Sharing a hotel room with someone other than spouse/young children

[yoopermom]

DH and I got to discussing this the other day, and decided we were definitely raised different

Overnight trips in my family were a super special occasion, and you were happy to sleep where you were told. We squeezed as many as we could into a room. Because DB and I were four years apart, we only slept one on the floor, one on the bed once we got to be teens, but all four of us shared a room because that's all we could afford to do. Even a few years ago when my DM and my DS and I went out of state, we shared a room, with DM and I sharing a bed (obviously).

DH, OTOH, is horrified at the idea of sharing a hotel room with anyone other than me or a child of ours that is still a child. Now that DS is 19, he and DH feel that he should have his own room. If we were to travel with other adults, there is no way that DH would share a room with them, no matter if they were relatives or not.

Now I understand that seperate rooms would be lovely, but what's with the manly phobia about sharing? I mean, if it's just *sleeping*, what's the big deal?!?

Terri

 

[sonnyjane]

DH and I got to discussing this the other day, and decided we were definitely raised different

Overnight trips in my family were a super special occasion, and you were happy to sleep where you were told. We squeezed as many as we could into a room. Because DB and I were four years apart, we only slept one on the floor, one on the bed once we got to be teens, but all four of us shared a room because that's all we could afford to do. Even a few years ago when my DM and my DS and I went out of state, we shared a room, with DM and I sharing a bed (obviously).

DH, OTOH, is horrified at the idea of sharing a hotel room with anyone other than me or a child of ours that is still a child. Now that DS is 19, he and DH feel that he should have his own room. If we were to travel with other adults, there is no way that DH would share a room with them, no matter if they were relatives or not.

Now I understand that seperate rooms would be lovely, but what's with the manly phobia about sharing? I mean, if it's just *sleeping*, what's the big deal?!?

Terri

I mean, if I HAD to share a room with someone I would, but I'd do just about anything in my power (and have in the past) to have my own room, even if it means spending more money. The exception is when I travel with my best friend - we are fine sharing a room with each of us having our own bed, but I wouldn't want to share a room with my husband AND her or with my husband and other family members or anything. That would be weird IMO. Again, I could if we had to, but wouldn't be enjoyable.

 

[Poohforyou]

I'm with your dh on this and I'm female. I've had to share a room a few times with people other than my immediate family and I didn't like it. There's no way I'd share a bed with my mother. I love her but I'd choose the floor over that. I just like my privacy.

 

[lauradis]

Op give me back my dh!

Omg he is the same way, but he even goes as far as not wanting to share his privacy with me at all even for our children. Lol

It's not like it's the party hotel room or anything.

He doesn't even like kids in our bedroom at home unless they are sick.

He doesn't like his mom to nap in our bed or anyone else.

I respect his wishes and his feelings on his privacy and territory.

I personally think it's nuts but oh well.

 

[goofyintoronto]

I disagree with your DH. I'd personally have no issues sharing a room with relatives or parents, friends etc. The fact that both DH and DS19 want their own room is funny.

 

[emma'smom]

I don't like it. I sometimes share a room with a colleague on business trips and we've worked it out so the awkwardness isn't so bad....she is an early riser and I "sleep" til she's done getting ready. But I snore..I know I do...and so that's embarrassing.... My dd wants to take a group of girls to a water park and 2 rooms would be expensive, but I'm not keen on sleeping in the same room with a bunch of tweeners. I'm ok with attached rooms and the door open, but at least I would have my own space.

 

[carrie1626]

DH and I got to discussing this the other day, and decided we were definitely raised different

Overnight trips in my family were a super special occasion, and you were happy to sleep where you were told. We squeezed as many as we could into a room. Because DB and I were four years apart, we only slept one on the floor, one on the bed once we got to be teens, but all four of us shared a room because that's all we could afford to do. Even a few years ago when my DM and my DS and I went out of state, we shared a room, with DM and I sharing a bed (obviously).

DH, OTOH, is horrified at the idea of sharing a hotel room with anyone other than me or a child of ours that is still a child. Now that DS is 19, he and DH feel that he should have his own room. If we were to travel with other adults, there is no way that DH would share a room with them, no matter if they were relatives or not.

