Regarding Deafmedic

[sweet angel]

SillyMe is right -- there's 14 pages so far, and at least one "inspired by" thread. Do these people really warrant this type of attention?

 

[momof2inPA]

Honesitly a lie made up on the internet shows what a person is cabable of. The same way the curelity to animimals is refectlive of a persons cababilities towads others and value of living creatures.

Really? Have there been studies to show that this is a fact? Link please. Are authors who write gruesome books, like Anne Rice, more likely to commit gruesome acts?

 

[momof2inPA]

I think that the odds are that they have some mental problems to concoct a story like this and with the details they gave. Anyone capable of doing this would not be an ideal person in my book and in my opinion, by default, would not be an ideal parent. Of course an "ideal parent" is a subjective thing and what might be ideal for you wouldn't be for me, or visa versa.

To be honest, either I never saw the details, or I can't remember them. In this situation, giving details about your "kids" dying is rather gross and twisted, but in general I could see where you might want to convince internet people that your whole family is no longer around. I bet there are tons of people who are stalked in real life who would like to convince their stalkers they no longer exist.

 

[momof2inPA]

I am the administrator of the other board. If they had a need to back away, all they needed to do is, well, back away. Stop posting and don't communicate with anyone. And if they had a need to back away, the husband would not have continued to post on the board! You may not form relationships on the internet, but some people do, including myself. There were a lot of people who were truly grieved over this situation, and who felt betrayed at finding out it was not true. Faking the deaths was a horrible thing to do, it hurt real people. There was NEVER a reason for that to be done.

I don't understand. If he was still posting when you found out he did this, what was his supposed reason for doing this? I'm guessing he's a wacko, but what exactly did he say?

 

[Cantw8]

To be honest, either I never saw the details, or I can't remember them. In this situation, giving details about your "kids" dying is rather gross and twisted, but in general I could see where you might want to convince internet people that your whole family is no longer around. I bet there are tons of people who are stalked in real life who would like to convince their stalkers they no longer exist.

Holy crap, woman...give it a rest already before a house falls on you

 

[momof2inPA]

Holy crap, woman...give it a rest already before a house falls on you

I believe you can be banned for personal attacks. Did you have an actual point? I'm using this faked "tragedy" to start a conversation about internet ethics. Perhaps you don't want to partake in that discussion. Feel free to ignore my posts; I'm sure many people do.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Holy crap, woman...give it a rest already before a house falls on you

 

[momof2inPA]

Oh come on, there are ZERO reasons to fake an internet death. No matter what the situation...you can simply stop visiting message boards, you can sell your computer, you can throw it out the damned window. If you feel threatened, you notify the police or the FBI. You change your locks, whatever. You do not fake your own and your childrens death...and you certainly do not make up gruesome details.

The ONLY reason people do stuff like this is to gain attention. It is that simple.

When someone is being stalked, the police are not always effective at intervening before tragedy occurs. That's where faking an internet death would be convenient/ useful, especially if you had divulged your personal information. I'm talking in general, not about this family in particular.

 

[KathyTX]

I believe you can be banned for personal attacks. Did you have an actual point? I'm using this faked "tragedy" to start a conversation about internet ethics. Perhaps you don't want to partake in that discussion. Feel free to ignore my posts; I'm sure many people do.

Then perhaps it would be best for you to begin a new thread.

 

[Planogirl]

I believe you can be banned for personal attacks. Did you have an actual point? I'm using this faked "tragedy" to start a conversation about internet ethics. Perhaps you don't want to partake in that discussion. Feel free to ignore my posts; I'm sure many people do.

I think that some people's feelings might be just a little too raw to calmly discuss this right now.

 

[Buckalew11]

I believe you can be banned for personal attacks. Did you have an actual point? I'm using this faked "tragedy" to start a conversation about internet ethics. Perhaps you don't want to partake in that discussion. Feel free to ignore my posts; I'm sure many people do.

I don't believe it was a personal attack, I think it was more of a warning/reminder about karma.

