Should a teenager pay for their own theme park tickets & spending money...

I can see the thought process. You want to teach a teen the value of a dollar, and park tickets are expensive. You want them to learn that family vacations aren't free. You want them to learn that the family (including themselves) make sacrifices to do things like WDW. In principle, I think its actually a good idea.

However, if you are going to make a teen pay, than you have to be willing to accept "that is not how I want to spend my money." And then what are you going to do?

I'd figure out what you are trying to teach, then putting in some system to help teach that. It may be your teen "guesses" what Mom and Dad will spend taking him to Disney. If he is within $X, he gets a prize. Keep some sort of accounting, keeping track of everything from tips and tax to airfair to his percentage of the hotel bill.
 
I am paying for mine and DS 8 tickets, hotel, meals, etc. He is earning his "walking around money" and can spend it how he sees fit.

I am paying $125.00 of my DS 22's ticket and $125.00 for his friends ticket, for their birthdays. (I came to that amount because at first planning we were only going 3 days and were going to get the Fl. 3 day pass), as we began planning and looking at budgets we decided for 6 days.

Being a single Mom the older DS is almost a father figure to the younger DS, and both make each other happier being together, plus it's great for me, to do some rides the little one won't step near. I have someone to watch him. Great for getting to do my thing and not worry about him at the same time.

The older boys are paying their own room this time (last time we all shared a room and it was a bit crowed), their own food (but I always over buy on snacks and such so I always give them what's left over and this helps their budget-better than it going to waste) and have their own spending money.

We drive so they save on transportation too. So they have some easy outs, but at that young adult age, they also realize it still takes a lot of money.

I really enjoy being with the 3 of them and if I can swing it, I help pay where I can (like the birthday part of the tickets).
 
I think that as long as I invite a child of mine on a trip, that I will pay for it. I'm thinking of taking my mom in a few years, and I'll pay for that. I'm afraid with a teenager that if you tell them that they have to pay for it, they might not want to go.

Now, my four year old and seven year old will be saving for their spending money. I will buy a couple things, but otherwise, what they want, they will have to buy. I usually buy a sweatshirt and one toy. It's good for them to know that the stuff isn't free. We will start saving shortly for a December trip, so they will have plenty saved.
 
As a single parent when I took my kids to the parks as teenagers they helped pay for food,gifts etc. I paid for their ticket. I think it depends on your circumstances. My kids enjoyed helping out because then we could take more trips to WDW.
 

I've got to weigh in my NO vote too. Asking your teenager to pay for their own ticket can only make them feel like a less important part of the family. I do understand that you want to teach the teen about responsibilitly though, especially the monetary value that goes into paying for such a vacation. I get that. But I still would pay for their tickets and I would give them a specific amount of "blow" money. Money to spend on whatever they want. Anything beyond that...they're on their own.
We do this even with my 6 year old. If we stop and buy ice cream for the whole family as a snack then we pay, but if ONLY he wants it, he has to decide whether to use his money or not.
 
No way. It would not be fair to make a teen pay their way, while the parents footed the bill for the other kids in the family. It would most likely cause a lot of resentment against the parents and the younger children. As for spending money, we give both our kids the same amount. DD is 7, DS is 15 and has a part time job and babysits often. I do not think it would be fair to pay for DD's extra's, but not pay for DS's. There have been trips that both kids have dipped into their own money to pay for stuff, and their have been trips where one didn't spend all the money they were given. In that case they are allowed to keep the extra $$.
 
I'd say that if your teen pays for his/her own park tickets, be prepared never to share any park time with him. 5 will get you 10 that the teen says, "Well, in that case, I'm going to Universal. See ya'".

I believe that if you are not prepared to leave the kid behind or totally let him go his own way once you arrive in Orlando, you should foot the bill for the ticket.

We'll be taking my 17 yo niece this spring as a hs graduation gift. We are paying for her airfare, her hotel stay, and her park pass. We will also pay for her meals anytime she eats with us. If she decides to be somewhere else during mealtimes, she eats on her own dime. Our passes are older hoppers, so they don't include DQ; if she wants to go, that's on her dime, too. Any shopping she does is all on her own dime, unless I impulsively decide to buy her a gift. (We don't normally do souvenirs at all.) I'm not going to insist that she stay with us at all; our only rule is going to be that she be quiet when returning to the suite at night and not wake everyone else, and that she not bring any other people into our hotel suite. How she spends her time at WDW will be totally up to her.
 
I agree that it is important to teach children; especially teens, about responsibility. However, this particular method is not it. I believe we are forcing our children to grow up to fast and not allowing them to enjoy then years of being a teen and a kid.

If this teen is 17 years or older, I would suggest you allow your teen to have two months (supervised - of course) of running the household. This is something you can do with you teen over the summer when school is out. Teach this teen what it is really like to be an adult. Open up and be honest about income and expense. Allow him to actually pay the bills, buy the groceries, buy the household product (cleaning supplies, personal clothes, etc.). Let the teen make a budget and fix the meals and plan. I want to emphasis again - SUPERVISED! As you go through each of the household responsibilities; explain why you do what you do. Why it is so important to budget - when a teen see the real cost of running a household - the teen will really appreciate what you do as parents. Nothing teaches responsbility more than reality. Beside if this teen is age 17 years or older, there is only a short amount of time before this becomes reality.

