Tagless Dis'ers / Formerly Tagless Dis'ers UNITE! - Part II

[LegoMom3]

Oohhh Smiiiiley......are you there?!!

I'm here for a little while! Think I need a sip outta MY bottle tonight!! Didn't really have a bad day, but I have not been sleeping well at all the last two nights. I've been wanting to get out on my bike before work but that doesn't work when you wake up with a neck-strain headache...

My youngest DS is at his first non-family sleepover tonight. I miss him...


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[Smileybug]

LegoMom....I'm here, I'm here, I'm here.

Hi SadieDog.

 

[SadieDog]

Hey guys!

LegoMom, I hate those sleepless nights! I had a hard time sleeping last night b/c it was so hot. This heat is horrible.

 

[creativeamanda]

You're a good egg Charlie Brown!! (want us to go and bite him back? )

Nah--to his credit, he is autistic, was really tired, and I wouldn't let him sleep. Before he left, he gave me a big hug.

Hope you have a better day tomorrow, maybe take that bottle with you.

I would if I didn't have 5 IEP meetings tomorrow. That could get me fired!

 

[Smileybug]

Nah--to his credit, he is autistic, was really tired, and I wouldn't let him sleep. Before he left, he gave me a big hug.



I would if I didn't have 5 IEP meetings tomorrow. That could get me fired!

I admire what you do.

 

[creativeamanda]

I admire what you do.

Awe, shucks. Thanks a bunch, Smiley.

And thanks Sadie for being so sweet, too.

 

[SadieDog]

And thanks Sadie for being so sweet, too.

Thanks, that's nice to hear. Especially after what my daughter called me this morning. BTW, she goes for her license tomorrow. This will be her 1st try so we will see what happens.

 

[Smileybug]

GOOD NIGHT ​

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[creativeamanda]

Thanks, that's nice to hear. Especially after what my daughter called me this morning. BTW, she goes for her license tomorrow. This will be her 1st try so we will see what happens.

I'll need it when my girls are teenagers, as well. They (teenage daughters) can be tough. I worry my girls will be like me as a kid.

Night, Smiley.

 

[SadieDog]

I'll need it when my girls are teenagers, as well. They (teenage daughters) can be tough. I worry my girls will be like me as a kid.

Night, Smiley.

How old are they now? Just wondering how long before you get to experience such joys. Mine is 17 and will be a senior. Hopefully the year after she will GO AWAY to college.

Watching Hells Kitchen now.

 

[creativeamanda]

How old are they now? Just wondering how long before you get to experience such joys. Mine is 17 and will be a senior. Hopefully the year after she will GO AWAY to college.

Watching Hells Kitchen now.

6 and 9. Will have 2 teenage girls at the same time.

Watching HK, too.

 

[Mean Queen]

I'll need it when my girls are teenagers, as well. They (teenage daughters) can be tough. I worry my girls will be like me as a kid.

Night, Smiley.

I hope my girls are like me as a teen. I was a brat, but I was the biggest goody goody you could find. I'd much rather deal with an outcast goth kid than a Ms. Popular Party girl.

I can see my oldest (9 next month) is showing my former bratty tendencies. I wish my mom was still alive so I could apologize.

 

[creativeamanda]

I hope my girls are like me as a teen. I was a brat, but I was the biggest goody goody you could find. I'd much rather deal with an outcast goth kid than a Ms. Popular Party girl.

I can see my oldest (9 next month) is showing my former bratty tendencies. I wish my mom was still alive so I could apologize.

I think of my mom every time Sweetie goes into the "book worm", but bratty at the same time person she can be. I want to apologize to my mom as well. It's hard, isn't it? SOmetimes I wish I could call her (and after 6 years, I think of calling her).

 

[Smileybug]

GOOD MORNING YA'LL​

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[SadieDog]

6 and 9. Will have 2 teenage girls at the same time.

Watching HK, too.

Your kids are at nice ages. I miss that. I have 2 teens now, but my 2nd is a boy.

Not thrilled with the Hells Kitchen result.

