Team Focker Watch Chat Part 5.5: The Less-Cursed Version

[jcc0621]

So I may have a "date" like outing on Friday. This guy I work with and have known for three years has been sending me "vibes" for a while now and we made plans to go out to dinner and see Wall-E on Friday. I could be completely misreading things and he is just being friendly but it doesn't feel that way sometimes. I'm really not sure how I feel about him so I figure I should at least give it a chance right?

Tonight he kept talking about how we should get married someday and he drew up plans on what our house would look like that he would build. It kinda freaked me out a bit.

OK, this is a little wierd, but hey it's only dinner and a movie!

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Good Morning all.

 

[PrincessV]

Okay, first of all, many hugs all around for mad parenting skillz, absentee spouses, new dates and wacky friend issues!

As for the first - well, you've all heard me freak out about parenting stuff, so you know I'm with ya'll in that boat!

Absentee spouses is another story... I NEED tons of alone time; my ex leaving was the second-best thing that ever happened to me, not because he was so awful, but because I should not be married.

Dating... yeah, no time for that now, but have fun Lessa and don't sweat the details - yet!

Wacky friend issues... oh, now this one hits close to home. I'm going through a "thing" with a close friend right now, too. She needs to be around people and constantly doing things. I need the exact opposite. And this extends to parenting: she and her DS are constantly running from activity to play date to dinner to activity to play date to dinner... you get the picture. And she invites Leo and I often, which is very nice, but it's not our thing. We only have every other weekend together to do stuff (he's home all week, but we only get time for dinner and a couple books before bed), so we really need to have each other's full attention for most, if not all, of that time. The friend does NOT understand this. She also doesn't quite see that it's no fun for Leo to hang with her much younger DS. I love her to death, but it's hard sometimes, with our personalities and parenting styles so different.

 

[askelton]

I'm here for you girl! I always joke with him and say, "Why couldn't I have married a LAZY, UNMOTIVATED man???!!!"
MEL

So your DH has ants in his pants too. I know I shouldn't complain, but sometimes, just sit!

So I may have a "date" like outing on Friday. This guy I work with and have known for three years has been sending me "vibes" for a while now and we made plans to go out to dinner and see Wall-E on Friday. I could be completely misreading things and he is just being friendly but it doesn't feel that way sometimes. I'm really not sure how I feel about him so I figure I should at least give it a chance right?

Have fun!

Only problem is that he is moving three hours away to Toronto at the end of the month as he just found out his dad has cancer. Not sure if anything that might happen would be able to survive the distance.

Tonight he kept talking about how we should get married someday and he drew up plans on what our house would look like that he would build. It kinda freaked me out a bit.

At least he has goals!


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We had a wonderful time at WL and I'll try to post some pictures later.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Dawn, I'm glad you posted that because I am in exactly the same boat. Bob's away from home for 7 days this week. And there's a 3 week to a month trip to China looming on the horizon. He's been working late every night that he's actually IN town too. I'm lonely. I need adult companionship or I start going a bit nutso.

I'm here for you girl! I always joke with him and say, "Why couldn't I have married a LAZY, UNMOTIVATED man???!!!"
It doesn't make it any easier, but be glad that you DO miss him. I know alot of wives that WISH their dh's travelled. How sad....

MEL

I know. I'll never have to worry about my hubby taking care of me. Before we moved here, I raised the kids alone practically. Life was so hard and he was always gone or busy. When we moved here two years ago, I got spoiled. K's normally home for dinner every night and home all weekend. The kids are at an age where they get upset when they don't see him. It is heart-breaking. And I am tired.

My MIL asked if I wanted to do dinner together tonight when I drop the kids of- I said "No thank you, I want time alone." I know I'll be alone tomorrow, but being at the hospital isn't exactly stress-free.

Being alone with the kids all day and night makes me frustrated easily with the kids sometimes. I hate to be harsh on them just because I'm tired too.

O.K. There there Jen...

I HATE ALL THIS TOUGH LIFE STUFF TOO.
Worry about my kids.. protecting Joshua... getting him what he needs... to the point I smother Sarabeth.
Having to become the Parent to your Parents.. then watch them die.
Watching almost everyone you know with "NORMAL LIVES" NORMAL FAMILIES AND KIDS... and getting Sometimes.. because they do not understand. Then they say something stupid to me like... "hey you guys wanna do something this week or weekend?"
Uh.. Hello.... NO BABY SITTER You know that.. and I do not see you volunteering to watch them so Scott and I can go out on a date.
I just hope that people are just "STUPID".. and say things that they really do not mean.. that they chose the wrong words or delivery.I would hate to think they are just MEAN.

