Since when are the opposite sex allowed in non co-ed fitting rooms?

[lilyv]

I really, really hate it when men are leering into the women's dressing room. Even worse when they march right in. It's so bad here there are signs outside of the Dillard's women's dressing room (and several other department stores have similar signs) point out it's a single sex dressing room. The clerks at Penney's will ask men walking through the adult women's dressing rooms to leave. It's just bizarre that some men think this is either acceptable, or a free show.
I've rarely try on clothes in the store anymore. I'd rather take them home, and not have a creepy "audience".

By the way, I don't mind if they are waiting, minding their own business, and their wife/girlfriend/mother/what have you/ comes out of the dressing room to show them the frock.

 

[Mayl]

I really, really hate it when men are leering into the women's dressing room. Even worse when they march right in. It's so bad here there are signs outside of the Dillard's women's dressing room (and several other department stores have similar signs) point out it's a single sex dressing room. The clerks at Penney's will ask men walking through the adult women's dressing rooms to leave. It's just bizarre that some men think this is either acceptable, or a free show.
I've rarely try on clothes in the store anymore. I'd rather take them home, and not have a creepy "audience".

By the way, I don't mind if they are waiting, minding their own business, and their wife/girlfriend/mother/what have you/ comes out of the dressing room to show them the frock.

Sorry but I think that is parnoid point of view.. I really doubt you have all these men hanging around waiting for you to try on clothes..

 

[KAMLEM]

I read the posts and I was talking the changing rooms that I have been in that have been co-ed.

Since I know about those, I commented on those types.

In those stores, they changing rooms are fine.

Store changing rooms are not locker rooms and if you treat them like it, you are going to be in for a shock or two 

So from my experience with co-ed ones, there is no problem.

That's not the point. The OP is talking about the fact that womens' dressing rooms are like co-ed dressing rooms now because there are always men in them. She wasn't talking about real co-ed dressing rooms.

 

[DVC Sadie]

In stores like Fredericks or Victoria's Secret... nothing bothers me more. Men shouldn't be allowed in the changing room area. There are tons of mirrors in the dressing rooms at both those stores... if you want to know your b/f's opion, take a picture with your cell phone and send it to him. He might actually enjoy it more!

Last time I was in VS I opened the dressing room drawer basically when I was wearing lingerie, and in the background I saw a 50 year old man staring me down! Your DD definitely has the right to be mortified. Did you say anything to a salesperson or the manager?

The 50 year old man was probably not interested in you and yours but was interested in his 20 something wife, and was waiting for her to "come to daddy" to show what she was going to purchase.

 

[Kathi OD]

What if they're "normal"?

Are you implying that you're normal?

 

[Krissalee]

My local Macy's has created a great fitting room experience. The lady's fitting room is set off to the side, but right outside, they have a large seating area, with a TV that is tuned to a news station. There is usually a man or two outside, seated and glued to the TV screen. If the woman wants the man to see her outfit, she can walk out of the fitting room area and into the fitting room foyer, where the guy is. And then he has to peel his eyes from the TV screen to take a quick look and say, "That looks great, honey," before returning to the tube.

 

[Par8hed]

I really, really hate it when men are leering into the women's dressing room. Even worse when they march right in. It's so bad here there are signs outside of the Dillard's women's dressing room (and several other department stores have similar signs) It's just bizarre that some men think this is either acceptable, or a free show.
I've rarely try on clothes in the store anymore. I'd rather take them home, and not have a creepy "audience"..

Hey..when you look like Angelina Jolie.....men AND women look.

 

[Amlee]

Several years ago, I was in our local Cato's trying on clothes. Which I might add is something I HATE doing!! But for what ever reason, I was trying clothes on that day.

Well I had stepped out to look in the bigger mirror, when out comes this man in women's clothing. He asked me, How does this look on me?

 

[englishteacha]

I don't shop much at mall stores. I usually shop second-hand or at discount stores. Our Walmart recently moved their fitting rooms, which made DH very happy. They used to be in the middle of the lingerie dept. DH hated waiting for me to try on clothes because he was surrounded by bras and panties. He thought sure people would think he was some "creepy guy" hanging around in the lingerie department!

I've been in co-ed fitting rooms, but it didn't bother me at the time. I like DH being able to see what I'm trying on, and it was nice not to have to wander out into the store to find him. He has a good eye when it comes to how clothes look on me. If I'm not comfortable with how something looks, I won't come out to show it off. If someone in the dressing room area gives me a bad vibe, I'll wait until they've left before I go in to try something on.

