Swearing in Disney

[Wendy31]

The whole argument of "what's offensive to one may not be to another so why should we worry about it all" is ridiculous. Some words are clearly foul and should not be spouted off in public. Someone stubbing their toe and slipping out a curse word is one thing, someone walking around in target or wherever and dropping the f bomb repeatedly is what I think bothers most people. It should be common courtesy to not use some words in public and especially in front of kids.

Our society is so backwards. If you leave someone tickets to a christian movie its perceived as rude, pushy, distateful etc etc etc. But feel free to run around dropping the f bomb whenever and wherever you want to, because hey, you don't know what offends people so why care, unless its Christan of course, then feel free to be offended.

Amen to this!!!

Can you imagine the outcry if, instead of cursing, people were running around praying out loud everywhere or loudly reciting Bible verses everywhere they went? LOL!

Standing in line for Soarin' - the person in front of you is using a curse word every other word & the person behind you is reciting passages from the Bible.

Fun times!!

But, seriously... what has happened to common courtesy & civility? And we can argue that everyone is bound to be offended by something, so why try, but there are really are some words that shouldn't be used out loud in public. And we all realize that dropping your camera & muttering a curse word is miles different from punctuating every word w/ a curse word.

 

[BlueStarryHat]

I swear quite a lot, as does my sister. But in WDW, we don't curse except in the privacy of the hotel room. Maybe they put something in the water.

I have to say, I'm not offended by cursing. I would be offended an awful lot in my family if I was. It's just that in WDW I perceive it as a family-oriented place where people from all walks of life gather. I guess it's like smoking in a non-smoking area for me.

 

[mom2rose&john]

I try not to swear in public but have slipped a few times. The extreme swear word (begins with F) is awful. I cringe whenever I hear it. However, I have been know to say it when I am in total frustration. Not something I am proud of and would certainly apologize if anyone was upset if they heard me say it.

For some, cursing is a daily language for them. They are not even aware that it is vulgar to so many people. I just try to ignore them but will say something if it gets outlandish.

I do have a question. Is it any better to substitute another safe (non swearing) word instead of the swear word since the meaning is still the same? My daughter use to say "OH FUDGE" whenever something didn't go her way. I asked her why she used that word and she said "Because Miss D uses it". Miss D. was her daycare provider and even if my daughter didn't know the context in which the phrase was used said Miss D. certainly did.

 

[nooneshome]

Believe it or not, some people aren't so uptight about it. And it has exactly nothing to do with common courtesy.

WOW!! Not sure if you explained this in a later post but WOW!!! The problem is that there is a downward trend of common courtesy in this country. People don't even know what it is.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

I'm reminded of a scene from Blast from the Past.

Troy: You know, I asked him about that. He said, good manners are just a way of showing other people we have respect for them. See, I didn't know that, I thought it was just a way of acting all superior. Oh and you know what else he told me?

Eve: What?

Troy: He thinks I'm a gentleman and you're a lady.

Eve: [disgusted] Well, consider the source! I don't even know what a lady is
.
Troy: I know, I mean I thought a "gentleman" was somebody that owned horses. But it turns out, his short and simple definition of a lady or a gentleman is, someone who always tries to make sure the people around him or her are as comfortable as possible.

When did people stop acting like ladies and gentlemen?

 

[Arsenal1982]

There is nothing illegal about swearing. I tend to talk fairly low and someone would have to be paying pretty close attention to "my conversation" in order to hear a swear word. It's a case of MYOB. If my conversation offends someone so much, they can walk away. I'm not obligated to change my conversation just to make someone else happy.

 

[skylizard]

When did people stop acting like ladies and gentlemen?

When did people start being so judgemental and critical?

 

[Wendy31]

I'm reminded of a scene from Blast from the Past.





When did people stop acting like ladies and gentlemen?

I agree.

I was raised to be a lady. DH was raised to be a gentlemen. We're raising our children the same way. It doesn't make us superior or snooty or judgmental, but it appears it might make us part of the minority.

Don't chew with your mouth open, hold the door for the people behind you, say "please" & "thank you" & "excuse me," take turns & don't be grabby, smile & make eye contact, don't kick the seat of the person in front you, etc. And don't be loud & obnoxious because not everyone wants to hear you!

I don't think there's anything wrong w/ recognizing that there's a time & place for everything & not everything is acceptable for every situation & place.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

I agree.

I was raised to be a lady. DH was raised to be a gentlemen. We're raising our children the same way. It doesn't make us superior or snooty, but it appears it might make us part of the minority.