As far as the trip to Disney, again pay the teen's way and allow them to enjoy their last days of freedom before reality slaps them upside the head.

Enjoy your trip to Disney!!!!
 
lsteadman said:
If this teen is 17 years or older, I would suggest you allow your teen to have two months (supervised - of course) of running the household. Allow him to actually pay the bills, buy the groceries, buy the household product (cleaning supplies, personal clothes, etc.). Let the teen make a budget and fix the meals and plan. I want to emphasis again - SUPERVISED! As you go through each of the household responsibilities; explain why you do what you do. Why it is so important to budget - when a teen see the real cost of running a household - the teen will really appreciate what you do as parents.

Im just picturing what my house would look like after 2 months of my 19yo running things. :scared1: :faint:
 
minkydog said:
Im just picturing what my house would look like after 2 months of my 19yo running things. :scared1: :faint:


That is exactly what I mean! Parent don't take the time to teach their kids about finances. I know mine didn't. So when I got out in the "real world" on my own.....wheewww let me tell you it was not pretty. I keep asking why would she tell me about the dangers of drugs, importance of school, etc. But not teach me about finances. You especially should be teaching your 19 year old finances. If she/he is old enough to fight in a war; he/she is old enough to learn about a checkbook, bills, expenses, budgeting.

You know that saying "If I only new then---what I know now!" :crazy:
 
There is no way I would ever expect my child to pay for any part of a family vacation! Buying their own theme park tickets is absolutely out of the question! Should they just because of their age also provide their own food? :sad2: I think you would also be causing a serious sibling rivalry problem by doing this! The older wondering why they are being singled out...

We do however even with our young children, 10, 6, 3 set up a disney earning event beginning a long time before our trip, where the kids are encouraged to earn the money they are going to spend on souveneirs. We set aside a small amount for each child, that we contribute to their souveneir money, and anything else, they must earn, via chores, special projects etc...

just my thoughts and opinions
gabby
 
No, I would not have my teen pay for their own ticket. My DD's save their own souvenir money, but that's it.

God willing (& financess) I will pay for my DD's vacations as long as they want to go along with us. All too soon they will be working, off to college & want to vacation with friends. I'm taking advantage of spending time with them now. :goodvibes
 
Our next full family trip is Dec 05. We are paying for all three of our children - DS is a 19 year old college student. I will even give him some food money to carry around b/c I know he won't want to do alot of the meals we do with his youner sisters. BUT, I will not pay for his girlfriend. So if he wants her to come along, then they have to come up with the money for a park ticket and food for her (we'll probably spring for a meal or two). We'll pay for the rooms, and probably give them ff miles and that is stretching my dh as far as he'll go for the girlfriend (it's a long story)
 
IF you want to teach your child the value of money etc. Have him help you with the budget. Have him figure out if it is better to purchase a package vs seperately. Give him a dollar amount have him plan a "day" at the parks. Meals, snacks, activities, etc. There are lost of things that can result in the same "idea" without making him feel like a second class child.
 
lsteadman said:
That is exactly what I mean! Parent don't take the time to teach their kids about finances. I know mine didn't. So when I got out in the "real world" on my own.....wheewww let me tell you it was not pretty. I keep asking why would she tell me about the dangers of drugs, importance of school, etc. But not teach me about finances. You especially should be teaching your 19 year old finances. If she/he is old enough to fight in a war; he/she is old enough to learn about a checkbook, bills, expenses, budgeting.

You know that saying "If I only new then---what I know now!" :crazy:

Well, I would happily teach my kids about finances (and I do) but at age 16 my son decided that I am stupid and cannot possibly understand how creative and "special" he is. In fact, he is so "special" that he found it "beneath him" to bag groceries at $5.75/hr + tips. So last month he dropped out of high school and went to work for Disney On Ice--hawking cotton candy in the aisles, thre shows a day. Up and down and up and down those stairs. Talk about a life lesson. :earseek: Last week he called home for spending money and DH had to say(gently) sorry, no, sell your X-box if you have too. You're on your own. (DS is not starving; he just wants to have his cake and eat it too.)

Do me a favor. If ToyStory 2 comes to your town, buy a bag of cotton candy from a skinny pale kid named John. Tell him his mother still loves him. :lovestruc

cathy
 
disneyChrista,
I love that idea! I think that's an excellant way to get your teenager involved in the whole process without making them feel bad. Thanks so much for the suggestion! :wave:
 
I agree with the majority here: No, a teen who's participating in a family trip should have his/her necessities paid by mom and dad. Unless there are some extinuating circumstances that we're not aware of, then I think it's fair.

I would suggest that teens could be taught "the value of a dollar" by helping plan the budget. Consider it from this standpoint: Mom/Dad earn X amount per day; how many days must they work to pay for the hotel? the tickets? That may be an eye opener for the teen.