As mentioned previously, what bothers me are the small children running around and poking their heads under doors. I don't care if a child is "too young to understand," which is what one mom told me after her son climbed under the door into my changing room!

 

[aprilgail2]

I really, really hate it when men are leering into the women's dressing room. Even worse when they march right in. It's so bad here there are signs outside of the Dillard's women's dressing room (and several other department stores have similar signs) point out it's a single sex dressing room. The clerks at Penney's will ask men walking through the adult women's dressing rooms to leave. It's just bizarre that some men think this is either acceptable, or a free show.
I've rarely try on clothes in the store anymore. I'd rather take them home, and not have a creepy "audience".

By the way, I don't mind if they are waiting, minding their own business, and their wife/girlfriend/mother/what have you/ comes out of the dressing room to show them the frock.

I agree- I can't stand it when the men are standing right in the doorway to the womens dressing room, it always feels like they are some peeping pervert.
I can't imagine any normal husband going clothes shopping with his wife/girlfriend and wanting to go hang out in the fitting room with her!!!

 

[FINFAN]

thanks for all the replies...wha is bothersome to us is walking out of a stall to a 3 way mirror, with a dress not completely zipped, my DD is modest, does not like me in the stall with her and I completely understand. It is just wrong to have the opposit sex in a fitting room that is not unisex. They can wait outside the fitting room and wait for their party to step out and show them their clothing. and thank you KAMLEM...that is exactly what I mean...how is it any different than going into the opposite sex's restroom in a public place? Can you imagine coming uot of the stall and seeing some guys hanging out waiting for his date? It is just inappropriate and disrespectful . I can't even imagine my mom being in there and dealing with it.
Yes, I if you are at a store with a coed room, and are informed of it, fine...but to be entering one that is for a specific gender and then having it be co-ed ...no.

 

[Kathi OD]

The point is, you can go into a co ed room and get changed

Maybe you missed the posts about this being an in almost ALL dressing rooms now, including those that are not designed to be co-ed.

NO they random guy down the hall will not care, or want to care about your freaking bra size.. To think they will is pretty funny.. You think that you are a 38b matters to them?

Do you think we don't know that most guys don't care? It's not about the guy caring, it's about the woman caring if the guy hears it. We just don't want them to hear it whether they care or not. Why does it always have to be about the man?? This really can't be so hard for you to understand? sheesh!

Just get in, get out.. The co-ed stuff is floor to ceiling doors that lock and mirrors on the side, not facing the door..

Not all co-ed dressing rooms are created equally, but you obviously didn't read the posts that describe these issues either.

Sorry, but so many ladies need to understand that nobody cares what the heck we look like changing and last thing there are is some guy trying to grab a peek

Nah, you're not really sorry, you just really believe everyone should share your view of things. I'm tired of men who think women need to adjust their thinking to suit a male point of view. It's about time that men like you, need to understand that women just don't think like men when it comes to certain things and accept it. Most of us like a little privacy when trying on certain things. Maybe if you were a little more considerate of other people's feelings you would be able to grasp this concept.

 

[HoneyBee06]

My thoughts.

In general, I don't care if there are guys in the fitting rooms with women. If some random dude is just hanging around...okay, yeah....creepy. But if it's a dad or husband, I really don't care. I never come out of the fitting room half naked. I wouldn't want ANY strangers, men OR women to see me half naked...so why would I come out of the dressing room like that??

(Yes, there are exceptions. I've been in some fitting rooms where the doors are horrible. Or even worse...they were put on wrong so the slats in the doors go the wrong way. When you're in the stall, you can't see out. But when you're outside it you can completely see in.)

I've gone into the fitting room with my husband before and vice versa. However, we won't do that if other people are in there. Even though I don't have a problem with the opposite sex in the fitting room, I know that others do and I respect that. So if we aren't the only ones there, we won't do that. Only once did an employee nicely ask my husband to leave (there were no other customers in there and he was just standing right inside the doorway that time anyway.)

I like having my husband help me out. Sometimes I can't get certain dresses zipped so he'll come in and help. Other times it's just easy to have him in there so I can quickly try on clothes and get his opinion and then get out of there. Plus, he keeps me company and we laugh at the things I put on that end up looking hideous.

 

[bicker]

I can't imagine any normal husband going clothes shopping with his wife/girlfriend and wanting to go hang out in the fitting room with her!!!

