Well, to be honest we have a 20 year old so we would most likely book an adults only trip. I, like you, like children but we only have one and love her to pieces but we found ourselves drawn to the 18+ section throughout our
DCL cruise last year and think that suits us best so I'm glad they offer an adults only with the
ABD.
Have you tried a
Disney cruise yet? They do offer several military discounts (somehow I think that might apply to your family, but I could be mistaken, too!

). Either way, they are wonderful and in my opinion, well worth the money. However, once again, we got a surprise upgrade which spoiled us! So wonderful but how easy it is to get spoiled!!
I shared some of your review with my husband last night and we are going to have to decide which trip will be next, DCL vs. ABD. Too bad we can't afford both!!
Are you planning any more trips at this time? We will be staying for 3 days at the Animal Kingdom Lodge prior to the cruise this year, so I'll let you know how it compares to the BC!