SO - did you/would you get a pre-nup?

[AustinMommyofThree]

No and no. I never would have married my husband if he'd requested one and I suspect he'd say the same thing about me. But the fact that he never would have asked, and the fact that he knows I never would have asked, is part of why we knew we were well matched.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

We did not and if I had it to do over again, we still would not.

If I had to remarry at my age (50) or later, I might consider it.

 

[DisneylandDarling]

Absolutely, but I also have a hard time trusting people in general. Extremely good at times, bad at others. You may think it's going to work out long term, but you just never know. I would want to make sure my assets were guarded and keep myself protected should anything arise.

 

[amberpi]

No and no. I never would have married my husband if he'd requested one and I suspect he'd say the same thing about me. But the fact that he never would have asked, and the fact that he knows I never would have asked, is part of why we knew we were well matched.

Interesting, I wouldn't marry someone who wouldn't sign one. I mean, are they looking at me as a cash cow? Yikes!

 

[bdcp]

Nope and I wouldn't marry anyone who wanted one. To me it's planning for failure. Divorce isn't an option. Married 36 years. We married at 21 and 24 and we feel there's a lot to say for building everything together as we had basically nothing when we married. Love him to death even if he drives me freaking crazy sometimes but I would never divorce him and he would never divorce me.

 

[amberpi]

Nope and I wouldn't marry anyone who wanted one. To me it's planning for failure. Divorce isn't an option. Married 36 years. We married at 21 and 24 and we feel there's a lot to say for building everything together as we had basically nothing when we married. Love him to death even if he drives me freaking crazy sometimes but I would never divorce him and he would never divorce me.

I was abused, should I have stayed? Divorce was my choice over violence.

 

[AustinMommyofThree]

Interesting, I wouldn't marry someone who wouldn't sign one. I mean, are they looking at me as a cash cow? Yikes!

And I'd wonder "Is he planning for us to fail?" and "Why is he keeping his shoes on and one foot out the door?" But I've only been married once, we're still going strong at almost twenty years of marriage, and I don't see it changing, so it hasn't been an issue.

 

[bdcp]

I was abused, should I have stayed? Divorce was my choice over violence.

I never said that. I said divorce isn't an option for DH and I. Abuse and adultery are grounds for divorce but that's not what this thread asked.

 

[amberpi]

I never said that. I said divorce isn't an option for DH and I. Abuse and adultery are grounds for divorce but that's not what this thread asked.

And thank god I protected myself financially.

 

[RitaE]

Nope. There wasn't a point in it when we got married as we barely even owned the clothes on our backs. At this point any assets that we want preserved for future generations are in Trust accounts and not marital assets regardless. But heck, I've been married to this one for 30 years. I'm really not interested in finding another one so if something happens I'll likely just be a single party girl.

 

[bdcp]

And thank god I protected myself financially.

You have a bias in asking this question, but you did ask if others would and we've given you what we would do.

 

[bdcp]

Nope. There wasn't a point in it when we got married as we barely even owned the clothes on our backs. At this point any assets that we want preserved for future generations are in Trust accounts and not marital assets regardless. But heck, I've been married to this one for 30 years. I'm really not interested in finding another one so if something happens I'll likely just be a single party girl.

I've told my DH if something happens to him I am never dating again lol.

 

[amberpi]

You have a bias in asking this question, but you did ask if others would and we've given you what we would do.

Your "divorce isn't an option" is pretty brutal. But good luck.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Yep. I consider it like insurance. I hope to never need it, but have it there just in case.

 

[bdcp]

Your "divorce isn't an option" is pretty brutal. But good luck.

I think after 36 years, we pretty much have a handle on it. Don't need luck, just two completely committed people.

 

[tcufrog]

We were young and broke so it wasn’t even a consideration. If my dh died and I remarried I would have one and would tell my intended that it’s to make my kids more comfortable with the marriage. At this point in my life I have two kids an significant assets so things are very different.

 

[morgan98]

I love divorce threads on the DIS. Being divorced once (however, now remarried) it is always interesting to read the responses about how "it" could never happen to them.

I thought it would never happen to me. Everyone thought we were perfect, etc.etc. Never say never is all I can say. And sometimes, you do not have a choice.

 

[Meriweather]

no prenup... neither of us had any assets. Poor college students and 20 years old.

 

[DisneyHardin]

DH and I were fairly young when we married and didn't have too much to "protect." If something ever happened to him and I were to marry again, I probably would get one because now I have a good amount of money in retirement and a big chunk of money in equity in my house that I would be bringing to a relationship.

 

[goofyintoronto]

If there were a lot of money and assets at risk, then heck ya i'd want a prenup. And i'd have no issues signing a prenup either if the situation was reversed. Bring it on.

When we did marry though, we were both broke. So a prenup wasnt necessary. (we're divorced now).