Reading Child's Text Messages....

[In a hurry]

LOL, kids need to know that Parents check on them, because we were teens once, too.

 

[Master Mason]

OK. For a second I was like, "Umm that's just a bit rude."
You and my mom apparently have similar brains because she bought me one last week for that specific purpose.
Although she did say that if I wrote "Do not divorce my husband" at the top of the list she may have to hurt me.

ETA: The CORRECT link to the TB thread

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1859398

I read the first page or so, I was pleasently surprised to see that the majority thought it was acceptable and right for the parents to be checking on them. I was impressed.

Even back in the early 80s (the dark ages ) they stopped teaching spelling in middle school. Stopped "teaching" it per se because then it was up to us to do it on our own.

Spelling is certainly no indicator of intelligence, but it does affect how people perceive your intelligence. It's a shame. Some of the smartest people I know are atrocious spellers.

As I terrible speller myself, I can assure you that spelling has no bearing on intellegence. If I am typing something that matters, I run spell checks, and re read everything I type several times or have someone else look it over as needed, Message boards, I simply don't worry about it, if you can figure out what I am saying because it is close enough, then that's all I worry about.

What will people in college do if they can't spell pretty easy words? I'm pretty sure the prof. isn't going to accept "we never learned spelling in school"

Well, that's why spell checkers were invented, as well as proof readers. I can't spell worth a damn, but managed to do just fine in college as well as the professional world.

LOL, kids need to know that Parents check on them, because we were teens once, too.

This is funny, it is amazing how many things my kids have come up with thinking they were the first ones that had ever thought of it, when it was something I had tried to pull on my parents 20+ years ago, and of course they caught me at it just like I caught them.

 

[disykat]

The spelling comments weren't about spelling folks, they were about the irony of the statements she was making while not making use of spell check.

 

[Robinrs]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=25730242&posted=1#post25730242

thought you would like to see that the teen board is talking about this thread.

Couldn't care less...

I remember being a 15yo kid... do they have ANY clue what it's like to be a parent of a 15yo?

Like I tell my son, walk a mile in my shoes. When you're a parent you'll get it... I know I didn't until I did.

 

[MushyMushy]

Couldn't care less...

I remember being a 15yo kid... do they have ANY clue what it's like to be a parent of a 15yo?

Like I tell my son, walk a mile in my shoes. When you're a parent you'll get it... I know I didn't until I did.

Exactly.

My parents didn't have any reason to suspect I was doing anything wrong. I was a nice church girl, got good grades, was polite... but they certainly should have been a whole lot more vigilant.

 

[darlak]

I have done it in the past and will most likely feel the need to do it again in the future, as my youngest DD is only 14.

Let's see, with either her or one of my other children, I have also installed a recording device on my phones without their knowledge, had another, older sibling's boyfriend hack into DD14's MySpace account, made them call me from a landline to ensure that they were where they were supposed to be at a certain time, and followed them in an unfamiliar car...that's all that comes to mind at the moment, but I have no doubt forgotten many other things.

My house is not a democracy. I, along with DH, am in charge and make decisions we believe are in their best interest. Our primary job is to keep them safe and I will go to whatever lengths I believe are necessary in order to do that to the best of my ability. I will say though, that the level of intrusion is based on my instincts about how secretive they are being and what their possible motives may be. I rarely snooped at all with my son, who is now 23. There was little need to do. On the other hand, all 3 of my daughters have at one time (or more) given me reason to snoop and I have never lost a moment’s sleep over doing so.

Sure they were angry at the time, but I am very close to all 3 of my adult children now and we laugh often about some of these things. I will also add that all 3 of them believe that I am too easy on the youngest, who is the only one left at home now. I told them all when they were younger that although I very much wanted to be their friend, my job was to be their mother and when pushed to the wall, they would find a mother every single time.

 

[Michelle67]

This is funny, it is amazing how many things my kids have come up with thinking they were the first ones that had ever thought of it, when it was something I had tried to pull on my parents 20+ years ago, and of course they caught me at it just like I caught them

My husband is one of twelve kids. He likes to tell ours that they may think they are sly, but he knows all the tricks because if he didn't try it one of the other eleven did. Not that this stops them from thinking they are slick...but it gives them fair warning that they are going to get busted.

made them call me from a landline to ensure that they were where they were supposed to be at a certain time,

Me too. I also periodically called the house my daughter was going to stay at to talk to the other parent and make sure they hadn't been told the plan was to stay at MY house, and to be sure that a parent was going to be at home. I remember those days (myself trying to be slick) quite well. The one big mistake I made on that one, which I hope not to repeat in the future when my second two reach teen-hood, was in making certain assumptions about other parents. I ruefully remember the time I let my daughter go stay at a friends house, called the father and verified the plan and that he would be at home, then sat back feeling comfie. Along came my nephew, who called my daughter on her cell, followed her directions to where she was, then came back a short time later and asked me, "Do you realise she is in a house full of teenagers drinking and smoking pot?" Um...NO! Of course I didn't! I blurted out, "But the father told me he was going to be at home!" To which my nephew responded, "Oh yeah...he's there." And then he drove right back over there and dragged my kicking and screaming daughter home.