DisneyKevin
Kelvis
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I keep hearing the same word being used over and over.
The word is clique.
I keep hearing that there are cliques on the Dis Unplugged Board so I went to Webster's Online Disctionary and found the following:
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clique
Pronunciation: \ˈklēk, ˈklik\
Function: noun
Etymology: French
Date: 1711
: a narrow exclusive circle or group of persons ; especially : one held together by common interests, views, or purposes
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After reading the description, I thought yeah...there is a clique.
The entire Dis Unplugged Board is a clique
The exclusivity comes from the fact that the vast majority of folks posting on this board came here because of listening to the Podcast.
The part that really got me was "held together by common interests, views, or purposes".
We might not all have the same views (ya think???) or purposes....but wecertainly all share a common interest.
I also realize that not everyone can participate in every activity that the Dis organizes. I cant participate in every activity we organize. It's just not possible time wise, responsibilty wise, financially etc. But just because we cant all participate does not mean we are excluded from the conversation or enjoying the fact that others have had a terrific time.
There are also going to be jokes and references that not everyone will understand. That's inevitable. It happens in every aspect of life. If you joined the group of friends John and I regularly hang out with, you would most certainly be welcome....but there is a history already in place and jokes and refernces to things that have already happened that you may not understand. It doesnt make you less a part of the group. It just makes you the newbie and with that position comes the learning curve.
I have gotten to be an age that at one time seemed impossible and in all my years....I have never seen a friendlier or more inclusive group that the folks I find right here on these boards. You can find support, advice, condolence, laughter, debate, information, knowledge, comfort...you get the idea.
I keep telling new folks that might find this already well established group a bit intimidating....just stick out your hand....someone will grab it and pull you in. These are friendly folks.
But I also need to add....no one gets a free ride. Once you have been pulled in, you have the responsibility to become part of the "clique". The very best way to do that is to become involved...become part of the community. My grandmother used to tell me to have friends, you need to be a friend.
If there is an ongoing discussion about something in which you didnt get a chance to participate....either dive in head first and learn the lingo.....or start a thread of your own about a topic that interests you. Either way.....you need to get involved. It's going to take you A WHILE to learn the names and personalities and for them to learn yours, but it will happen.
The last thing I have to say is that if you put out constant negativity and snarky comments....please dont be surprised when thats what you get in return.
This board has many attributes of a large, far flung family. We agree, we disagree, we laugh, we cry, we celebrate, we mourn, we support, we chastise, we tell each other when we are right and we tell each other when we are wrong.....but like a large tight knit family we also get defensive when we feel one of ours is being attacked or bullied.
So please....if you feel that you want to be part of the "clique"....put yourself out there. Someone will pull you in and then you have to get started.
Welcome.
The word is clique.
I keep hearing that there are cliques on the Dis Unplugged Board so I went to Webster's Online Disctionary and found the following:
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clique
Pronunciation: \ˈklēk, ˈklik\
Function: noun
Etymology: French
Date: 1711
: a narrow exclusive circle or group of persons ; especially : one held together by common interests, views, or purposes
********************************************************
After reading the description, I thought yeah...there is a clique.
The entire Dis Unplugged Board is a clique
The exclusivity comes from the fact that the vast majority of folks posting on this board came here because of listening to the Podcast.
The part that really got me was "held together by common interests, views, or purposes".
We might not all have the same views (ya think???) or purposes....but wecertainly all share a common interest.
I also realize that not everyone can participate in every activity that the Dis organizes. I cant participate in every activity we organize. It's just not possible time wise, responsibilty wise, financially etc. But just because we cant all participate does not mean we are excluded from the conversation or enjoying the fact that others have had a terrific time.
There are also going to be jokes and references that not everyone will understand. That's inevitable. It happens in every aspect of life. If you joined the group of friends John and I regularly hang out with, you would most certainly be welcome....but there is a history already in place and jokes and refernces to things that have already happened that you may not understand. It doesnt make you less a part of the group. It just makes you the newbie and with that position comes the learning curve.
I have gotten to be an age that at one time seemed impossible and in all my years....I have never seen a friendlier or more inclusive group that the folks I find right here on these boards. You can find support, advice, condolence, laughter, debate, information, knowledge, comfort...you get the idea.
I keep telling new folks that might find this already well established group a bit intimidating....just stick out your hand....someone will grab it and pull you in. These are friendly folks.
But I also need to add....no one gets a free ride. Once you have been pulled in, you have the responsibility to become part of the "clique". The very best way to do that is to become involved...become part of the community. My grandmother used to tell me to have friends, you need to be a friend.
If there is an ongoing discussion about something in which you didnt get a chance to participate....either dive in head first and learn the lingo.....or start a thread of your own about a topic that interests you. Either way.....you need to get involved. It's going to take you A WHILE to learn the names and personalities and for them to learn yours, but it will happen.
The last thing I have to say is that if you put out constant negativity and snarky comments....please dont be surprised when thats what you get in return.
This board has many attributes of a large, far flung family. We agree, we disagree, we laugh, we cry, we celebrate, we mourn, we support, we chastise, we tell each other when we are right and we tell each other when we are wrong.....but like a large tight knit family we also get defensive when we feel one of ours is being attacked or bullied.
So please....if you feel that you want to be part of the "clique"....put yourself out there. Someone will pull you in and then you have to get started.
Welcome.
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