Since when are the opposite sex allowed in non co-ed fitting rooms?

[Shutterbug]

Wow - this is a fascinating perspective!

Why would you think that your desire to be comfortable after the birth of YOUR child should trump the rights of either of those two women to be comfortable after the birth of THEIR children?!

Its called privacy.

 

[Shutterbug]

Do females go into the mens fitting rooms?

Pam

You betcha they do!

I have been in Kohls in the mens fitting room trying on pants to hear female voices in the stalls next to me.

 

[bicker]

Ditto. That's mainly why it was my understanding that there was no restriction applicable to this thread, there.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Regardless of how comfortable or uncomfortable one feels, Ladies dressing rooms are for Ladies. Mens dressing rooms are for Men. End of story. The stores attendents should see to that. If they do not, speak with a manager.

So, again, what should I do as a dad of twin daughters? What if I had no wife? Should I rent a parent?

Like I said, I take my daughters into the men's area... but SOON, I know that they will not want to do this.

 

[ilisao]

Its called privacy.

Well, last I checked, hospital rooms have curtains you can pull around the bed. So, she easily could have done that. She was going to be sleeping. I mean, good grief. What did she do during the day if she wanted to nap and the woman's husband was there? Furthermore, I don't think sharing a room in a hospital guarantees you absolute 100% privacy. If that's what she wanted, then she should have sprung for a private room.

 

[aprilgail2]

Re the lady who wanted her husband to room in - even the aforementioned banana republic hospital had sleeper chairs for DH's, as does the hospital where I am about to deliver DS2 - this is true in single and double occupancy rooms. I can't imagine your request to throw the other woman's DH out of the room in either place would have been honored.

Did you deliver a really long time ago?

Jane

8 years ago I had my daughter and my friend just delivered in the same hospital and they still do NOT allow husbands to stay overnight- why in the world would they? Its a hospital not a hotel for petes sake. Security comes through at 9pm kicking all visitors out, including husbands, grandmothers, siblings etc...
As far as my right to be comfortable trumping anyone elses- sorry its a WOMENS shower room, not a mans, not a co ed one- a WOMENS one. So my wanting to go into a womens shower room and not have a man there is my
RIGHT.

 

[Papa Deuce]

I don't get all the fuss... you ladies get undressed at Filene's Basement all the time....

Are men not allowed in there?

 

[HoneyBee06]

Wow - this is a fascinating perspective!

Why would you think that your desire to be comfortable after the birth of YOUR child should trump the rights of either of those two women to be comfortable after the birth of THEIR children?!

Re the lady who wanted her DH in the shower area - although I managed to pull off my shower by myself after DS1, I know I felt lightheaded, dizzy and nauseated after giving birth and being forced to get out of the bed too quickly to make room for the next woman who needed it (gotta love those small, banana republic hospitals!). In retrospect, it might have been nice to have DH outside the stall just to be on hand in case I passed out and split my skull on the tile. I'm pretty sure the first thing on that guy's mind was his own immediately post-partum wife, not some strange woman in the other stall!

Re the lady who wanted her husband to room in - even the aforementioned banana republic hospital had sleeper chairs for DH's, as does the hospital where I am about to deliver DS2 - this is true in single and double occupancy rooms. I can't imagine your request to throw the other woman's DH out of the room in either place would have been honored.

Did you deliver a really long time ago?

Jane

I was thinking similiar thoughts when I read that persons post.

I mean...SHOCKING....a husband wanting to stay the night with his wife in the hospital!?!? How dare he be a nice, caring man!!!

 

[janey99]

8 years ago I had my daughter and my friend just delivered in the same hospital and they still do NOT allow husbands to stay overnight- why in the world would they? Its a hospital not a hotel for petes sake. Security comes through at 9pm kicking all visitors out, including husbands, grandmothers, siblings etc...
As far as my right to be comfortable trumping anyone elses- sorry its a WOMENS shower room, not a mans, not a co ed one- a WOMENS one. So my wanting to go into a womens shower room and not have a man there is my
RIGHT.

NY and NJ are more different than I thought!

The hospital where I am delivering considers the birth a family event. They have extended visiting hours, and although almost everyone gets kicked out when they are over, the DH is ENCOURAGED to stay through the night. They even confirmed I had babysitting lined up for DS9 specifically so DH could stay with me for my ENTIRE hospital stay if desired.

My focus will be on bonding with my new little one and DH, not someone elses DH who may be around for his own family's delivery. Different persepctive, I guess.

Jane

 

[Quest4fun]

Men go where they're supposed to go and women go where women are supposed to go. Come on people. It's the 40's for Pete's sake.

 

[Planogirl]

I personally wouldn't care if a husband stayed with his wife in the room as long as he was quiet. I would NOT want a man in a women's shower area though. That would freak me out (and not too much does).

 

[HoneyBee06]

Men go where they're supposed to go and women go where women are supposed to go. Come on people. It's the 40's for Pete's sake.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Wow - this is a fascinating perspective!

Why would you think that your desire to be comfortable after the birth of YOUR child should trump the rights of either of those two women to be comfortable after the birth of THEIR children?!
Re the lady who wanted her DH in the shower area - although I managed to pull off my shower by myself after DS1, I know I felt lightheaded, dizzy and nauseated after giving birth and being forced to get out of the bed too quickly to make room for the next woman who needed it (gotta love those small, banana republic hospitals!). In retrospect, it might have been nice to have DH outside the stall just to be on hand in case I passed out and split my skull on the tile. I'm pretty sure the first thing on that guy's mind was his own immediately post-partum wife, not some strange woman in the other stall!

