Team Focker Watch Chat Part 5.5: The Less-Cursed Version

[Goofyluver]

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Okay sweetie, breathe! In. And out. Another - in. And out.

Now, take a few of these:

And state, "I am NOT crazy, I'm a MOTHER." You'll get through this, and Jon will too, but you're still entitled to some freaking out.

Thanks V.

Good thing it's Mel Day too. I was doing a 3 pt. turn in an alley earlier today and took off all the paint on my passenger side front fender. I called Bob and told him and he said, "Oh, Muffin...What are we going to do with you?"
God only knows how bad it would've been if it WASN'T Mel Day....

Doh.

Jen, don't feel crazy or bad for freaking out. I totally understand! V's right. You are a mom, it's fraught with worrying. It's practically the WHOLE job, in some ways.
He'll do great. And when he doesn't you'll KNOW. Because you raised him right, and he'll make good decisions.

Breathe deep girlfriend. Things are going to get better. They have to.

Awww Mel. Even after all you're going through...you took some time to comfort crazy ol' me. Thanks chica!

I can't imagine your stress. You're an awesome momma to an awesome boy. You've prepared him better than you know.

Thanks Kate.

Jen - Don't feel bad about being anxious for Jon, it is only natural. Heck I'm not a mother and I worry for my brothers like I was one. I'm sure everything will work out fine for him.

Well, at least I know I'm not the only one!!!

Well I was working on a Little Something for "Mel" since it's National Mel Day...But Sarabeth saw me working on something..and she created this so I think I'll post it up instead...

Happy National Mel Day !!​

I did add a TFW in there for Advertising

Luvz it!!!

and what V said.

Thanks Z.

I'm sorry. I would be flipping out too. B's in 6th grade (middle school) this year too and while I dont have to send her to a school, I do have to back off a bit where dance is concerned. It's always been her and me at competitions, now there's an unwritten 'no moms in the dressing area' rule. How will she get ready for 6 dances without her mama?
I'm sure that Jon and Baylie will somehow get through a lot better than we think they will

So, now that it's later, how'd the visit go?

It went okay...and I stopped freaking out when I got there...because I went into full out mom mode. Thanks goodness my mind took over for my heart...because it nearly dropped to my knees.

We worked a lot on his nursing needs today, we have to set up a health plan meeting for him before school begins. All 4 of his teachers, the nurse, his therapists, counselor, principal, etc...have to attend to learn about his emergency plan in case of crisis. He went into crisis twice last year at school, to this is necessary.

Tomorrow morning I will meet with his main case manager to set up the health meeting. I'll begin to meet with all of his teachers as well, to "explain" jon to them.

We got his schedule and found his locker. We're working on remembering our locker combination.

Momma couldn't figure out to open the locker.

You are allowed to freak out. My son is in 4th grade and I am already freaking out about middle school.

Thanks honey.

 

[jcc0621]

I am freaking out. Please let me just freak out for a minute.

I'm taking Jon this morning to his junior high to pick up his schedule and to get the lay of the land. I have to meet with all the teachers, counselors, principal, nurse, therapists...etc over the next few days.

And I am freaking out.

I mean like heart pouding, gonna puke freak out.

This is the first time in years that Jon hasn't been in my school. Not only that...but it's junior high.

I have positioned "cousins" all over the school to watch out for him...to make sure everyone leaves him alone...hopefully.

He will have some friends there...so that's good.

But, I'm terrified for him. And I really feel like I could pass out. He is so far behind academically and socially...and I don't want these teachers or kids or anyone to eat my baby up.

I am in full-blown panic mode...and yes...I have already popped a Xanax. I have panic attacks as well. And things like this set me off. I thought i was ready...I'm not ready.

I know he will be okay...but i don't feel like he will be okay...IYKWIM.

But, I have to act like I"m okay...and everything is okay.

Think I"m crazy if you want...but I'm terrified. OK...I"m done.

First, Thanks! **curtsying** I appreciate the MEL DAY celebrations!

Happy Mel Day...

Good thing it's Mel Day too. I was doing a 3 pt. turn in an alley earlier today and took off all the paint on my passenger side front fender. I called Bob and told him and he said, "Oh, Muffin...What are we going to do with you?"
God only knows how bad it would've been if it WASN'T Mel Day....

Doh

Janet, #3 son wants to steal your trophy. He said "we need one of those."

