Solve a debate between my DH and I...

[momofmikey]

My DH and I are disagreeing about a silly topic.

If someone tells you that they're going on vacation with such and such family, what does that mean to you?

My DH thinks that means they're all going the same week, and will try to meet up occasionally - seeing each other minimally during the week.

I think it means everyone has a plan to hang out together most of the time, e.g. let's meet in the hotel lobby at 8 am, and head out to MK together. I interpret it to be your plan is to be together most, if not all, of the time.

What do you think?

 

[TangaroaTiki]

I think it means everyone has a plan to hang out together most of the time, e.g. let's meet in the hotel lobby at 8 am, and head out to MK together. I interpret it to be your plan is to be together most, if not all, of the time.

What do you think?

This part

 

[luvmy3]

If you say "we are going the same time as or week of such and such family", I would think you are staying seperate places and doing different things and maybe meet up. When you say you are going with, that to me means you are sharing a vacation with them.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

I think it's more a combination of the two. Probably staying in the same hotel and seeing everyone in the morning and the evening... maybe always having a meal together. But still doing your own thing.

Probably depends on how many people are involved, too. And how many of them are children.

 

[Mailloux]

To me it means you are going together to the same place at the same time and plan to follow the same itinerary. You eat together, go to the same sites/park together etc. So I would agree with you.

 

[MizTink]

i guess it could mean either.
but unless clarified, i would assume it meant they would be spending the majority of their time together.
for me and my family it means we are together every second. unless in the bathroom!! and even that isn't completely out of the question!

 

[happygirl]

I agree with you OP

 

[golfgal]

I agree with you, unless it is discussed before hand. My sister keeps wanting to do these big family trips and we keep saying NO because if we do that, she will expect everyone to do everything she wants or her kids want and since her kids are 7 and 10 and my kids are in high school, um, no sorry.

When we travel with other people we generally state in advance, these are our plans, you are MORE than welcome to join us at any time, if not, lets catch up for dinner .

 

[mumom95]

I think it means everyone has a plan to hang out together most of the time, e.g. let's meet in the hotel lobby at 8 am, and head out to MK together. I interpret it to be your plan is to be together most, if not all, of the time.

What do you think?

I think it usually means this. But, if they're smart, I think they won't overdue the "togetherness" time.

 

[Magic Mom]

My DH and I are disagreeing about a silly topic.

If someone tells you that they're going on vacation with such and such family, what does that mean to you?

My DH thinks that means they're all going the same week, and will try to meet up occasionally - seeing each other minimally during the week.

I think it means everyone has a plan to hang out together most of the time, e.g. let's meet in the hotel lobby at 8 am, and head out to MK together. I interpret it to be your plan is to be together most, if not all, of the time.

What do you think?

You're both potentially right. It depends on the families going. Some might prefer to just meet up occasionally, and some might love planning everything together.

You both win!

 

[bgirldeb]

I think it means everyone has a plan to hang out together most of the time, e.g. let's meet in the hotel lobby at 8 am, and head out to MK together. I interpret it to be your plan is to be together most, if not all, of the time.

This.

 

[MIGrandma]

We have cruised a couple of times with DH's sister and her husband. We have staterooms either side by side, or a few doors from each other. We don't necessarily spend all day together though. We may run into them throughout the day on the ship, but we always do separate excursions (they are beach, party boat people, we are not) and then have dinner together at night and talk about our day. Then we usually hang together for the evening and go to the show, or a bar and have a few drinks and dance, etc.

We are renting a cabin together in the Pigeon Forge area, for a week. We will see each other in the mornings, but will "do our own thing" during the days and maybe meet up at a restaurant for dinner, or maybe not. Will probably spend the later evenings together, playing in the game room at the cabin (pool, air hockey, darts) and having a few drinks in the hot tub. We may go hiking together in the mountains, or we may not. We love being flexible with each other, and not getting our noses out of joint if we don't spend "enough" time together.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

I take it to mean that you're going to spend a lot of time with your family. That's the case with my family when we go with my cousins.

But it can be interpreted either way.

 

[Art 1]

There is no correct answer, it's just what you end up doing. There is no right or wrong to this question.

I know this, we would never, ever go on vacation with another family.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I'm with you OP, that's how I'd take the statement too.

Unless a guy made the statement because they, like your DH, tend to roll it all up differently. Women are usually very deliberate in how they present their social relationships.

 

[Robinrs]

You're both potentially right. It depends on the families going. Some might prefer to just meet up occasionally, and some might love planning everything together.

You both win!

I agree. Just as the two of you are not on the same page, the families involved may have different intentions and ideas.

 

[DMickey28]

If I "go on vacation" with my parents we usually rent a condo together and spend the majority of the time together. We do this with Myrtle Beach and cruises.

This year we are going to WDW in December. Some friends are going to be there at the same time and we are going to meet up occassionally. My parents are also going to be in Orlando and will meet up with them too. We are not going with any of them though.

 

[aprilgail2]

I agree with you OP....if you go on vacation together you are hanging out together WAY to much as far as I am concerned LOL....

 

[LoraJ]

I think it depends on the family. What if one set has smaller children and the other has older ones. I wouldn't expect then all to stick together. And unless one family is paying for all families, I really don't think anyone should be forced to spend the entire time with the whole family.

My parents are taking DH and I and my brother and his family on a cruise next year for their 50th anniversary. I think the only time we are obligated to spend with them is at dinner. Maybe we will do a shore excursion or two together, but we won't have to be together 24/7.

I think the boundaries should be set before you go. If your immediate family wants a day of bonding together away from the rest, plan it ahead of time.

 

[Disneycrazy!!]

I think it means you will be doing the same thing together everyday. You may occasionally do something different but for the most part together.