Now I understand that seperate rooms would be lovely, but what's with the manly phobia about sharing? I mean, if it's just *sleeping*, what's the big deal?!?

Terri

My husband SNORES- no one would want to sleep in the same room w/ him.
And I wouldn't want to subject anyone to it either. When my Dd/Ds got to an "age" we had to find hotel rooms that were suites.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I grew up with a summer home so we shared space with all kinds of people. No biggie to me really.

DH prefers privacy as well. That being said we would share if we needed to or it made sense.

 

[Poohforyou]

Op give me back my dh!

Omg he is the same way, but he even goes as far as not wanting to share his privacy with me at all even for our children. Lol

It's not like it's the party hotel room or anything.

He doesn't even like kids in our bedroom at home unless they are sick.

He doesn't like his mom to nap in our bed or anyone else.

I respect his wishes and his feelings on his privacy and territory.

I personally think it's nuts but oh well.

I wouldn't want anyone to nap in our bed either. Why would that even be necessary?

 

[bigbabyblues]

We don't normally travel or vacation with anyone other than the 4 of us. Our kids are both boys, and one hotel room doesn't bother any of us yet.

However, Last year, I went to Cleveland with my papa and my aunt; he was having surgery at the VA hospital there. The hotel room was provided by the hospital, and all three of us stayed there the first night. I shared a queen bed with my aunt and papa slept in the other bed. If my husband had gone with us, we would have paid for our own room.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

My husband SNORES- no one would want to sleep in the same room w/ him.
And I wouldn't want to subject anyone to it either. When my Dd/Ds got to an "age" we had to find hotel rooms that were suites.

When I was a kid, there came a point where my dad would sleep with me & Mom with my sister in our little camper. Once dad started using a truck to tow the camper, I slept in the back of the truck, sis got her own spot in the camper, and M&D got to share a bed again

 

[momto2girls]

I'm with your husband. I will share a room with my sister as long as we have separate beds (although we prefer to have separate bedrooms like when we get a two bedroom in our DVC). Other than that, I am not keen on sharing a room with anyone. If I traveled with my mother, I'd pay for her to have her own room. I really, really wouldn't feel comfortable packing a bunch of people in a room with me. It makes me cringe to think of it.

 

[OhMari]

I'm with your husband. I will share a room with my sister as long as we have separate beds (although we prefer to have separate bedrooms like when we get a two bedroom in our DVC). Other than that, I am not keen on sharing a room with anyone. If I traveled with my mother, I'd pay for her to have her own room. I really, really wouldn't feel comfortable packing a bunch of people in a room with me. It makes me cringe to think of it.

Totally agree.

 

[mumto3girls]

I am with your DH. I think I only snore during allergy season or when sick, but I wouldn't want to subject anyone to that. Throw in sleeping bra-less and changing clothes etc and I would hate that, even with a parent or sister. I prefer my space and am very private and modest. We do occasional long weekend with family in a cabin but adults have their own bedroom/bath. That is close enough for me.

 

[Shutterbug]

I think of my hotel room as like a Fortress of Solitude type thing. I don't want to share it with anyone........except maybe the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders

 

[m3retired]

I agree with your hubby also, so it's not a "manly phobia". Hubby and I don't even share rooms with our grown kids. This next trip we got a 2 BR for us and our unmarried son, and each of the other (married) boys got 1 BRs. It's a vacation--I want space, and I want complete peacefulness.

 

[Disneylover99]

I don't mind sharing a room with someone other then my immediate family for a night or two, but beyond that, forget it. I need my own space.

 

[Bluestars]

My son is 18 and my husband has no problem with him in our hotel room. To me, it's kind of weird to not want your own kid in your room.

I've shared a hotel room with my mother. I have also shared one with a friend and with my adult sisters. I want my own bed though. I would not like to share a bed with another adult, except for my husband.

I draw the line at close friends and family. I would not want to share a room with a random coworker.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Unless it is a romantic trip I have no issue sharing with other people, be them my parents, my kid, distant relative or friend. But then again, I am never really worried about the hotel room in the first place. All I do is sleep in them so as long as they are clean and safe, I'm good.

 

[m3retired]

They may be my kids, but they're grown. With wives. They don't need mommy in their rooms!