Regarding Deafmedic

[Briarmom]

I was joking about the not being invited part. One time when the lush ladies were still on the DIS my DH was reading over my shoulder and saw a lush ladies post. He asked me about it and wanted to know why I wasn't one. As if I'm such a party animal. Geez, give me a drink or 2 and I get a migraine.

Several of the 'lush ladies' are not drinkers.

 

[momof2inPA]

Huh? Where did this come from? I guess I don't understand why you are playing devils advocate for people who you know seriously hurt some people here with the faked deaths?

I just see this as a no brainer. Everyone involved has explained the situation and you continue to act like they are being unreasonable by feeling totally betrayed in this.

Do you have some sort of personal stake in it all or something? Just curious.

I was seriously trying to expand on the situation to discuss internet ethics and whether or not you really know people who post on message boards, but obviously people are too hurt and emotions are too raw to discuss the topic. I don't think it's unreasonable that people were hurt; I think it's very understandable. I DO think it was unreasonable to suggest deafmedic and his wife are bad parents in real life or their kids are in some sort of danger because they made up a story on the internet.

Anyway, I just thought it was an interesting topic, but I don't need to discuss it. I'll just address any rude comments made about my posts and leave it at that.

 

[poohandwendy]

From my point of view....I find it a sick act, but I didn't know the poster. On the internet, I'm just finding a place to have discussions and learn new things, I don't necessarily get close to people. I feel sad when I hear of tragedies, but I don't feel personally connected.

Does that make any sense?? I'm not making light of the situation...

Can you understand that others may get more connected and did 'know' the poster and that minimizing the severity of the situation to them is just a wee be insensitive? I barely 'knew' Deafmedic, I remember her posts and I participated in a few threads with her/him...so I am not personally affected by her actions in a severe way, but I certainly can be understanding of the others who DID know her and considered her a good friend.

It's about considering the feelings of the people who were closely involved, IMHO.

 

[Cantw8]

Who said that? Are you drunk, now?

Nay, I've seen her drunk If she were drunk, then maybe your posts would make more sense. Dang, that's a great idea...here. I'll pour a few and then we can re-read your posts and come to our senses

 

[vivilasvegas]

Don't worry, I'm not. Like I said, I'm married to one. I just think it sounds scary that a paramedic would concoct such a story. Almost like a FF who is starts fires to fight them! (And don't worry, DH is also a sane FF so not hurting the FF's feelings!)

I also think it is very strange to play devils advocate and say some of the snide remarks to the LLs that you have on this thread. I think it is something more personal. That's be my guess. Things that make you go hmm...

huh??? what did I say?

 

[vivilasvegas]

Can you understand that others may get more connected and did 'know' the poster and that minimizing the severity of the situation to them is just a wee be insensitive? I barely 'knew' Deafmedic, I remember her posts and I participated in a few threads with her/him...so I am not personally affected by her actions in a severe way, but I certainly can be understanding of the others who DID know her and considered her a good friend.

It's about considering the feelings of the people who were closely involved, IMHO.

Wow, yes I do understand. i was answering a question about why maybe people don't feel as much, that's all.

Sorry, but I know I didn't belittle anyone's feelings here.

 

[momof2inPA]

From my point of view....I find it a sick act, but I didn't know the poster. On the internet, I'm just finding a place to have discussions and learn new things, I don't necessarily get close to people. I feel sad when I hear of tragedies, but I don't feel personally connected.

Does that make any sense?? I'm not making light of the situation...

That makes a lot of sense. That's how I feel, too, but there have been a few cases when I felt personally connected. If you stick around, it happens.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Nay, I've seen her drunk If she were drunk, then maybe your posts would make more sense. Dang, that's a great idea...here. I'll pour a few and then we can re-read your posts and come to our senses

Now that sounds like a plan. I am not a drinker myself (and a breastfeeding mom, so count me out.) But let me know if she starts making sense any time soon!

