Stay at Home Wifes

[luvsmickeymouse]

We too are hoping to start a family soon. We are starting the adoption process soon and have always planned on her staying home once we started our family.

All I can say is the whole plan sounds wonderful.

 

[crisi]

Who cares what other people think? She shouldn't, but she should consider why she is responding to the possibility of negative criticism. If its completely external, yep - who cares. If it isn't - and it often isn't external when we have a strong response to what others think (when we are comfortable with our decisions, we can easily brush off others) then she needs to figure out why she does care. But if SHE does care about not being externally productive, there is lots she can do without actually being employed.

 

[Folklore]

Hi everyone! My DH was the OP on this thread so I thought I would give everyone an update.

I was having an extremly tough time last week when my employer did company-wide layoffs out of the blue. I think I bawled for 4 days trying to figure out what I was going to do. My wonderful DH's first comment was that I should stay at home. We have always talked about that being our dream for our family but I had a decent job, we were making great money and were preparing to buy our own "McMansion". We knew we were going to adopt due to many years of infertility but it seemed to always get pushed to the back burner.

Today is my first day of "retirement" and I have to say that things are going great. We are already seeing a lot of big positive differences in our lives and our marriage is already growing a lot closer and stronger. We went to an adoption seminar on Saturday and I have definately found the career I want of being a stay at home mom. I really do believe that if this wouldn't have happened we would have still been years away from starting the adoption process instead of months.

I just wanted to thank everyone for their encouragement. You all really helped me a ton and reminded me of why I love the DIS so much.

To my DH who is currently at work: I love you so very much! Thank you for making all my dreams come true!

 

[crisi]

Congrats and I hope your adoption path is smooth and quick.

 

[bjscheel]

That's great! I was just reading this and thinking about before I had kids- I worked just part-time and went to night school. I had time to bake bread and make noodles from scratch! That was before internet... I have time for that now too but instead I am eBaying and DISsing


DSIL made some "helpful" comments about full-time work which I ignored! She works constantly but that's her thing!

 

[Aliceacc]

Congrats!!

Please let me know if I can be of any help in the adoption process!

 

[DisneyMagicMommy]

Congrats...and good luck with adopting.

 

[rwrocksme]

I think that you and your wife have a great opprotunity to turn something stressful (losing a job) into something positive. The idea of doing voluenteer work is great, and I also think that she should persue something that she's always wanted to do--wether that be an artistic endevor or something athletic. And if people ask her questions?

"I am in HR at Me, Inc.!"

 

[pinkerbell]

Hi everyone! My DH was the OP on this thread so I thought I would give everyone an update.

I was having an extremly tough time last week when my employer did company-wide layoffs out of the blue. I think I bawled for 4 days trying to figure out what I was going to do. My wonderful DH's first comment was that I should stay at home. We have always talked about that being our dream for our family but I had a decent job, we were making great money and were preparing to buy our own "McMansion". We knew we were going to adopt due to many years of infertility but it seemed to always get pushed to the back burner.

Today is my first day of "retirement" and I have to say that things are going great. We are already seeing a lot of big positive differences in our lives and our marriage is already growing a lot closer and stronger. We went to an adoption seminar on Saturday and I have definately found the career I want of being a stay at home mom. I really do believe that if this wouldn't have happened we would have still been years away from starting the adoption process instead of months.

I just wanted to thank everyone for their encouragement. You all really helped me a ton and reminded me of why I love the DIS so much.

To my DH who is currently at work: I love you so very much! Thank you for making all my dreams come true!

So glad to hear from you... Glad things are going well!! If you can, keep us posted... we are always here for support too!!!
best wishes
pink

 

[reginaastralis]

Good luck to you both!

I hope everything works out quickly in the adoption process.

 

[phillmolly]

Wow! When I started reading this post, I thought, who wrote about me?? This just happned to me. I lost my job 5 weeks ago, the day before we left for WDW, and DH and I decided that I would stay at home for a while and try to have a baby! We tried years ago and it didn't happen and I have been wanting to try again for a while but it would be to stressfull while I was working. I didn't want to lose my job, but after a few weeks I realized what a blessing it was. Now I can concentrate on baby making. I already have made my first Dr appt and have started painting my computer room as well. Like the PP it was always our plan for me to be SAHM and now I have chance to make it happen. Good Luck to you with your plans to adopt. If nothing has happened in a year I will be looking in to it myself.

 

[Frankiesmom]

I am too a new stay-at-home mom;and I just feel so free! Free to enjoy my family more and make everyone happier! LOL. Best wishes on the whole plan! I wish you much luck with the adoption process and with building your family!

