Thanks for all the replies, it sounds like the engineering outlook is much more hopeful than I had been hearing.
I think both DH and I have been so down lately about the state of our own fields that I just feel stressed at times worrying about how things will turn out for our kids. My parents really didn't weigh in on career options at all, on the one hand it's good not having pressure over the choices and that's not my intention with my kids either, but on the other hand it helps to have a little feedback too, because life at 15 looks way different than it does at 43 when you're stuck doing something you absolutely can't stand.
I think both DH and I have been so down lately about the state of our own fields that I just feel stressed at times worrying about how things will turn out for our kids. My parents really didn't weigh in on career options at all, on the one hand it's good not having pressure over the choices and that's not my intention with my kids either, but on the other hand it helps to have a little feedback too, because life at 15 looks way different than it does at 43 when you're stuck doing something you absolutely can't stand.