 

[SadieDog]

I'd much rather deal with an outcast goth kid than a Ms. Popular Party girl.

I can see my oldest (9 next month) is showing my former bratty tendencies. I wish my mom was still alive so I could apologize.

This is the crowd my daughter is in. She has had SO MUCH trouble with "friends." They are so mean and nasty. It's been HORRIBLE.

Sorry to those of you who have lost your mothers. My father died of cancer, but my mother is still here.

 

[LegoMom3]

This is the crowd my daughter is in. She has had SO MUCH trouble with "friends." They are so mean and nasty. It's been HORRIBLE.

Sorry to those of you who have lost your mothers. My father died of cancer, but my mother is still here.

I lost my stepmother 7 years ago this past Monday (COPD; lung disease). Funny how when you lose someone you love, the date of their death stands out in your mind as strongly as their birthday... My mom is still alive and has always been in the picture, but I lived with my dad and stepmom through my teen years so my stepmom really earned her place in the family some days!! I really miss her.

Ok, on that note, here's an odd scenario for y'all! Help me out here... My dad remarried almost 2 years ago. His wife is very nice, I had met her a few times prior to them getting together. But, since they live in Florida, we don't see her very often at all (my dad flies up a couple of times a year, but just him due to her work schedule). WE (kids and I) refer to them as "Grandpa and Judy." However, when he's here and talking to the kids, he always refers to her as Grandma Judy. They know who he's talking about but they never refer to her as Grandma, so it's always kind of uncomfortable.

To me, being a Grandma implies a relationship. I'm not even close to her myself, never mind the kids (again, mostly due to distance, but in some ways because I will just never think of her as a step-mother and thus I don't think of her as my kids' grandmother....She's my dad's wife. Period.). She has biologial grandkids of her own, so it's not like she's lacking here. I don't want to make a stink, but I'm not comfortable with bestowing the Grandma title on her, just because she's married to my dad. Does that make sense?? The older two boys remember my stepmom as their Grandma on that side, which adds to the confusion.

What would you do?
[what would any of you do?...to bring back, witty Jack?...... Sorry, couldn't resisit!!]


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[LegoMom3]

My ticker now starts with "1 month...." !!!!!!!!​

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Uh oh...that means that within a few short weeks, Tinkerbellarella will be expecting the start of my pre-trip report....


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[Smileybug]

My kids aren't perfect but I feel like we pretty much skated through the mid teen years. And we have ended up with 4 wonderful young adults. We couldn't be any happier with them. And that is the truth. (REALLY) So remember they do grow up!! As far as dealing with teens...keep your eyes open and don't ever say "my kid wouldn't do that." BIG mistake. Once they realize that mom and dad aren't stupid they actually start to talk to you. Really talk to you. You have got to find compromises to EVERY situation. No matter the situation they find themselves in. They have to know that they can come to you. Think about this...What would you do if "KID" goes partying and they have two choices to get home. #1 Drive themselves #2 call you. I want them to call me. Driving drunk is not an option. But they aren't going to call you unless they trust you. Does that mean they don't hear about it. No!! It means you pick your time wisely to talk to them about their behavior. And you do it somewhat calmly. I'm not suggesting that you act as a friend. You don't. They need you to be 100% parent. But a parent that wants to understand what they face on a daily bases. BE INVOLVED. Know their friends, know where they are going, know when they are coming home. And have everyones phone number. (My kids knew that I wouldn't call those numbers unless kids went missing. I stuck to that promise) You want trust from them...give trust back. Okay...I'm making myself shut up

 

[Smileybug]

Hi SadieDog. Hope your morning is off to a good start.

Hi LegoMom!! I think you have to follow your heart on this one. You know sometimes we bestowe the honorary term of Aunt or Uncle on family friends. But it is because we feel really close to them. I personally don't believe that your Dad's wife gets the title of "Grandma" just because of marriage. They just need to show her respect. Maybe once ya'll move to Fl. Things will change. But I think even then I would leave it up to the comfort level of your children.