*sigh* things have changed so much around here

[Robinrs]

I agree with what is being said and I understand it.

The funny part to me is that years ago, the boards were a lot of fun, a close knit community (no real clique threads back then, everyone just joined in), and often people came very close to crossing the invisible line.

Those people were very funny, a bit naughty, but also vague. They stayed in trouble and back then the joke was 'the Big Red Button". Those posters were CLEVER. They drove the mods crazy and back then, the mods had a lot more power than todays mods.

Then came the purge, I guess, and the other board was board as a place to do those "almost crossing the line" funny posts. But, with no rules there, the board got out of control and FAST! Then the ridicule stuff started happening and it was quite shocking and very ugly. A lot of people have been very hurt there. of course, now we're all internet savvy and know that what we say can and will be used against us, so to speak. However, I think the other board is kinder today than it used to be. Either that or there are so many people posting that it is hard to keep it all straight. I do think that through the years we've all hurt each other way too much--but that is just MHO.

Anyway, with the DIS CB not the same for many posters (back then), came new DISers and I suppose those new DISers have gone through a change of posters just like the first group. And now, people are saying "It isn;t the same, it isn't the same!" No, it is not the same. For many of us, it hasn't been the same in many years but the board goes on and you roll with the punches and enjoy RL too.

Wow, wise sage words.

I cannot NAME all the people who have come and gone on this board.... or in my life. Maturity is accomplished when we roll with those punches. People come and go all the time. It's not a tragedy, it's life.

The only people I miss in my life are my relatives who have passed on. "Friends" come and go, and we must be very careful who we consider a "friend".

 

[phorsenuf]

Maturity is accomplished when we roll with those punches.

Yep, I agree and I think more people should follow that advice instead of hitting that little red triangle because their feelings were hurt. That seems to be a big part of the problem. Everyone is afraid to say anything because so many people do that over the smallest of things.

 

[InsertWittyNameHere]

If, by "interesting", you mean "near-total d-bags", then we are in agreement. But we still don't see eye to eye about the DIS "suffering for it" part.

Nope, not what I meant...sorry. So I take it that everyone is entitled to an opinion as long as it agrees with your opinion. Thanks for clarifying that

I thought personal attacks were not allowed on the DIS.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Frankly, who cares if a bunch of people you've never met, will probably never meet and don't even know your real name are talking about you on some other website?

Thank you!

I still can't believe people would post personal information on the web and get upset if others attack or disagree with them.
The things I've read on Dis makes me wonder if people are doing it for attention or are they that stupid??


The Dis has become boring. I used to post alot as my count reflects, now if I say hello in the morning to a few people that's alot.

 

[InsertWittyNameHere]

Thank you!

I still can't believe people would post personal information on the web and get upset if others attack or disagree with them.
The things I've read on Dis makes me wonder if people are doing it for attention or are they that stupid??


The Dis has become boring. I used to post alot as my count reflects, now if I say hello in the morning to a few people that's alot.

I agree. There are a few people on here that I trust with any of my personal information. Other than those few, I am pretty much guarded with what I put out here.

 

[In a hurry]

I have a thread I started about Cake Mix Cookies that now has been given a permanent sticky over on the cooking board!

Great recipes! Thank you!

 

[In a hurry]

If, by "interesting", you mean "near-total d-bags", then we are in agreement. But we still don't see eye to eye about the DIS "suffering for it" part.

So, everyone who was banned was a d-bag? I find that hard to believe with so many nice, kind people missing them. Then, again, I think that unless people are breaking the rules here, then the rest of their world isn't important. The rules here seem pretty straightforward, and appear to keep this place a relatively family friendly internet site. I know that oftentimes in life, that the proverbial baby is tossed out with the bathwater due less to issues of rule breaking than personality conflicts.

 

[CathrynRose]

Too funny? no not really. And it's not even right. But it is reality.


Frankly, who cares if a bunch of people you've never met, will probably never meet and don't even know your real name are talking about you on some other website?

Beacuse - it goes beyond that. And youre naive to think otherwise.

 

[breezy1077]

Haven't I read this thread b4?

 

[CathrynRose]

Uh, because people have feelings and they're human and it actually hurts! I think the internet has desensitized a whole lot of people -- they forget that the person on the other side of the screen is a real person with feelings.

If you truly are a person who is worried about what folks think or say about you then really you should be careful what you post on line. I personally believe that some folks enjoy the attention good or bad and purposely post inflammatory posts.

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AND

Thank you!

I still can't believe people would post personal information on the web and get upset if others attack or disagree with them.
The things I've read on Dis makes me wonder if people are doing it for attention or are they that stupid??
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I can only speak from personl experience - but I dont give a rats-butt what is said about me - regarding what I post. I stand by it all. (Did I take my 9 y/o in the ladies bathroom with me? Yes - I sure did. Was he 16? No - but THATS what it has turned into now **eyeroll**) Did I forget I was married? NO... I filed like I always filed, not thinking about changing my filing status. Suddenly I have 'forgotten I was married' - ****EYEROLL***

However - my 'ridiculing' went beyond what I said - and stepped into what my husband looked like (with fantastic names, like a heroin addict!!! , what my kids looked like (again - how classy!!) and what I looked like. It went into name calling based on NADA! Nothing!!!