Re the lady who wanted her husband to room in - even the aforementioned banana republic hospital had sleeper chairs for DH's, as does the hospital where I am about to deliver DS2 - this is true in single and double occupancy rooms. I can't imagine your request to throw the other woman's DH out of the room in either place would have been honored.

Did you deliver a really long time ago?

Jane

If you want your dh to help you in the shower then get a private room. I don't care who he was helping I would not want any male in the shower area with me. They do not belong there. There are nurses at hospitals to help you. The same goes with sleeping over. Sure I agree it is great if you can all spend the night but again- get a private room then. Bad enough you have to share the bathroom with your roomate but now you have her husband too? That is ridiculous. It is not a Hostel- it is a Hospital!

ETA- some of those who don't have a problem with the dressing room issue are the same people who have a breakdown if a 7 year old uses a ladies room with their Mom. I don't get why it would be okay for a grown man to be in a Ladies dressing room. They do not belong in there and I personally would not shop somewhere that they allowed that. YMMV.

 

[HoneyBee06]

If you want your dh to help you in the shower then get a private room. I don't care who he was helping I would not want any male in the shower area with me. They do not belong there. There are nurses at hospitals to help you. The same goes with sleeping over. Sure I agree it is great if you can all spend the night but again- get a private room then. Bad enough you have to share the bathroom with your roomate but now you have her husband too? That is ridiculous. It is not a Hostel- it is a Hospital!

I've actually never known anyone that DIDN'T have a private room/bathroom after giving birth (at least the last decade or so.) But maybe things are just different where I live.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I've actually never known anyone that DIDN'T have a private room/bathroom after giving birth (at least the last decade or so.) But maybe things are just different where I live.

The hospitals here have very few private rooms. If you have a c-section you get preference. It also costs more since insurance will not pay it all if you did not have a c-section. I was only able to get a private room 2 out of four births. We gladly payed extra for it.

 

[HoneyBee06]

The hospitals here have very few private rooms. If you have a c-section you get preference. It also costs more since insurance will not pay it all if you did not have a c-section. I was only able to get a private room 2 out of four births. We gladly payed extra for it.

Oh. Strange. Out here, everyone I know has automatically had a private room.

When I had surgery for my kidneys a few years ago...they almost made me share a room with someone. Instead...they just put me in a private room on the maternity floor. It was pretty nice...haha.

 

[Disney Doll]

Wow. I hope your suggestion not to take them shopping was in jest. You couldn't even try on clothes in the privacy of a stall because a man is helping his daughters?

My opinion is that me do not belong in women's dressing rooms.

If I am in a dressing room and a man comes in, I leave, leave whatever purchases I was going to make in that store and take my business elsewhere.

If you don't have a problem with men in women's dressing rooms, that's great...you can go shop at all the stores that I don't shop in, and then they'll get your money since they won't be getting mine.

And everybody's happy, and it's all good.

 

[Carly_Roach]

If I am in a dressing room and a man comes in, I leave, leave whatever purchases I was going to make in that store and take my business elsewhere.

If you don't have a problem with men in women's dressing rooms, that's great...you can go shop at all the stores that I don't shop in, and then they'll get your money since they won't be getting mine.

And everybody's happy, and it's all good.

I'll second that emotion. Everyone gets what they want!

 

[SandraVB79]

O.K. I was bugged by this when DD was Prom dress shopping...our department stores are CARSON'S, PENNY'S, MACY'S, NORDSTROM...and in each and EVERY fitting room DD went in there was the BF of whatever girl, husband of whomever...in the FITTING ROOM sitting in a chair or on the floor...what's going on?!?!?!??!!?
DD and I were so uncomfortable that we told each store and bought her dress at a boutique that specifically did not allow anyone but the attendants into the fitting room area/hall.
I know Target has unisex fitting rooms now, but department stores? DD was mortified!
I had not bothered to post it becasue I thought, ok , prom season, but the other day I saw a guy in there while his GF was trying on bathing suits! So I guess my complaints fell on deaf ears...anyone else run into this? And where are the manners on these guys? Do females go into the mens fitting rooms? Even when DS was little I made him come out to ME to show the clothes...I did not go in, or I bought and returned if it did not work out...I just do not like this trend AT ALL!


Pam

Up til now, I just read the first post.
What is the problem? Don't the different stalls have a door/ curtain/ whatever? It's not like you're all naked in the middle of one big room, changing in front of spectators.
I don't get why it would be uncomfortable... but then, I am naive like that, I guess

Never ever come shopping in Europe, men and women everywhere. Even in the dressing rooms of lingerie stores/ departments. That's why they have the chairs there, for those who wait/ get other sizes.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Up til now, I just read the first post.
What is the problem? Don't the different stalls have a door/ curtain/ whatever? It's not like you're all naked in the middle of one big room, changing in front of spectators.
I don't get why it would be uncomfortable... but then, I am naive like that, I guess

Never ever come shopping in Europe, men and women everywhere. Even in the dressing rooms of lingerie stores/ departments. That's why they have the chairs there, for those who wait/ get other sizes.

The problem is that you are trying clothes on. Your bra straps are hanging out, perhaps you can't get it zippered all the way, you look yucky in the dress, etc. and you step out of the stall for a little help and now someone's husband or boyfriend is there. As an adult I would feel uncomfortable. As a teen girl I would have been mortified. If a store allowed this I would not buy anything from them. As for the Europe argument- well- we are not in Europe so that is not even a consideration. We are in the USA and this is how we roll here.