I know all these "LIFE THINGS" make us "Stronger and Tougher"... but sometimes... I do not want to be strong...

So .. Jen2, Mel, Jen, Dawn and ANYBODY ELSE THAT needs or


Fuss away Baby.. I just did... and if you want to call me... I do not think I have anywhere to go today. Sorry about yesterday ... Sarabeth was driving me nuts wanting to leave.

I'm headed out to get a coffee. Then I'll try and call after Math.

 

[dreamn_Disney]

Hi everyone. I am finally feeling myself again. I know I missed a lot. If I missed anything life altering please fill me in.

 

[kykatt2]

I know. I'll never have to worry about my hubby taking care of me. Before we moved here, I raised the kids alone practically. Life was so hard and he was always gone or busy. When we moved here two years ago, I got spoiled. K's normally home for dinner every night and home all weekend. The kids are at an age where they get upset when they don't see him. It is heart-breaking. And I am tired.

My MIL asked if I wanted to do dinner together tonight when I drop the kids of- I said "No thank you, I want time alone." I know I'll be alone tomorrow, but being at the hospital isn't exactly stress-free.

Being alone with the kids all day and night makes me frustrated easily with the kids sometimes. I hate to be harsh on them just because I'm tired too.



I'm headed out to get a coffee. Then I'll try and call after Math.

And when you do get back... I started my TR ...FINALLY

 

[dismom9761]

Hi everyone.I am a little lost but I did skim the last page and saw that were needed.

This morning my kids started school.It was a little but also This is the first time all of them are in school and it was especially hard letting Rachel go.She was soo excited to be a big girl though.

Rachel prek

Rebekah 4th grade

Peyton 5th grade

Tyler 7th grade

 

[dismom9761]

And when you do get back... I started my TR ...FINALLY

I am going to catch up on some reports I have neglected and then I will check it out. I was going to clean but a day of dissing so much more fun...

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Hi everyone.I am a little lost but I did skim the last page and saw that were needed.

This morning my kids started school.It was a little but also This is the first time all of them are in school and it was especially hard letting Rachel go.She was soo excited to be a big girl though.

How sweet! They look so nice in their new school clothes!

The girls are sitting here doing math while I help/DIS. I told B "Look, B, Amy's son is really cute." She looked and rolled her eyes. I luvs to tease my girl. I told her I would ask for a signed picture of him for her and she's ignoring me now.

 

[dismom9761]

How sweet! They look so nice in their new school clothes!

The girls are sitting here doing math while I help/DIS. I told B "Look, B, Amy's son is really cute." She looked and rolled her eyes. I luvs to tease my girl. I told her I would ask for a signed picture of him for her and she's ignoring me now.

I am glad I am not the only one who tortures her kids. Though Tyler is girl crazy and not shy about it at all.

 

[PrincessV]

What an exciting day!

Hi everyone. I am finally feeling myself again.

Glad to hear it!

We had a wonderful time at WL and I'll try to post some pictures later.

Can't wait to hear about it!

 

[HomeschoolMama]

I am glad I am not the only one who tortures her kids. Though Tyler is girl crazy and not shy about it at all.

B's still in the "I'm not interested in boys" stage. She thinks they're weird. I'm thinking she thinks they are cute, but won't say it to me. Hmmm... I wonder why?

 

[kykatt2]

Hi everyone.I am a little lost but I did skim the last page and saw that were needed.

This morning my kids started school.It was a little but also This is the first time all of them are in school and it was especially hard letting Rachel go.She was soo excited to be a big girl though.

Rachel prek

Rebekah 4th grade

Peyton 5th grade

Tyler 7th grade

So the House is a Little quiet huh??
At first it's weird and and Sad and then you realize they always come home.. and you actually can find yourself looking forward... the that BUS Rolling Down the street.

