So this is what mid-life crisis feels like? Dec 2011 PTR

[shocky5]

Here is the one good thing about my day today thus far....

99 Days and counting down....

It's officially my day to begin the double digit dance!!

While I don't think I'm ready to delve into what these past couple of days have produced, just keep my family in your positive thoughts, please. And wish me wisdom to make sure my eyes are wide open and observant.

 

[KatMark]

Here is the one good thing about my day today thus far....

99 Days and counting down....

It's officially my day to begin the double digit dance!!

While I don't think I'm ready to delve into what these past couple of days have produced, just keep my family in your positive thoughts, please. And wish me wisdom to make sure my eyes are wide open and observant.

DOUBLE DIGITS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!







Your family is in my positive thoughts and I'm sending you a

 

[tankgirl427]

WOOHOOOO! Double digits!

 

[swwake]

Hooray for double digits! (Me too!)

 

[momabaarjo]

Jeaolus...I still have 8 more days until I can do the double digit dance with you!

 

[annmarieda]

Here is the one good thing about my day today thus far....

99 Days and counting down....

It's officially my day to begin the double digit dance!!

While I don't think I'm ready to delve into what these past couple of days have produced, just keep my family in your positive thoughts, please. And wish me wisdom to make sure my eyes are wide open and observant.

 

[shocky5]

DOUBLE DIGITS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!







Your family is in my positive thoughts and I'm sending you a

Thank you, thank you!

WOOHOOOO! Double digits!

Thank you! Thank you!

Hooray for double digits! (Me too!)

WOOHOO FOR YOU!

Thank you thank you!

 

[shocky5]

Jeaolus...I still have 8 more days until I can do the double digit dance with you!

Oh my... I can't wait to see this!!!

 

[shocky5]

Okay... so here's an update to my week. And I'm not even sure if this is something I can post on the dis so I may have to talk 'code' and if you have questions - PM me.

So in a nutshell... a parent's worst nightmare would be a teacher or an authoritative figure in their child's life taking advantage of their child in an inappropriate manner... right? Or one of the worst nightmares I can think of anyway...

First I should say that this has not happened to any of my children but the question of it being a possibility had been presented to me a couple of days ago. My DD confided in me that her best friend had confided in her a couple of weeks ago that 'an authoritative figure' may have hmmm... directed his attention towards her in an inappropriate manner. And here is where the dominos begin to fall...

DD, and after talking to her best friend's mother, 100% believes that her friend thinks this happened to her, and rightfully so she is entitled to her feelings. In the very least, her feelings tell me that this person made her uncomfortable whether the intention was there or not. So automatically, DD is now ultra sensitive and has been 'waiting' to see if something like this happens to her. After a strange incident in the library at school on Wed, she finally tells me what's going on.

Now in this 'authoritative figure's' defense, I truly believe the intentions were not of ill will. This is after conferences with other students/parents/prinicpals/school counselor. Needless to say, it has been extremely difficult to go through a process such as this to determine this person is most likely just 'different.' SO I've been avidly talking/educating my daughter on appropriate vs inappropriate behavior and what to look for, how to have a voice, and so forth in the hopes that we are 'right' that the intentions were not intended to harm. I'm not one to really show a lot of emotion in regards to myself, but I lost it yesterday morning, and even sitting here typing this out I want to cry. Mostly the stress of making good choices as there is so many dynamics involved in this... I hate that Erin's friend was made to feel uncomfortable to begin with, and it's scary to consider the 'what if we are wrong' factor and something worse happens. The main goal is to keep the students safe and feeling they are in a safe environment but on the other hand, the 'person' is not guilty of anything other than a misperception (and I promise this has been looked into throughly, including school surveillance video) so you definitely don't want to ruin a person's career/reputation because this person invaded someone's personal space without even realizing my DD's friend has a very big bubble around her that she likes.

I have no advice... it's all being monitored... I think I'm more now just hoping other kids haven't caught wind of this which in turn will make for an uncomfortable situation for the professional and DD's best friend. I've left out a lot of details, etc. but didn't want to clog up this PTR with too much negative junk.

I NEED MY VACATION LIKE YESTERDAY...

 

[swwake]

Wow - that is a scare, and a lot to think about. I can see how it could be mentally draining. December can't get her quickly enough!

 

[shocky5]

Wow - that is a scare, and a lot to think about. I can see how it could be mentally draining. December can't get her quickly enough!

That is no lie, friend!

 

[KatMark]

Amy, I cannot even phantom having to go through something like that. No wonder you've had a difficult time lately. I hope it all stays calm and nothing more develops. I will be thinking about you.

You definitely need a vacation after that ordeal.

 

[tankgirl427]

I honestly don't know what to say. That has to be super difficult to deal with and worry about. Hope things get better for you soon!

 

[annmarieda]

I agree, December needs to be here NOW! I am so sorry to hear of this type of stress hitting close to home like this.

 

[momabaarjo]

WOW...hugs to you! It is so hard to know where to draw the line on situations like this!

Print out the picture of the castle and hide it somewhere when you need a happy place!

 

[shocky5]

Amy, I cannot even phantom having to go through something like that. No wonder you've had a difficult time lately. I hope it all stays calm and nothing more develops. I will be thinking about you.

You definitely need a vacation after that ordeal.

I honestly don't know what to say. That has to be super difficult to deal with and worry about. Hope things get better for you soon!

I agree, December needs to be here NOW! I am so sorry to hear of this type of stress hitting close to home like this.

WOW...hugs to you! It is so hard to know where to draw the line on situations like this!

Print out the picture of the castle and hide it somewhere when you need a happy place!

Thank you so much. It helped to just vent it out a little bit on here - today was a good day - I know this person was 'talked' to and all seemed normal today, so I'm hoping we are all 'thinking in the appropriate direction' that it was a misunderstanding, this person can be aware of what was perceived and I feel like they will either be super cautious (which I feel bad about - but again have to respect the girl's feelings of discomfort) or if this person tries to 'test a boundary' elsewhere - then we will know there could be more to it. It's just something that unfortunately is all too common but you don't consider it could ever be so close to home.

On a happy note - stayed home tonight - Nolan wasn't feeling too great so we skipped dad's football game and stayed in! I got some more work done on the house - my sister in law and her DH are coming in tonight to stay the night and watch the boy's games tomorrow. Hoping Nolan feels better tomorrow... he seems on the up and up - somewhat congested and Eddie and Erin both just got over colds... so I'm going to force cold medicine down him tonight and send him to bed.

I have a confession to make... I said DSIL and her DH are coming in to town tonight...we are supposed to be at DH's football game and call them when we are headed back to town - they were going to visit some other friends until we got home... I haven't told them we didn't go to the game... I really wanted to work on the house and clean it up before I called them. They haven't been in our new house yet... they will snoop... So I guess here pretty quick I need to let them in on the fact that we are actually home. But I'm sure they are having a good time visiting their friends.

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

 

[KatMark]

Amy, so glad things were better today. I hope Nolan feels better, and that you enjoy your company. Have a great weekend.

 

[shocky5]

Amy, so glad things were better today. I hope Nolan feels better, and that you enjoy your company. Have a great weekend.

Thanks Kathy! We had a good weekend! Hope you did as well and you continue to get over your illness you had there for a bit!

 

[shocky5]

I finally took the time today to snap pictures and get them uploaded to the computer to share with you!

First things first... most of you are aware that I traded in our theme park view at the poly for new dining room furniture for our house...

Still happy with this decision! The table, chairs and buffet/hutch are what I ended up buying with the 'swap.'

 

[KatMark]

Absolutely beautiful, Amy. And I think you made a great decision.