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[tennisfan]

 

[florida sun]

Im so sorry to hear this Claire, thinking of you

 

[jns]

sending you some

 

[saratogagirl]

I am so sorry darling girl, huge hugs to you xxxxx

 

[TotallyAngelic]

You sound as though you have thought this through and are making this decision in the best interests of your family and your future life. Sending hugs to help you through the tough times as it must have been a very difficult and emotional decision to make. Take care

 

[mark&sue]

Claire

Knowing all you have been through over your time with Colin I can't imagine how hard this must be for you.

I am not sure you are going to manage it as it is always going to be a lot easier to get back with him than to force yourself away from him. Being friends with someone you love and still fancey is going to be exceptionally difficult. As nothing has changed this is going to be a lot harder than when someone actually leaves you and leaves you with no choice.

You will need all your strengh. Is Colin still going to Disney? If so this is gong to be very hard.

Thinking of you Claire at this very difficult time for you. I truly admire your courage for breaking away from someone you still love when you know its not right. I have never been strong enough to do the "right" thing.

I feel your pain so much. I wish I could come round and give you a hug


susan xxxx

 

[scojos]

im sorry i can t give you any insight into a difficult period in your life, but i think you are amazing, you have made a difficult decision and you dont need to justify yourself
i wish you and your kids every happiness in the future, stay strong for them

goodluck princess
tracy

 

[joolz1910]

That must have been an incredibly hard decision. I admire your strength.

 

[arieljasmine]

Big, big hugs, honey

It sounds as though you have spent a lot of time thinking your decision through, so allow yourself time to heal and don't be so hard on yourself. And of course you deserve sympathy (and lots of chocolate).

Laur's xx

 

[Goofyish]

 

[catherine]

 

[strawberry blonde]

So sorry Claire but I admire your strength in doing this.

 

[fizz13]

aww thankyou everyone, so many replies

Your messages have been so comforting to read, and a lot of you have said I'm brave, done the right thing, and that has made me feel better about my decision. Susan, you are right that its so easy to go back, especially when that person doesn't dissapear from your life and there is no anger. Colin has been here twice this week now and it is tough when hes playing on the floor with the boys or having hugs with charlie, even tougher when he doesnt want to leave and i dont want him to.
But i spent an hour yesterday morning writing, about why I've done what I've done, how i feel, what i want from life, it was therapy, and when colin was here last night I gave him a copy. I hope he reads it, understands it and gives me a bit of space as i think its impossible to try and move on when that person is phoning or txting or visiting. I'll make sure the kids can see him for as long as they want to.
Thank you for all you support, it really means the world to me I am ready to focus 100% on the holiday (less than 4 weeks to go) and on finsihing off xmas preparations, thank god i have distractions.

I know I'm not going to die now and i know the world keeps turning and one day at a time I am going to keep going with it. and more than anything I am blessed to have my gorgeous 3 kids to get me out of bed in the morning and keep me going with life.

many hugs right back to all of you and thank you xxx

 

[aaronandterri]

Glad you feel a bit better about it all now, such a hard desicion to make.

 

[taylor91]

I'm glad your feeling better now

 

[Lizzybear]

Just wanted to offer my support too I know you and Colin have been through a lot together and break-ups are never easy. Earlier this year I went through a mutual one with no bad feelings (there did end up being some though...) and it was still a sad time.

 

[Nubbedy]

So sorry to hear this Claire, it's a really difficult decision - hope it all works out well for you. Hugs from me too.

 

[irongirlof12]

I am so glad you have turned a corner, just keep focused on your holiday and what a fab time you will have there with your kids

 

[Tink2312]

I'm glad to see that you've found a way to take steps to moving on. Happy planning your holiday - a break from it all is probably the best thing right now *hugs*