Quit saying it's only about what someone posts. I never filed for bankruptcy with a trip in the works - I never had an affair with my best-friends husbands, cousins whatever - I dont bake cakes in the hotel microwave or eat canned corn on the steps of town hall out of a can.

Someone (many? I dont care) didnt like me and it turned vile.

Think whatever you want. Im not the only one who see's it for what it is. (and have been the victim of simply being on the DIS)

I find it a shame anyone can think that *THAT* is acceptable.

 

[CPT Tripss]

Wasn't Princess Diana killed by dregs trying to get photos for the tabloids? There are many arguments that can be made about tabloids and yellow/slanderous journalism. Just because tabloids are out there doesn't mean they add worth to any society.

I'm sure we all glance at the tabloid headlines while waiting in line at the grocery store (BATBOY! Alien abduction! Branjolina falls in the airport! "Let me help you up" says concerned Brad!), but there are those out there who read tabloids religiously. Most of the comments I've read here about those who do weren't very flattering.

I thought see was done in by a drunk driver.

 

[debster812]

If, by "interesting", you mean "near-total d-bags", then we are in agreement. .

THIS is the kinder, friendlier DIS?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

That still doesn't answer the question. People must read the taboids. They have been in business for years. People talk about them all the time and as I said we KNOW them. Why would it be harder for people to do it on an anonymous internet site? I was basically saying the same you did a couple posts back. I'm not saying I agree w/ the way people are on sites.

I don't read them, I don't like them.

 

[Mkrop]

If, by "interesting", you mean "near-total d-bags", then we are in agreement. But we still don't see eye to eye about the DIS "suffering for it" part.

What is a real shame is that you think something like that . There were MANY people who got caught in the crossfire of this debacle who never even posted on that site, they were innocent victims in all this, they went into threads not knowing what was going on, they ask questions about what this was all about and poof they were gone. DO NOT paint everyone with the same brush PLEASE!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

One thing you need not worry about is that I will hit that little red triangle in retaliation. I assure you that will never happen. That is the coward's line of defense and not something I would ever do just because you disagreed with me.

No shots, but I just want to be clear that I almost never report posts, and when I have, it's been because of cursing or porn, stuff that does not belong on a family friendly site, I've never reported anyone just because I didn't like what they said.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Frankly, who cares if a bunch of people you've never met, will probably never meet and don't even know your real name are talking about you on some other website?

I care when they make a point of trying to find out where I went to school, where I work, what my real name is, where I'll be when I'm on vacation, etc.

 

[CathrynRose]

What is a real shame is that you think something like that . There were MANY people who got caught in the crossfire of this debacle who never even posted on that site, they were innocent victims in all this, they went into threads not knowing what was going on, they ask questions about what this was all about and poof they were gone. DO NOT paint everyone with the same brush PLEASE!

WE ARE AWARE!!!

But just as MANY people didnt - MANY people DID!!!

And you and I are are both well aware of the fact 'some' of those people were allowed back. Had the ones who wanted to be part of the DIS, who were 'caught up in this mess, by mistake' asked to come back, they'd probably be back too.

I care when they make a point of trying to find out where I went to school, where I work, what my real name is, where I'll be when I'm on vacation, etc.

Bingo!!!

No shots, but I just want to be clear that I almost never report posts, and when I have, it's been because of cursing or porn, stuff that does not belong on a family friendly site, I've never reported anyone just because I didn't like what they said.

Nor do I. Ive always found it amusing that (we) are the reporters when I havent reported jack.

 

[mickeyboat]

I care when they make a point of trying to find out where I went to school, where I work, what my real name is, where I'll be when I'm on vacation, etc.

The problem, though is that some of that information was posted by you. Several people, myself included, mentioned that you might not want to post such personal stuff on a public message board accessible by both good and bad people. You have to be really careful with what you put out there, because once it is out there, you have no control over what is done with it.

 

[Mkrop]

I care when they make a point of trying to find out where I went to school, where I work, what my real name is, where I'll be when I'm on vacation, etc.

Disclaimer I do not post over there! But...

Havent you posted anough personal info on the DIS and other places of the internet that it wouldnt take a rocket scientist to figure these things out. Maybe you need to learn the lesson that you need to not post personal info on the internet!

 

[CPT Tripss]

I report posts . . . advertising (asking for donations) - which is against the ToS and hate speech-which, interestingly, isn't against the ToS.

I put little personal info out there - white, middle aged, suburban, veteran, politically progressive - most of which you could figure out in a 45 second meeting. I am astounded that people post (what they say are) family photos and other personal stuff like email addy, dates of vacation, info about fiancee and personal photos with lots of identifiers in the background. This is advice, not an attack - be smart with what you put out on the internet.

What surprises me in this thread is the number of posters who openly copped to visiting that "other" site. Perhaps to purge was motivated for some less than honorable reasons.