Well, I guess this post really gets to the nuts and bolts of the issue. If I am forced to attend his work party, yet again, and have to cancel on our friends to do it, I will NOT be happy. I will be very unhappy. With everybody's busy schedules we are often only able to get the three families together once a year, and twice if we are lucky. My husband will not appreciate my efforts to accommodate him; he simply expects that I will. Just like he expects that I will accompany him to this party every year without ever bothering to ask me if I want to go, or as in this case, even telling me the date. It roasts my chestnuts that for him, me changing my plans, that he agreed to, should be "no big deal", but him changing his plans will apparently take an Act of Parliament.
Yeah, I knew about the party. I also had a pretty good idea that it was probably going to be on the Saturday in question, but I wasn't sure. That's why I asked. He rarely misses or reschedules anything that conflicts with something else that is going on in the family. Over the years we have missed out on doing certain things because he had a conflict (oh, sorry, we can't leave on Friday to go camping because I have a soccer game Friday night, etc). I am just tired of him not paying attention to what I am saying. If he was paying attention and did what I asked he would have seen the date of the Saturday and KNEW it was his party (he said "I knew it was the 10th, I just didn't know it was next Saturday). I am tired of him making mistakes or forgetting about things and just simply expecting me to fix them. I am tired of being taken for granted and I don't want to fix this and make it easy for him. This time I don't want to cancel something I want to do, so I can do something I don't want to do!
Yes, I know, I have a marriage issue.
