill, I am thinking of you and your family tonight after reading your post. What strength you have....and feel free to vent any time like someone else said. Lord knows I do it often enough and your is a much more legitimate concern. Hopefully they can diagnose what is going on with the kids.

 

[DisKim]

Jill - Oh my gosh, you must be so worried. I'm sure everything will be fine but it is just so terrible to know your daughter is in pain. I'll be praying for you and your family.

Zalansky- I missed out on the stinking Elmo again. I oficially hate Elmo. If Aidan didn't like him so much I would never be looking for this stupid thing. I would have probably been able to get one if it wasn't for stupid conferences tonight.

Well, I got it "trouble" with the principal tonight. I got one of those "Um, can I see you for a minute" requests. I flat out told a parent that her child still did not have surround sound in my classroom despite the fact that it is in his 504 plan and he is leagally required to have it. I have made numerous attempts to track down the microphone and no one listens to me. I told her that she should make a fuss because that is the only thing that will make them get it for him. Well, she listened to me and the principal tried to play innocent like he didn't know anything about it and it was my fault. The mother knew better than that. So, I got a "talking to" from the principal. He he. I could care less. I'm just happy my student will now have what he needs. That mother deserved to know that her son was not getting the help he needed.

OK, I'm going to hit the sack. Luckily, I have a workshop tomorrow so I don't have to step foot in my school in the morning.

ETA -- Ha ha! SUCCESS!! I just got Elmo! It took some leg work. I had to put Elmo Knows Your Name in my cart and TMX came up on the side and I was able to add him. Very weird. I'll believe I have it when I see it!

 

[Alice28]

Kim~ YAY for getting Elmo!

Sounds like your principal is just a nitwit, plain and simple. Glad your student is going to get what he needs.

Nuc- I am debating the jammies myself. I still have 2 more Christmas gifts to get, so I should be spending money on that, not MORE gymbo. I need to get DH his main gift- he wants a juicer. And I need to get my Dad another this for his bday. I am going with an itunes gift card. All 3 of our parents are hard to shop for- what do you buy people who can buy themselves anything they want? I got my mom a 2007 Passporter for our trip and a cool Taste of Home cookbook. But I bought that before the went full steam ahead with Weight Watchers- I hope there are still plenty of recipes in it she'll want to try. I bought my dad a shirt in his new size and a book he wanted; then a CD and this gift card for his bday. And I still buy a few things for my parent's stocking- I need to go do that still.

I told DH, let's just use our Costco rebate check to buy those pots and pans- I feel lame buying him that for Christmas. We get the 2% back, and it should be at least $100 this year, if not more, as he bought me those diamond studs back in January that were a pretty penny.

I got my WL balance today. Yikes. But it's still not anymore than what we would pay if we just stayed the whole trip at SOG, since my parents are giving us a thousand towards the room. I'm very, very excited! I watched a travel channel special- Samantha Brown during the holidays at WDW! I teared up a couple times. Do you guys do that when watching WDW specials? I know I'm going in 14 weeks or so, but I still got a lump in my throad- I want to be there NOW! One of these years, we gotta go at Christmas- it looks enchanting.

TTFN!

 

[fabumouse]

You know, I have this weird hankering to buy the TMX Elmo, just because everybody else does! If there had been one at Target Tuesday, I think I would have bought it. Don't know what I would have done with it.

I rediscovered the joys of my gym today - I love that place! It's not flashy but it's full of regulars - I knew more than half the people there today, so I felt right at home again. Oh, but they have this weird new stairmaster - that is actual *Stairs*. Which is really funny given how many elevators I take.

Saw this on Yahoo just now:

"TRENTON, N.J. - Looking for a contraceptive that's convenient — and tasty? The first chewable birth-control method, a tiny, spearmint-flavored tablet that also can be swallowed without chewing, has hit pharmacy shelves"

Am I the only person who envisions DH looking for a breathmint and wondering why he suddenly has a hankerin' to watch Steel Magnolias and eat chocolate?

Justhat - "Her reply? "Good. Then go report me to the US Postal Service."

I wish I was (were?) that cheeky! And Kailey reclaims every single thing I throw out of hers as well. She takes the high moral ground of "that's mine and you have no right to throw it out" and unless I want to be my father ("my roof, my rules"), I have to agree. But then I try to throw it out when she's not around.

Lissa - I agree with Justine - it's the unsupervised time that seems to be a problem. Kailey really does adore Madeleine (and is always giving her favorite toys to play with, etc) but there's this undercurrent of jealousy that makes her rock the baby just a *little* too hard in her swing.

Kim - I understand your "we're behind!!" pain. We don't have the tree yet, (although I promised Kailey it would happen this weekend - hope DH is up for it ) and we have boxes *everywhere*. Stuff sent from other people that should go under our nonexistant tree, stuff we're sending to those other people that needs to be wrapped, and of course the never ending stuff I keep buying at Target.

SL - I'm so glad your back is better today. The only time I've had back pain, it made me completely non functional. And yes, I was less mean today. I got more (if not enough) sleep and I went to the gym. And tomorrow is Friday.