I think that's a bit sad, that you cannot imagine a husband and wife being supportive of each other's efforts like that. However, being supportive is "normal".

I like having my husband help me out.

And you're not "abnormal".

 

[Tiggernut_jadie]

I really don't see the problem! WE are talking about fitting rooms with stalls right? My DH and I always run clothes past each other before buying - we know that we'll be completely honest with each other. Also as I'm in the process of losing wieght I'm hopeless at getting my size right at the moment so I often need DH to go and find me another size.

I do wonder if those with 'issues' around this ever go to the beach or go swimming? I know my swimming costume is the most revealing thing I ever wear outside and I'm rarely more 'exposed' than that when trying on clothes.

 

[bicker]

This thread is similar in context to another current thread, the one about the leisure pools at the resorts. In both cases, on one side, you have people who want other people to act a certain way, which they assert is the proper way, presumably because it is the way they want people to act. On the other side, you have people acting in a manner they presumably view as consistent with what is the proper way to act.

Who's right? Who's wrong? How to judge?

Some people will never accept that appropriateness is something that is determined by external factors. They'll use their own "gut-feel" as the sole unassailable, irrefutable metric of what is proper. They're as likely as not to be "wrong", but it won't ever matter to them.

So putting such folks aside, there are two primary indicators: This first primary indicator is the rules. Rules exist to serve as the definition of what is proper, in recognition of the fact that people are individuals, will not, naturally, share the same "gut-feel". However, the world is not black-and-white, which leads us to the second primary indicator, common practice. Common practice modifies what is proper as defined by the rules, moving the line, set forth by the rules, one way or the other. The rules, though, always serve as the foundation, when they exist. Of course, when there is no rule, the common practice, alone, determines what is proper. That doesn't mean everyone, or even a majority, needs to buy-into the practice, but rather just that a significant number of people engage in it, in order to make it proper.

 

[aprilgail2]

When I was in the hospital after I had my daughter they had no showers in the rooms, they sort of like gym type showers, 4 stalls lined up that you go and shower in, well I walked in to take a shower and behind me a woman walks in with her husband , there was NO way I was gong to shower with some strange male right there, only a tiny curtain that doesn't really even cover the doorway to the stall. I had to go out and tell the nurses, they came in and told him that it was a womens shower and he would have to leave, the woman was complaining that she just had a baby (as did we all!) and needed help (????) well they told her she had to get a female friend to help her or the nurse would if she wanted. I was dumbfounded that anyone would even think to bring their husbands into a womens shower room!! It was on par with my room mate in the hospital wanting her husband to stay overnight in the hospital with her- give me a break, the rooms are small enough with 2 people in them, no way was I going to stand for having a strange male in the room while I was sleeping...please, I think you can go form 9pm to 9am without seeing your husband!

 

[daisax]

I think that's a bit sad, that you cannot imagine a husband and wife being supportive of each other's efforts like that. However, being supportive is "normal".

I think it's peculiar to consider clothes shopping an "effort" that requires spousal "support."

 

[dimimi]

thanks for all the replies...wha is bothersome to us is walking out of a stall to a 3 way mirror, with a dress not completely zipped, my DD is modest, does not like me in the stall with her and I completely understand. It is just wrong to have the opposit sex in a fitting room that is not unisex. They can wait outside the fitting room and wait for their party to step out and show them their clothing. and thank you . I can't even imagine my mom being in there and dealing with it.
Yes, I if you are at a store with a coed room, and are informed of it, fine...but to be entering one that is for a specific gender and then having it be co-ed ...no.

I agree! A few years ago I was bathing suit shopping...
It was a shop with the curtains and a couple was in the stall next to me. When I complained to the sales clerk she said the woman was pregnant and the husband was their to help. OK so since she didn't want to walk to the opening of the dressing room to show her husband her suit, I couldn't go 2 the 3 way mirror to look at my sorry self! Anyway, I agree, men outside the dressing room...or take the 2 you like home and return one!

 

[bicker]

I think it's peculiar to consider clothes shopping an "effort" that requires spousal "support."

Are you married?

Seriously, my wife is my best friend, and I hers. Anything you (assuming that you're female) perhaps do with a girl-friend/anything you perhaps are for a girl-friend, I do with/are for my wife. Many people are not so bent-around-a-nail about stringent gender-driven affinities.

I do agree that he should hang out by the entry, not walk around inside the dressing rooms, just like the mother of a 9 year old boy should.