Steps in relationships, when to move to another level?

[Nancyg56]

For what it's worth, my reading and comprehension skills(which admittedly are likely sorely lacking and flawed) don't read or comprehend the post you've quoted in the vein you seem to have done. It's not like I don't struggle on a daily basis to make a point clear when I post, only to discover I didn't even come close. So I'll leave room that I'm misunderstanding your habitual comments in threads regarding the pointlessness of continuing the thread and suggestions you are done with it, etc. which I've repeatedly understood as your criticism of a discussion continuing and registering your disapproval that anyone should choose to do so.

Clearly something is very wrong with me, because it tickles my funny bone and makes me giggle to call someone out for a thinly veiled personal attack by suggesting some simple reading and comprehension might show -- well anything.

Lol! Honestly, anyone who reads my posts know I never thinly veil anything. I don't have the language skills I guess!

 

[Bluestars]

Yes, especially for someone who has been dating 6 months and is "pre-engaged".

This comment made me laugh. Yes, it does seem especially excessive due to their pre-engagement status. I once knew a coworker who never let her husband see her without makeup. She even slept in her makeup. That's crazy.

 

[Pixiedustaway]

Maybe she has really ugly glasses????

Maybe

This comment made me laugh. Yes, it does seem especially excessive due to their pre-engagement status. I once knew a coworker who never let her husband see her without makeup. She even slept in her makeup. That's crazy.

That's nuts. But I don't see the op that far behind.

 

[Bluestars]

I'm not a "sucka" or a victim. If people don't want to comment to the OP for whatever reason then they don't have too. If people don't want to read the comments to the OP, then don't. Move along and don't open the thread. Its really simple.

Exactly. This is like hundreds of other threads on the Dis that seem to drag on and on. I thi

Maybe


That's nuts. But I don't see the op that far behind.

Me either. Sadly, it gets worse every time she posts. I feel very sorry for her. It must be exhausting to live a life like that. Even though people should know when they need to seek help, unfortunately they have to go through a lot of pain before that happens when they aren't ready. I wonder what happens in a person's early life to make them have so little self worth. It's just sad.

 

[jevs]

I'm just here to get dating and relationship advice

 

[Pixiedustaway]

Exactly. This is like hundreds of other threads on the Dis that seem to drag on and on. I thi


Me either. Sadly, it gets worse every time she posts. I feel very sorry for her. It must be exhausting to live a life like that. Even though people should know when they need to seek help, unfortunately they have to go through a lot of pain before that happens when they aren't ready. I wonder what happens in a person's early life to make them have so little self worth. It's just sad.

Agreed. On all points.

 

[Marchand63]

Can't someone lock this. I feel like it is piling on someone with a real disorder

 

[jevs]

Can't someone lock this. I feel like it is piling on someone with a real disorder

If you want it locked you can email a mod with your concerns.

But I'd put money on there being another thread in a couple of months with the same kind of stuff.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Can't someone lock this. I feel like it is piling on someone with a real disorder

If the OP has a serious disorder I doubt there is anyone here qualified to give advice.

The OP comes every once in awhile, gets everyone in a frenzy with her troubles then, finally after a long spell of pretty much the same advice as what's transpired here, deletes her posts and has the thread locked. Just bide your time.

 

[littlejimmy]

If the OP has a serious disorder I doubt there is anyone here qualified to give advice.

The OP comes every once in awhile, gets everyone in a frenzy with her troubles then, finally after a long spell of pretty much the same advice as what's transpired here, deletes her posts and has the thread locked. Just bide your time.

actually I am qualified to give advice, I don't have any kind of a degree in psychology or anything, but I did stay at a holiday inn express last night.

 

[phorsenuf]

Can't someone lock this. I feel like it is piling on someone with a real disorder

I'm not seeing any piling on. I see many people giving her advice. Granted some of it may be repetitive, but that's about it.
And since a Mod has been offering up help, I'm guessing they do not see a problem with this thread.

 

[Marchand63]

Being relatively new you guys would know better. But damn this is just sad.

 

[hereyago]

Can't someone lock this. I feel like it is piling on someone with a real disorder

Off topic, but even IF she has one, you do know that doesn't mean she can't manipulate? That goes for every human, all have the ability to manipulate. Whether it is to get attention or whatever that person wants.

 

[Marchand63]

I'm not seeing any piling on. I see many people giving her advice. Granted some of it may be repetitive, but that's about it.
And since a Mod has been offering up help, I'm guessing they do not see a problem with this thread.

Reading the last couple pages, it seems people are piling on. All the more sad if a Mod joins in.

 

[phorsenuf]

Being relatively new you guys would know better. But damn this is just sad.

Trust me, this is not piling on. Like you said, you are new here.

Off topic, but even IF she has one, you do know that doesn't mean she can't manipulate? That goes for every human, all have the ability to manipulate. Whether it is to get attention or whatever that person wants.

Yep. I can think of a few posters here that are very good at it.

 

[Marchand63]

Attention seeking or not if this is her reality, I do see a mental disorder. I work with Mentally ill, new here or not people should stop feeding her disorder.

With that stepping away.

 

[Disneylover99]

Reading the last couple pages, it seems people are piling on. All the more sad if a Mod joins in.

Actually, Lynne M. has offered some excellent advice.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Attention seeking or not if this is her reality, I do see a mental disorder. I work with Mentally ill, new here or not people should stop feeding her disorder.

With that stepping away.

You work with the mentally ill? In what capacity? What do you think the posters here should do, ignore Kathryn entirely? Can you diagnose a mental illness over the internet?

If you are qualified to advise, please state your title and advise away! This woman may need it, if you are correct.

 

[mombrontrent]

And your DH has complete understanding of what my DH was talking about. Once they've held your hair while you've puked. . .if they're still there in the morning it's got to be love.

My Dd14 gets really bad cramps with her period, enough to make her puke. I've walked by the bathroom to see her puking and her boyfriend holding her back on more then one occasion.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

My Dd14 gets really bad cramps with her period, enough to make her puke. I've walked by the bathroom to see her puking and her boyfriend holding her back on more then one occasion.

This thread just keeps on giving.