Well I was working on a Little Something for "Mel" since it's National Mel Day...But Sarabeth saw me working on something..and she created this so I think I'll post it up instead...

Happy National Mel Day !!​

I did add a TFW in there for Advertising

Tell Sara great job

I'm having "one of those days" or: an anxiety ridden one. I dunno why. I think my brain thinks I have too much to do in the next 13 days or something. My tummy is knotted and icky. So I'm going to pack and hope I can calm myself down.

Last night my neighbors (the usually loud music playing ones) had a literal brawl! They hit the walls so hard they knocked a shelf and my clock off the kitchen wall! it was scary. Police were called but I think the mom ran out of the house. Her daughter was screaming out the door that she wouldn't let her out. Really shook me up. I wish she would just get kicked out of the darn building already!

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Katt. I have a freind whose son goes to Pratt (starting his last year) and is looking for an apartment in Brooklyn. It will be him and 2 other people. Looking to keep it at $600-$700 each per month. Any ideas of where they should look. GOt a realtor recommendation?

Okay, so I accidentally found out who DD7's teacher is today. I was delivering some stuff to the school office and saw that there were class lists sitting there. I didn't rifle through them or anything, but did happen to glance at one of the second grade lists and DD's name was on it. So, now I know who her teacher is and....

I'm feeling a bit .

I know the teacher (she's not one of the 2 new ones), but I don't know much about her. I'm going to have to find out from someone whose kid had her last year what they think.

So, I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes knowledge doesn't help me at all....

SOmetimes too much knowledge can be dangerous

It went okay...and I stopped freaking out when I got there...because I went into full out mom mode. Thanks goodness my mind took over for my heart...because it nearly dropped to my knees.

We worked a lot on his nursing needs today, we have to set up a health plan meeting for him before school begins. All 4 of his teachers, the nurse, his therapists, counselor, principal, etc...have to attend to learn about his emergency plan in case of crisis. He went into crisis twice last year at school, to this is necessary.

Tomorrow morning I will meet with his main case manager to set up the health meeting. I'll begin to meet with all of his teachers as well, to "explain" jon to them.

More hugs needed

We got his schedule and found his locker. We're working on remembering our locker combination.

Momma couldn't figure out to open the locker.

This is why am glad we had key lockers in high school

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Since we are the subject of school we got a welcoming letter from Jimmy's PreK teacher. Very nice letter welcoming us, telling us what supplies he needs (basically a folder, a paint smock, a container of clorox wipes and a box of tissues). Anyway I am concerned becasue she told us in the letter that she will be there for the 1st day or so and then will be out several weeks on maternity leave. Jimmy doesn't do well with change and now he is going to meet a new teacher, who will then be out

 

[Goofyluver]

I forgot my little vent.

During my incredible freak-out this morning...and it was incredible...I called a friend...to calm myself down. A veeeery close friend.

My friend laughed at me...and told me I had to "cut the strings sometime."



It hurt my feelings so badly.

I'm not opposed to cutting the strings...everything I do with Jon is to ensure that he can live as independently and as healthily as possible. But, this is very scary.

Can you imagine sending your 7 year old to Junior High? That's what I'm doing...I'm sending my "7-year-old" to run among some much older wolves.

This is terrifying.

And I got no support...just laughter.

Pi$$sed me off. That's all. Vent over. I'm better now.

 

[KatGarcia]

I forgot my little vent.

During my incredible freak-out this morning...and it was incredible...I called a friend...to calm myself down. A veeeery close friend.

My friend laughed at me...and told me I had to "cut the strings sometime."



It hurt my feelings so badly.

I'm not opposed to cutting the strings...everything I do with Jon is to ensure that he can live as independently and as healthily as possible. But, this is very scary.

Can you imagine sending your 7 year old to Junior High? That's what I'm doing...I'm sending my "7-year-old" to run among some much older wolves.

This is terrifying.

And I got no support...just laughter.

Pi$$sed me off. That's all. Vent over. I'm better now.

way to be a supportive friend! We all have your back!!!! You're a mom you are supposed to worry all the time, its your job! Don't ever let anyone tell you anything you feel is wrong!!!!