 

[Buckalew11]

Sorry, you said nothing. I was talking to momof2inPA and not you. I think I was editing my post when you posted this. Sorry, I confused you! Good news--you're innocent!

 

[vivilasvegas]

Sorry, you said nothing. I was talking to momof2inPA and not you. I think I was editing my post when you posted this. Sorry, I confused you! Good news--you're innocent!

Got it. Sorry too.

 

[Aidensmom]

Yes, it was them and the rest of the lush ladies and happened wherever they hang out now. Apparently, it was something pulled on them at their own board and they brought it over here. They seem to be the ones reacting so angrily to your suggestions too.

I am not sure where I have reacted angrily here, and I am just posting this now to get some facts straight, and not to attack anyone, what was "brought over here" was a thread to express the grief over the death of someone who had also been a DIS poster. There were some people here who knew the poster. There was no ill will intended or any sort of drama intended, just sort of a memorial to someone who was thought to be a friend.

Alex posted this thread to inform people here that the death was not real. Again, no ill will or any sort of drama intended. I personally believe it was quite honorable of him to be wanting to let people know the truth.

Whether some posters like the "lush ladies" or not, we are real people with real feelings for friends we have made on the internet, and many of us cried over the deaths of a friend and the tragic loss of two young lives. When it was found to be a hoax, I know personally I felt not only betrayed, but stupid for believing it in the first place, though what I should have felt was proud that I am an individual that cares about people, even if I have not seen them face to face. I think that some posts here just kind of made some of us feel like we were being told our feelings were not valid. If this whole hoax revelation had remained only on the other board, we would have all been happy, but we do understand that the people here who also grieved this death should know the truth.

And just to straighten one more fact out. Many of the "lush ladies' don't even drink. It all started from a joke. Apparantly one a lot of people did not get. And no, in case anyone is wondering, I am not drunk.

 

[poohandwendy]

Wow, yes I do understand. i was answering a question about why maybe people don't feel as much, that's all.

Sorry, but I know I didn't belittle anyone's feelings here.

I didn't say that you did, you responded to a post of mine that was directed at Momof2...I was clarifying why I think it is important to consider the feelings of those who ARE closely involved, because it DOES matter to them.

 

[vivilasvegas]

I didn't say that you did, you responded to a post of mine that was directed at Momof2...I was clarifying why I think it is important to consider the feelings of those who ARE closely involved, because it DOES matter to them.

Okay.

 

[momof2inPA]

I also think it is very strange to play devils advocate and say some of the snide remarks to the LLs that you (momof2inPA) have on this thread. I think it is something more personal. That's be my guess. Things that make you go hmm...

I didn't think I was playing devil's advocate, but why do you think it's personal? What's your guess? I love conspiracy theories; I'm dying to know, well not literally dying.

 

[momof2inPA]

Now that sounds like a plan. I am not a drinker myself (and a breastfeeding mom, so count me out.) But let me know if she starts making sense any time soon!

Perhaps if you added some English classes to the Social studies, we would all make a lot more sense, and so would your posts, dear.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Perhaps if you added some English classes to the Social studies, we would all make a lot more sense, and so would your posts, dear.

What the heck is your problem? Are you drunk?

 

[WebmasterAlex]

I was a paramedic for 15 years! I swear I never once faked my families death

 

[poohandwendy]

I dunno know Mom2inPa, I think you came looking for a fight and you found one. Not sure why you would feel the need, but whatever. Now you are playing the innocent victim...I'm gonna walk away cause I have a headache and this is just getting ridiculous...

Again,.sorry to those affected by this, it was way wrong and please know that MOST people get that.

 

[Briarmom]

I was a paramedic for 15 years! I swear I never once faked my families death

Of course you didn't Alex, you have a heart and a brain!

momof2inPA, would you care to disect WebmasterAlex' punctuation or grammar on this one?

 

[kejoda]

Seriously why the need to continue hurting the "LL's"? This has been horrible any way you look at it and why make it worse?


Pass me a drink ladies, I could use one.