I cried so hard when Sara left for School for Kindergarden.. Now I find my self Looking out my Kitchen Window to tell her.. "Hey the Bus is on the next street... better get out there" I'm a BAAAAAAD MOMMY

B's still in the "I'm not interested in boys" stage. She thinks they're weird. I'm thinking she thinks they are cute, but won't say it to me. Hmmm... I wonder why?

O.K... I am REALLY WORRIED NOW.. Joshua was Born liking Girls... ( Blondes especially ) and Sara had her first crush at 4.

But then again.. I cornered a Guy in first grade and laid one on him...

 

[Lifelong_Dreamer]

Dawn, don't feel bad about B not wanting to talk about thinking buys are cute with you. I am 25 and have a very close relationship with my mom but I still don't like talking about guys with her.

 

[sharkB8HooHaHa]

OMG, this back to school thing is jamming up my time on the DIS! I think I'm having a harder time adjusting to being back than the boys are.

I tried to catch up. I empathize with Dawn and Mel. DH was gone for 4 months at a time last year part of the year before that. It was awful.

Jen, we all say stupid things from time to time, but your friends comment about Jon at school was supremely dumb.

Jen2, I hope your cold is improving.

Katt, vent away.

T, how are your last days of Barbieville?

Lessa, a house? For real? What's up with that?

for everyone!

 

[Lifelong_Dreamer]

Lessa, a house? For real? What's up with that?

Who knows? We were talking about the "future" aka where we want to be in our 30's and he talked about how he wanted to build his own house and started drawing out the plan that he had in his head and started saying and this room could be your study and here is where you could have your rose garden and this set of rooms could be for our parents when they get old. It freaked me out a bit, I am a relationship-phobe and here he is talking about our being married 10 years down the road, doesn't he know that is a sure fire way to scare me off. I haven't even agreed to go on a real date with this guy and apparently he already has plans for us to get married and has our house designed.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

O.K... I am REALLY WORRIED NOW.. Joshua was Born liking Girls... ( Blondes especially ) and Sara had her first crush at 4.

But then again.. I cornered a Guy in first grade and laid one on him...

Katt!
I think that B is more shy when it comes to most things, though. With C, I won't be so lucky!

Dawn, don't feel bad about B not wanting to talk about thinking buys are cute with you. I am 25 and have a very close relationship with my mom but I still don't like talking about guys with her.

I'm hoping she will when she's actually old enough to have a boyfriend.

I tried to catch up. I empathize with Dawn and Mel. DH was gone for 4 months at a time last year part of the year before that. It was awful.

That would be awful! I try to remember that there are so many other people out there who have it worse than me and that helps.

Who knows? We were talking about the "future" aka where we want to be in our 30's and he talked about how he wanted to build his own house and started drawing out the plan that he had in his head and started saying and this room could be your study and here is where you could have your rose garden and this set of rooms could be for our parents when they get old. It freaked me out a bit, I am a relationship-phobe and here he is talking about our being married 10 years down the road, doesn't he know that is a sure fire way to scare me off. I haven't even agreed to go on a real date with this guy and apparently he already has plans for us to get married and has our house designed.

 

[jcc0621]

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Bright eyed and bushy talied for the new school year

B's still in the "I'm not interested in boys" stage. She thinks they're weird. I'm thinking she thinks they are cute, but won't say it to me. Hmmm... I wonder why?

Gee, I wonder

O.K... I am REALLY WORRIED NOW.. Joshua was Born liking Girls... ( Blondes especially ) and Sara had her first crush at 4.

Jimmy too When we were at the beach Jimmy was looking through one of those magnifier/binocular things and kept pointing out the girls in the bikinis to his dad

Who knows? We were talking about the "future" aka where we want to be in our 30's and he talked about how he wanted to build his own house and started drawing out the plan that he had in his head and started saying and this room could be your study and here is where you could have your rose garden and this set of rooms could be for our parents when they get old. It freaked me out a bit, I am a relationship-phobe and here he is talking about our being married 10 years down the road, doesn't he know that is a sure fire way to scare me off. I haven't even agreed to go on a real date with this guy and apparently he already has plans for us to get married and has our house designed.

On flip side you could say he is a good organizer

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Jimmy too When we were at the beach Jimmy was looking through one of those magnifier/binocular things and kept pointing out the girls in the bikinis to his dad

You better watch him, Janet!

 

[Lifelong_Dreamer]

On flip side you could say he is a good organizer

Yeah, I guess there is that.