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Since we are the subject of school we got a welcoming letter from Jimmy's PreK teacher. Very nice letter welcoming us, telling us what supplies he needs (basically a folder, a paint smock, a container of clorox wipes and a box of tissues). Anyway I am concerned becasue she told us in the letter that she will be there for the 1st day or so and then will be out several weeks on maternity leave. Jimmy doesn't do well with change and now he is going to meet a new teacher, who will then be out

How frustrating...

I forgot my little vent.

During my incredible freak-out this morning...and it was incredible...I called a friend...to calm myself down. A veeeery close friend.

My friend laughed at me...and told me I had to "cut the strings sometime."



It hurt my feelings so badly.

I'm not opposed to cutting the strings...everything I do with Jon is to ensure that he can live as independently and as healthily as possible. But, this is very scary.

Can you imagine sending your 7 year old to Junior High? That's what I'm doing...I'm sending my "7-year-old" to run among some much older wolves.

This is terrifying.

And I got no support...just laughter.

Pi$$sed me off. That's all. Vent over. I'm better now.

I would be hurt and angry too. Especially knowing he needed life-saving help twice last year during school. I can totally understand why you're so worried.

 

[LurrrvtheDuck]

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I'm having "one of those days" or: an anxiety ridden one. I dunno why. I think my brain thinks I have too much to do in the next 13 days or something. My tummy is knotted and icky. So I'm going to pack and hope I can calm myself down.

Send some calming thoughts my way everyone!

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Calming thoughts sent.


Hope your day got better Kat. Just think in less than 2 wks you'll be in your Happy Place.

 

[Goofyluver]

Since we are the subject of school we got a welcoming letter from Jimmy's PreK teacher. Very nice letter welcoming us, telling us what supplies he needs (basically a folder, a paint smock, a container of clorox wipes and a box of tissues). Anyway I am concerned becasue she told us in the letter that she will be there for the 1st day or so and then will be out several weeks on maternity leave. Jimmy doesn't do well with change and now he is going to meet a new teacher, who will then be out

That's sooooo hard on the kids. I'm sorry honey.

way to be a supportive friend! We all have your back!!!! You're a mom you are supposed to worry all the time, its your job! Don't ever let anyone tell you anything you feel is wrong!!!!

Thanks Kat!!!

I would be hurt and angry too. Especially knowing he needed life-saving help twice last year during school. I can totally understand why you're so worried.

Sometimes I think that we need to keep our opinions to ourselves. Sometimes even though we may disagree with something...we need to be supportive as friends. I can usually tell the difference...KWIM?? I needed a supportive person today...and that's just not what I got.

 

[jcc0621]

I forgot my little vent.

During my incredible freak-out this morning...and it was incredible...I called a friend...to calm myself down. A veeeery close friend.

My friend laughed at me...and told me I had to "cut the strings sometime."



It hurt my feelings so badly.

I'm not opposed to cutting the strings...everything I do with Jon is to ensure that he can live as independently and as healthily as possible. But, this is very scary.

Can you imagine sending your 7 year old to Junior High? That's what I'm doing...I'm sending my "7-year-old" to run among some much older wolves.

This is terrifying.

And I got no support...just laughter.

Pi$$sed me off. That's all. Vent over. I'm better now.

Ugh...sorry your friend wasn't more supportive. We're here for ya

 

[jcc0621]

How frustrating...

That's sooooo hard on the kids. I'm sorry honey.

Thanks girls. THe worse part is everybody is saying...you have to let him learn to deal with it... I KNOW That, but it is still frustrating

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Sometimes I think that we need to keep our opinions to ourselves. Sometimes even though we may disagree with something...we need to be supportive as friends. I can usually tell the difference...KWIM?? I needed a supportive person today...and that's just not what I got.

Thanks girls. THe worse part is everybody is saying...you have to let him learn to deal with it... I KNOW That, but it is still frustrating

 

[Goofyluver]

Thanks girls. THe worse part is everybody is saying...you have to let him learn to deal with it... I KNOW That, but it is still frustrating

I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT!!!!

That's what my mother told me last freakin' week.

I hate that!!!

Who wants their kids to suffer, hurt, or go through hard times???

No one.

It's frustrating when your children are hurting or are having difficulty.

I mean really. Should we say that when dear grandpa dies that it was for the best because we all need to learn how to deal with it?

No. It sucks.

Is hardship a part of life? Sure as heck is. But, why excuse everything hard or difficult by saying that "it's a part of life."

Sorry. Guess I needed to get that out!

