My father has always worked shift work.. for over 30 years. He has always had more than one job for over 30 years as well. It was a well known fact that if he didn't go, he didn't get paid. He was a truck driver, so basically if you don't drive, you don't get paid.
Well, when I was 19 I was in a fairly serious car accident. I had a ruptured ear drum, and constant ear care by a ENT doctor was needed. Who took me to the doctor (I couldn't drive or even walk straight) every time DURING THE WORK DAY WITHOUT PAY for me? There were tons of appointments, probably 8-10 in all.
My dad.
It may not seem shocking to anyone else, but to me. This is a person who always worked 16-18 hours days for over 30 years. To actually take time off.. was shocking! (we never took vacations, or anything like that either.. Dad was always working)
Another one was when I was in my "renegade" stage. I would drive in punk clothing, have a shaved head, and wear castoff military clothes... I still got good grades, and didn't do drugs..etc. I was definetley dressed differently, it was really different back in 1988.
Well, anyway, my dad and mom and I went to the Navy commissary in South Philly. (I think its the PX). I said I would go, and my dad said he would take me to South Street on the way back. (My DAD!) The way he went was coming from the other way so it was pretty bad neighborhood. I kept on thinking he would turn around, and he didn't. My mom was so nervous.. but he didn't listen. We actually parked the car and walked around on an early Sunday afternoon. I loved the store Zipperhead, and well, its pretty avante garde to say the least. I went in , and my mom was too appalled at the bustiers, and the leather goods so she waited outside. My dad actually came in with me (I knew it was a stretch for him!), and watched me thumb through the Tshirts and music posters. I remember him asking who was who on the poster rack, and if the group was any good. He walked around the store with me as I looked at boots, and Docs. He actually came into my world, if that makes sense.
He never turned up his nose or acted weirded out. He never sneered at what I liked, or thought it was strange.
At the end of my browsing, I found a Sid and Nancy /Sex Pistols Tshirt. I was all set to pay (I paid for everything on myown since I was about 12), and he paid for the Tshirt. It was not his taste or maybe what he liked to see his daughter in, but he paid for it.
I kept that shirt for ages. When the shirt shrunk, I asked my mom to make a pillow out of it... and she did.
I still wish I had that shirt.. even though this happened back in 1988.