Don't chew with your mouth open, hold the door for the people behind you, say "please" & "thank you" & "excuse me," take turns & don't be grabby, smile & make eye contact, don't kick the seat of the person in front you, etc. And don't be loud & obnoxious because not everyone wants to hear you!

I don't think there's anything wrong w/ recognizing that there's a time & place for everything & not everything is acceptable for every situation & place.

LOL! I remember my Dad also telling me, "You're intelligent, so I know you can find a better word to use." I couldn't even say "stupid" - "You're smart, Wendy. Find a better word."

I guess being polite and trying to make those around you as comfortable as possible and wishing others would do the same is judgmental.

 

[Zandy595]

There is nothing illegal about swearing. I tend to talk fairly low and someone would have to be paying pretty close attention to "my conversation" in order to hear a swear word. It's a case of MYOB. If my conversation offends someone so much, they can walk away. I'm not obligated to change my conversation just to make someone else happy.

How are they going to walk away if they're standing in line near you at Disney or the grocery store with their kids?

Why can't people care just a little about other people?

 

[smitch425]

I agree.

I was raised to be a lady. DH was raised to be a gentlemen. We're raising our children the same way. It doesn't make us superior or snooty or judgmental, but it appears it might make us part of the minority.

Don't chew with your mouth open, hold the door for the people behind you, say "please" & "thank you" & "excuse me," take turns & don't be grabby, smile & make eye contact, don't kick the seat of the person in front you, etc. And don't be loud & obnoxious because not everyone wants to hear you!

I don't think there's anything wrong w/ recognizing that there's a time & place for everything & not everything is acceptable for every situation & place.

Excellent post, and my thoughts exactly.

 

[sunshinehighway]

I try not to swear in public but have slipped a few times. The extreme swear word (begins with F) is awful. I cringe whenever I hear it. However, I have been know to say it when I am in total frustration. Not something I am proud of and would certainly apologize if anyone was upset if they heard me say it.

For some, cursing is a daily language for them. They are not even aware that it is vulgar to so many people. I just try to ignore them but will say something if it gets outlandish.

I do have a question. Is it any better to substitute another safe (non swearing) word instead of the swear word since the meaning is still the same? My daughter use to say "OH FUDGE" whenever something didn't go her way. I asked her why she used that word and she said "Because Miss D uses it". Miss D. was her daycare provider and even if my daughter didn't know the context in which the phrase was used said Miss D. certainly did.

Ok I'm a swearer but the bolded drives me nuts. I think it's hypocritical for people to say they don't swear but then replace other words with swears. I know lots of people won't agree with me but to me is just making that word a swear because for me is all about the meaning behind what you are saying.

 

[skylizard]

I guess being polite and trying to make those around you as comfortable as possible and wishing others would do the same is judgmental.

So it's not judgmental to say that just because someone uses a swear word that they aren't a gentleman/lady?

 

[Arsenal1982]

How are they going to walk away if they're standing in line near you at Disney or the grocery store with their kids?

Why can't people care just a little about other people?

There are other rides and other lines at the grocery store. Again, if my private conversation offends someone so much, that person has options.

 

[moon]

So it's not judgmental to say that just because someone uses a swear word that they aren't a gentleman/lady?

From Merriam-Webster

Gentleman c (2) : a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior

Lady: b : a woman of refinement and gentle manners

 

[Arsenal1982]

From Merriam-Webster

Gentleman c (2) : a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior

Lady: b : a woman of refinement and gentle manners

Point? I don't see anything about not swearing.

 

[Zandy595]

There are other rides and other lines at the grocery store. Again, if my private conversation offends someone so much, that person has options.

You're kidding right? If someone has stood in line near you for 30 minutes and then you start swearing, they should take their kids and go to the end of the line to get away from you? Wow

 

[Wendy31]

Point? I don't see anything about not swearing.

I think it's kinda implied w/ the "high standard of propriety or correct behavior" & "refinement and gentle manners".

I don't know... Do you think it's gentlemanly or ladylike to swear loudly and/or punctuate every word w/ curse words in normal conversations in which you can easily be overheard?

 

[moon]

Point? I don't see anything about not swearing.

I thought it was pretty clear, but OK

Part of being "a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior" or "a woman of refinement and gentle manners" is being considerate of those around you and not do things which make them uncomfortable.

Is the point clear now?

 

[skylizard]

From Merriam-Webster

Gentleman c (2) : a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior

Lady: b : a woman of refinement and gentle manners

And you're point?
Refinement, correct behavior and gentle manners can mean all sorts of things depending on who you ask.
I can guarantee you that even the Queen of England herself has said a swear word at least once in her life. Does that mean she's not a "lady"?
Just because you don't swear doesn't make you any more intelligent or classy or refined than someone who does.