RickinNYC
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Was curious to hear your feedback on this one. I had recommended a good friend for an entry level position at a major local non-profit I used to work for. He was unhappy almost from the first day because he didn't feel he was being paid enough. Always grousing and complaining to me until I had enough and reminded him that I was the one that got him the position to begin with. I also encouraged him to quit quite honestly.
But here's the best part. I had since left the job a year ago and have moved on. He stayed and continued to complain. Turns out that he stoll $5,000 in donated funds from the organization. They have proof, I've seen it. I met with the higher ups of that organization recently to assure them I was as surprised as they were and to offer my apologies for having recommended him in the first place.
I learned of all this in the past few weeks and my "friend" and I haven't spoken in the interim. He's tried but I've avoided him. I honestly don't know what to say to him. For the first time ever, I'm at a loss for words. I want to tell him that I'm shocked at his actions, that I'm pissed that he put my reputation on the line (the non-profit community in NY is pretty small), that he lied and basically that he stole money that would have been used to put food on the table of the less fortunate. He is such a selfish, self-serving person in my mind now that I do know he's pretty much erased any friendship I've had with him. He truly does disgust me for what he did. Stealing money from the poor. How low can a loser get?
Can you tell I'm enraged at this idiot?
Anyway, I usually don't have any problem stating my opinions but given our mutual friendships, I don't want to blast him too much although he deserves it. Part of me says, screw it and lay it on him. The other says give him a break, you don't know what drove him to do it (it was greed, plain and simple). So what would you guys do? I'm honestly curious to hear your feedback.
I want to stick him in a potato sack, tie the top shut, and pound on him with a bat.
But here's the best part. I had since left the job a year ago and have moved on. He stayed and continued to complain. Turns out that he stoll $5,000 in donated funds from the organization. They have proof, I've seen it. I met with the higher ups of that organization recently to assure them I was as surprised as they were and to offer my apologies for having recommended him in the first place.
I learned of all this in the past few weeks and my "friend" and I haven't spoken in the interim. He's tried but I've avoided him. I honestly don't know what to say to him. For the first time ever, I'm at a loss for words. I want to tell him that I'm shocked at his actions, that I'm pissed that he put my reputation on the line (the non-profit community in NY is pretty small), that he lied and basically that he stole money that would have been used to put food on the table of the less fortunate. He is such a selfish, self-serving person in my mind now that I do know he's pretty much erased any friendship I've had with him. He truly does disgust me for what he did. Stealing money from the poor. How low can a loser get?
Can you tell I'm enraged at this idiot?
Anyway, I usually don't have any problem stating my opinions but given our mutual friendships, I don't want to blast him too much although he deserves it. Part of me says, screw it and lay it on him. The other says give him a break, you don't know what drove him to do it (it was greed, plain and simple). So what would you guys do? I'm honestly curious to hear your feedback.
I want to stick him in a potato sack, tie the top shut, and pound on him with a bat.