 

[jcc0621]

I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT!!!!

That's what my mother told me last freakin' week.

I hate that!!!

Who wants their kids to suffer, hurt, or go through hard times???

No one.

It's frustrating when your children are hurting or are having difficulty.

I mean really. Should we say that when dear grandpa dies that it was for the best because we all need to learn how to deal with it?

No. It sucks.

Is hardship a part of life? Sure as heck is. But, why excuse everything hard or difficult by saying that "it's a part of life."

Sorry. Guess I needed to get that out!

Thanks Jen

OK onto fun stuff...what's everyone doing this fine evening.

Dawn how are you making out with the rain?

 

[HomeschoolMama]

I hope this K working late doesn't last long... I don't think he ate dinner with us but once last week. We went out and K fell asleep at the table more than once!
Last night I went to sleep at 11:30 and he wasn't home yet. I think he kissed me about 1am and was out the door (late) about 6:30 today. Now it's almost 9 and he's not home.

He won't see the kids again until Thursday because they are staying over at MIL's tomorrow night so I can go to the hospital on Thursday for my mom's surgery. With no kids home tomorrow, I'm sure he won't come home until late.

I'm so thankful that I feel like my normal, pain-free self now. I can't imagine doing everything alone and not be better. I know it's not forever, but I miss him so much. I miss the adult interaction and the kids miss their daddy.

I'm sure I'll feel better in the morning. Thanks for letting me fuss a bit.

 

[Goofyluver]

I'm here. On the Dis. Again.

And just for laughs...my dog just farted and scared herself awake. Always makes me giggle.

 

[Goofyluver]

I hope this K working late doesn't last long... I don't think he ate dinner with us but once last week and we went out. K fell asleep at the table more than once!
Last night I went to sleep at 11:30 and he wasn't home yet. I think he kissed me about 1am and was out the door (late) about 6:30 today. Now it's almost 9 and he's not home.

He won't see the kids again until Thursday because they are staying over at MIL's tomorrow night so I can go to the hospital on Thursday for my mom's surgery. With no kids home tomorrow, I'm sure he won't come home until late.

I'm so thankful that I feel like my normal, pain-free self now. I can't imagine doing everything alone and not be better. I know it's not forever, but I miss him so much. I miss the adult interaction and the kids miss their daddy.

I'm sure I'll feel better in the morning. Thanks for letting me fuss a bit.

Fuss away. I have fulfilled my quota for the day...

I'm sorry honey. It's hard being away from those you love.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT!!!!

That's what my mother told me last freakin' week.

I hate that!!!

Who wants their kids to suffer, hurt, or go through hard times???

No one.

It's frustrating when your children are hurting or are having difficulty.

I mean really. Should we say that when dear grandpa dies that it was for the best because we all need to learn how to deal with it?

No. It sucks.

Is hardship a part of life? Sure as heck is. But, why excuse everything hard or difficult by saying that "it's a part of life."

Sorry. Guess I needed to get that out!

Let it all out, sister.

Thanks Jen

OK onto fun stuff...what's everyone doing this fine evening.

Dawn how are you making out with the rain?

It's spitting right now. It's just enough to make my pretty new car look dirty.

I'm hoping we'll get more overnight and tomorrow.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

I'm here. On the Dis. Again.

And just for laughs...my dog just farted and scared herself awake. Always makes me giggle.

That makes me miss K more!!!

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Fuss away. I have fulfilled my quota for the day...

I'm sorry honey. It's hard being away from those you love.

I don't want to fuss to him and make him feel bad, so I appreciate the chance to fuss here.

 

[Goofyluver]

That makes me miss K more!!!

Ummmm...the farting or the scaring himself awake???

Boy...I"m sure he'd be thrilled with our conversation.

 

[Mrs. The King]

I'm here. On the Dis. Again.

And just for laughs...my dog just farted and scared herself awake. Always makes me giggle.

I love when dog have audible farts! We are all so surprised. They don't have cheeks or anything.




On being a worried parent. Earlier this year we had a family crisis. I learned that no one will worry about my kids as exquisitely and throughly as I can. This concern is a super power we moms have. You, my friend, are worried and it is honing all your skills, heightening everything you are good at with your son. Just, on the chance, that he might need you to be everything you are to him, you will be ready. Your friend shouldn't have laughed. She should have started taking notes on how to get through this thing called motherhood.