 

[Jacob'sMom]

Congrats on your decision. I decided to leave my job at the end of June to stay at home with our then 13 month old DS. Although money is very tight, it has been well worth it. DH has been so supportive through this process. He has said that he feels so much more at ease knowing that our son is home with me instead of with a sitter. He has even put a for sale sign on his beloved truck so that we can "loosen the belt". I will admit, we should have planned our finances better but we are making it work. I am looking for a Christmas job to make things a little easier but I do not regret my decision and I don't think DH does either.

Good luck to you and your DW through the adoption process.

 

[ALittleDisneyFan]

I am a stay at home wife.. No one brings it up. I'm sure they are all curious.. We have been in the process to adopt since April 2006, surely, we thought a child would be home at the end of 2006 promoting me to SAHM... but now ending 2007, still no promotion to SAHM.

Good luck

 

[Folklore]

Hi everyone! We are on week two and things are going great! I am staying really busy and am starting to use the organizational skills I used at work around the house. I have also found that my staying home has had a wonderful side effect on DH and he is now pitching in and helping out more than ever.

I am still working on the budget thing and it was a little hard this past weekend as we went on a small trip and I wanted to shop but I did really good and didn't buy a thing. Who knew I had that in me?

Everyone's encouragement has helped a ton and I really appreciate all the great comments and hearing everyone else's stories.

phillmolly: Good luck on the baby making! Dh and I went thru 6 years of fertility treatment so I have definately been there. I wish you the best of luck!

ALittleDisneyFan: I love you calling it a "promotion." I hope your wait ends soon! We are looking to start the adoption process in February after we sell our house so I will be playing the waiting game with you.

Thanks again everyone!

 

[Aliceacc]

I am a stay at home wife.. No one brings it up. I'm sure they are all curious.. We have been in the process to adopt since April 2006, surely, we thought a child would be home at the end of 2006 promoting me to SAHM... but now ending 2007, still no promotion to SAHM.

Good luck

Have you considered international adoption? Last time I heard, the turnaround time for a Korean adoption was under a year.

It's not for everyone, but it was the right choice for us. Let me know if you need more info.

 

[Helpmate]

Are they any stay at home wifes out there without children? This week my wife was lost her job, company wide lay offs and I make a good living. We have decided that she would stay at home, but she is worried that some people think less of her because we do not have any kids. Does anyone have any suggestions for how to help my loving wife not worry so much.

Do what you guys believe is best for your family. Period. People will always have something to say about your choices, but the thing is that they are just that. YOUR CHOICES. And you guys will have to live with them, whether you make them for yourselves or whether you allow others to bully you into doing what they are doing. I encourage you two to just enjoy the time you have together now. As your family grows, things change. Change is good, but sometimes startling! At least until you get the hang of it.

 

[MickeyCrazedMom]

Hi! Just wanted to add my 2 cents. I had a few months off of work before our son was born. It was a domestic adoption and there was alot to do before he came home. But...it was hard being in an empty house all day waiting for the phone to ring. Try to keep busy and spend time with adults. You won't get much time once the baby is home!

On another note - nice to see so many families joined by adoption on here! We have 2 beautiful children and are currently hoping for a third!

 

[tinytink]

Hi! Just wanted to add my 2 cents. I had a few months off of work before our son was born. It was a domestic adoption and there was alot to do before he came home. But...it was hard being in an empty house all day waiting for the phone to ring. Try to keep busy and spend time with adults. You won't get much time once the baby is home!

On another note - nice to see so many families joined by adoption on here! We have 2 beautiful children and are currently hoping for a third!

Hi, I am usually found on the Budget Board or the Disney Cruise Board but I just thought I would check on here for a "Holyween" treat idea for my DD's class tomorrow and I happened upon this thread. I just wanted to say congrats&good luck to all of you looking for some PD.

I also am a "Home Engineer aka SAHM" to my four children. I see the wheels in peoples heads spinning when they ask me what I do for a living and I say "Home Engineer". Hope that brightens your outlook on being a stay at home person.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

Are they any stay at home wifes out there without children? This week my wife was lost her job, company wide lay offs and I make a good living. We have decided that she would stay at home, but she is worried that some people think less of her because we do not have any kids. Does anyone have any suggestions for how to help my loving wife not worry so much.

My mother is a stay-at-home wife with grown children (ages 35, 33, 31, and 20). Some people think it's weird, but if it works for them, who cares?