I'm wondering why you say "you" inspired a thread (the one Deb In IA started)? It was inspired by Deafmedic lying and deceiving. I don't think it was inspired by your understanding why someone would concoct such a story/lie.

 

[momof2inPA]

I think you and Chris/Lea would get on FABULOUSLY!!! PM me if you are in need of their phone numbers, address, IM addresses or whatever....ya'll would definitely make the best of friends.

No thanks. I have enough real friends.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

To be honest, either I never saw the details, or I can't remember them. In this situation, giving details about your "kids" dying is rather gross and twisted, but in general I could see where you might want to convince internet people that your whole family is no longer around. I bet there are tons of people who are stalked in real life who would like to convince their stalkers they no longer exist.

Then why just kill off Deafmedic and 2 of the kids? How about the twins? How would they decide who "lives" and who doesn't? I really do think that they are twisted and there is a line that they crossed. I haven't read anything about them being stalked. And, like has been mentioned, why not just stop posting? Why the lie about holding the hand when the child was removed from life support? That is just too much.

And I also agree that we need to just let this topic die...for real. In case they are reading this, we're giving them what they want.

 

[KathyTX]

Okay- stop it. No more jabs.

 

[Aidensmom]

I don't understand. If he was still posting when you found out he did this, what was his supposed reason for doing this? I'm guessing he's a wacko, but what exactly did he say?

What I meant was that if the purpose of the fake deaths was to back away from the boards, then the husband would have left the board. Instead he remained and continued with the story, for quite a while. That would rule out that this was done because they felt somehow threatened by someone there and needed to leave, because they did not leave.

When it was discovered that the deaths were not real, they had an opportunity to defend their actions. It was not taken. Their accounts there have since been disabled. Therefore no one but Chris and Lea themselves know the purpose of this story. Perhaps it was just a way to amuse themselves, perhaps it was a joke gone wrong. In any case, it was distasteful to say the least, and did hurt people, including myself, who truly considered them friends.

It did however have a positive affect as it did strengthen some other relationships on that board, so every cloud has a silver lining.

 

[debster812]

I believe you can be banned for personal attacks. Did you have an actual point? I'm using this faked "tragedy" to start a conversation about internet ethics. Perhaps you don't want to partake in that discussion. Feel free to ignore my posts; I'm sure many people do.

Like others have said, this is a very painful and raw situation for some people here who felt very betrayed, and this particular thread may not have been the best platform for you begin your conversation on internet ethics.

 

[momof2inPA]

I think that some people's feelings might be just a little too raw to calmly discuss this right now.

I guess. I was taken in, too and believed their story, but I never really noticed their posts before the whole car accident thing.

Were all the touchy/angry people part of that DIS "drinking group" or whatever it was, tm, aidensmom, cantw8?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I guess. I was taken in, too and believed their story, but I never really noticed their posts before the whole car accident thing.

Were all the touchy/angry people part of that DIS "drinking group" or whatever it was, tm, aidensmom, cantw8?

I'm not sure about the touchy/angry part, but I think that the place that the lush ladies went to was the same board that this happened on. I don't know, I was never invited to drink with them, though.

 

[vivilasvegas]

I would imagine someone who could make up such a story has never dealt with a real loss. I have, as I'm sure some of you have, and the pain and devastation that occurs....I could never tell a lie like that. Even to people that I really didn't "know".

 

[momof2inPA]

What I meant was that if the purpose of the fake deaths was to back away from the boards, then the husband would have left the board. Instead he remained and continued with the story, for quite a while. That would rule out that this was done because they felt somehow threatened by someone there and needed to leave, because they did not leave.

I didn't say or intend to say that deafmedic and his wife felt threatened by anything or anyone on your board, I was trying to make a more general point, but I guess this isn't the time or place. Sorry you felt so betrayed. I wasn't that close to the situation, didn't remember the accident details, and just shook my head and thought, "another DIS lie." Some of you must have really been hurt.

The worst lies, IMO, are the ones that involve raising money for some made up trip or charity. Those not only take advantage of peoples' sensibilities but also their checkbooks. Did deafmedic try to start a memorial fund or anything like that?