Z - I always self treated fevers of that calibur (sp?) with tylenol. And my card situation fluxuates like crazy depending on who is working and where and what mommy/book/political group we are involved in. This year - about 60. I try to be generous and send cards to people who haven't sent me one in the last year, and to new "friends" that we probably won't hear from during the holidays, so maybe 50 would be necessary.

Tkyes - you make your own cards?? Wow. Can I have one?

Kim - that is just not cool to yell at teachers in front of parents. I would be appalled with our principal if she treated the teachers at our school with such little respect.

FF - I'm so jealous - I would love to take Kailey to see laurie b.!! Amd OMG, the picture I have in my head of that thing on *your* head!!!

Robin - yes, I bought a bunch of those damm pj's at 10 dollars each. How could I not? Including ones that will fit Madeleine in a *year*

and what do we buy people who can buy whatever they want? Stuff that they haven't thought about before. It's freakin' torture. We got them Tivo one year and we had to go to their house 6 months later and set it up for them. Nice Pj's that they wouldn't buy for themselves, books by authors they've never heard of, better knives than they have.

Hi Val~

Jill - I share your concern. Kailey wasn't properly sitting up at 12 months, either, and I started to get scared. She *never* crawled (she rolled). And she has intermitant knee pain that I am hoping, hoping is just "growing pains". We saw a lot of doctors, without a proper diagnosis. We didn't lose any babies (I'm so sorry ) but the physical development issue is always hovering for us.

It's an hour past my bedtime. Ugh!

Have a great Friday!

 

[Ginamarie]

Alice- Congrats to your neighbor! It must be such a relief for her now to have that baby out and in her arms.
I’ve been getting lumps in my throat just THINKING about our WDW trip. I see myself being sobby on Main Street this year. Good sobby though. You know what I mean.

DisKim- You sound just like me before I quit my job. I was happy with the job I did, but just so fed up with the environment. Quitting any job is a tough decision, but you know when the time is right. I hope the hated Elmo shows up at your door.

FloridaFam- I think your brave for even trying on that VS stuff. I just take a peak at my belly once in awhile and it keeps all my lingerie safely in its draw. I can’t tell you the last time I took any of those pieces out.

Jill- I’m so sorry about all you’re going through worrying about your children. Hopefully it’s nothing serious. For a long time I had a repetitive chest pain that my doctors couldn’t diagnose. It sprung up during puberty and continued pretty much until I was in college. My doctors did all kinds of testing, but could only call it “tse tse syndrome,” which is basically unexplainable chest pain. Luckily, it never became anything worse, and I rarely get pain like that now.

Fabs- LOL at your DH eating the chewable BC.

I have some time to do a proper post now, but not much. DH is glaring at me because I haven’t packed yet. Nor have I packed Olivia’s things. I did spend a lot of time on WPASADI (another reason I’m getting glared at).

Anyway, Olivia’s doctors appointment went well. She got two shots She’s growing well though. She gained another inch and a half this month! She only gained half a pound, but an inch and a half is a lot. She’s barely fitting in her rear-facing car seat, but I know she’s supposed to be in there until she’s 20 lbs and she’s only 17lbs 4 oz. Let me tell you though, carrying her in that seat feels like FIFTY pounds, especially when I have to walk through the loooong parking lot to my office building.

I was supposed to have tomorrow for packing and laundry and preparations, but I have a new client coming in and an old client dropping by to fill out some paperwork. Que sera sera. At least DH is home to watch Olivia. I’m so afraid that I’m going to forget things, especially because I’ve never packed for a baby before.

Oh, and Flo has left the building. She’s going to miss WDW again. Muhahaha!

 

[gottalovethem]

I haven't read a single post.

Things have been miserable and horrible. Tonight I totally lost it.

I do have to say thank you so much to all the DIS moms who have provided me a shining star with your generosity and support and love (thank you BNB for the analogy and the literal star, I have been staring at it this evening in between tears).

 

[J&D]

Hi, everyone!

Sorry to be MIA so much. WPADASI has been taking up all of my free time.

I need to remind everyone that the deadline for mailing out SS packages is Mon.

GLT- Sending more hugs and prayers your way. You'll be receiving a package from me next week.

Jill- We might make it to WDW on the night of the 26th! When are you leaving on the 27th?

Ginamarie- Have fun getting ready for your trip. I'll probably PM you about the post cards.

Alice- Congrats to your neighbor.

DisKim- I had those feelings so many times while I was teaching. I do miss working with kids, but other than that I really don't miss teaching that much.

lissawynn- I can't tell you how many parents like that that I had to deal with. At least your admins sound supportive. I usually had to deal with those parents by myself.

I'm really tired and have some work around the house to do. Hope I can catch up with everyone else soon.

TTFN!

 

[Alice28]

I haven't read a single post.

Things have been miserable and horrible. Tonight I totally lost it.

I do have to say thank you so much to all the DIS moms who have provided me a shining star with your generosity and support and love (thank you BNB for the analogy and the literal star, I have been staring at it this evening in between tears).

 

[floridafam]

Jill and GLT,

I hope they find out what is going on with your children Jill.

GLT,

Sorry today was hard.

DH just got home safe and sound. Goodnight all.