First off God Bless you for doing that work.

That was a beautiful story .

My Mom had alzheimer and I took care of her until the end.The last 13 mths of her life I had Hospice come in to help me and they bathed her which was SUCH a relief to me.She once told the CNA...Didn't they tell you I don't take baths in the winter!
Ya know how they have the books..."Kis's Say the Darndest Things!" Well I think they should have one for people with memory loss or traumatic brain injuries! I had a friend in college who got ina bad accident in the winter with a semi and she was never the same as before.
I loved visiting her on the hospital floor she was on because you never knew who was going to yell out, "Hi M- fer," or "Nice h00ters," or anything else that a brain not damaged would cause them to filter.
Nicole and I were at Target in Omaha one day and in line to pay for things. Tons of people around us and all of a sudden she blurts out, "I miss sex!" I was dying inside and laughing at her because she looked at me like, "Well I do," and no different than if she would have said, "I miss chicken nuggets."
There was a little old lady behind us who looked shocked, I turned to her and said, "You have to understand my friend had a traumatic brain injury and is working on word control."
She nodded in understanding, then leaned in to talk to Nicole more discretely and said, "I miss it too and wish I had the guts to tell the world." 



You just never know how your life will be altered on any given day ya know!
Sorry about your mom but I am glad she brought you some sunshine even in the darkness. 
Dawn!
How the heck are ya?!?
I will be back later and do a new chapter and get somewhat caught up...Treyner got scholarships totalling $4,000 for his being an out of state student and a transfer student but it still was short and Chad and I decided since it was a lesser amount he was short compared to teh last school, instead of taking out a parent loan, we would just pay as we went. Treyner also got grants and loans in his own name of course.
Next year will be the year his full ride would start. Hopefully at Anderson or if things do not work well there, at a NAIA school in the midwest for sure.
At Anderson they had 2 boys come to the states to play soccer from Norway. First thing they did was get a tv and a x box. They were at a GPA of .08 and 1.12. Coach wants to throttle them I guess because now they are not elligible to play spring soccer!
I do not understand how it is possible to screw up that bad! Esp. if you have a lot riding on it.
I think the biggest problem some kids have is when they have controlling parents who never let them make choices or mistakes and then they get to college with all this freedom they do not know what to do with, they are destined for problems.
Treyner had freedom of bedtime and quite a bit his senior year. he practised soccer late night and often was not home till 11 p.m. from that. He suffered the consequences for those choices, had to negotiate better time management and now, pretty much has his stuff together about most parts of college. He did okay his first semester but needs to step it up this semester. Confidence is his downfall. He assumes he can get caught up quicker than he can with reading usually.
Nobody is prepared for how much homework is in college but if they have that to figure out how to manage and balance eating well, sleeping well, partying and friends, freedom of time etc., ....I think it putting a kid into a firestorm.