In general, I am not a big fan of teens working. "Back in the day", kids got jobs so they'd appreciate money -- it worked. Today's job market is vastly different. Take it from a teacher who hears and sees what part time jobs are really like in today's teenaged world:

First, kids are working too many hours. I think it starts out innocently enough. "Yes, mom, I will work two shifts per week -- 15 hours -- and I'll keep my grades up. Soon they realize that if they up it to four shifts per week, the paycheck is much nicer. Many parents don't step in and stop the children from working too many hours. Other parents allow the child to finance a car, and if the child doesn't work long hours, the car will be repossessed. At least 50% of my high school seniors are working 30 hours a week or more; they no longer have time to take part in school clubs, sports teams, church youth group . . . and these are activities that are only available to them for a few short years. They have years and years of work ahead of them. When will they ever again have the freedom and the opportunity to go out for the basketball team or be in the spring play?

Most of the students who work excessive hours suffer a decrease in grades (you'd be amazed how many times I look in a kids' permanant file and see that he earned As and Bs in 9th and 10th grade, then suddenly started making Cs and Ds in 11th and 12th.) Other students decide to take easier classes so they don't have to work as hard (Regular English instead of College Prep), which hurts them in the long run. Finally, there's the time away from their families. Why should we as parents allow our children to sell their childhood for a few dollars?

When we were kids, minimum wage was 3.35/hour, and our parents had the crazy idea that it was okay to butt into our lives and force us to save a portion of our wages. Today's minimum is almost twice that, and in my area kids tend to make $8-9 per hour for working fast food or retail -- that's a lot of money for unskilled labor! Additionally, I have the impression that today's parents see that money as completely the child's responsibility (despite the fact that the kids have little or no training in how to save), and the parents aren't overseeing any savings. The result: Kids have a great deal of mad money in their pockets. I regularly see kids pull out wads of twenties and even hundred dollar bills to buy school lunch (yes, they are doing it to show off, but the point is that they have it!).

Having this much disposable income sets the kids up for future problems. They develop free-spending habits as teens ($500 dresses and limos for the prom, $2000 stereo systems installed in 10-year old cars). They can do this because mom and dad are paying the bills at home, but once they move out into their own apartment, reality hits home quickly. The kid who worked 30 hours in high school, then goes to 40 hours after graduation doesn't see a significant increase in pay, but he probably moves out of the house! Suddenly he can't afford to grab breakfast at Bojangles every morning, and she can't afford to buy new outfits every week. What's the natural reaction? Disapointment! We expect life after high school to be better -- now the formerly large disposable income must go to pay the rent, and it's a bummer! It's better not to set the child up for this disapointment. It also predisposes the kid to get into credit card debt in an attempt to maintain the old disposable income.

Perhaps most importantly, I see a major attitude shift in kids once they begin working at a steady part-time job. Suddenly they THINK they are self-sufficient. They don't have the maturity and scope to realize that mom and dad are paying for the roof over their heads, the great majority of their food, etc. -- or they grossly underestimate just how much those basics actually cost. Instead, in their adolescent minds, they are on their own, taking care of themselves, responsible to no one. Often -- and I see this more often in boys than in girls -- the result is that they don't think they have to continue to be a child at home. Chores? No time -- gotta work. Curfew? I'm not a kid anymore. Liver for dinner? No way -- I'm heading to Pizza Hut; see ya later. Why set yourself up to face these battles? We see the same attitude shift at school: I'm an adult now -- who are you to say I have to be here on time? to say I can't check out of school?

As you can tell, I really don't think part-time jobs are a good thing for teens. Summer jobs -- great, in fact, I'd encourage temporary summer jobs. Babysitting or mowing lawns occasionally? That's good for kids. But a steady part-time job? Well, I've seen it backfire more often than I've seen it do good.

Let your teens be kids -- that's what they really are. They have many, many years of adulthood ahead of them. Encourage them to be young while they can -- it won't be too long before they'll have to face the real world of college, jobs, and responsibilities. And pay for their Disney tickets as long as they're in school!
 
Mrs. Pete,

I have to say I totally agree with you. You've writtena very accurate portrayal of many students I know (famil friends).

I would liek to add, we use a very neat program you can download to help kids learn to budget (it's about $30, and worth every penny) It's called Family Bank

http://www.parentware.org/

I tried to do the same thing, on my own, on a spread sheet; this is so much better.

Even my 7 year old has his own checking and savings accounts with the "Family Bank".

I highly receommend it.

Julia
 
Well,I'm pretty old school tough,but I am not making my teens pay for their tickets. It's a family vacation. They will bring their own spending money. I however,do NOT give my kids allowance. Nope. I'm not payin' my child to pick up after themselves,to make their beds,or clean off their plates. I do however, give them monies when they need it. They are expected to help out in their home.Keep their rooms clean,etc.They get rewarded other ways.We tried the allowance thing,years ago.Only to find out,they EXPECTED it, and started slacking off. Just didn't work for us.Every family handles their finances different.Good luck ;)
 
We don't do allowance either. The kids are a part of the family and have responsibilites around the house, and IMHO don't get rewarded for doing what they should be doing. They can earn money by doing extra chores (ie wash my van) however.
 













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