Quote "Mom can Will spend the night?"

[Serena]

This is from my teenage daughter.

They are at his house and are going to a club tonight. His mom was supposed to pick him up from there and I am picking my dd up from there.
His mom decides she's going out tonight and won't pick him up at all. She's done this before and last time he had no way of getting into his house.
My dd didn't think I'd be willing to drive late tonight to take him home. Guess what? He's going home. And HE HAD BETTER HAVE A KEY!!!!!!!!!!

She's incredibly lucky I didn't decide to pick her little behind up right now and bring her home.

And just think, 2 days ago she hated me again.

Teenagers, can't live with them, can't put them back.

 

[zurgswife]

You go girll!!! I'm right there with you on this one!!!

 

[Claudia1]

At least she asked!

I would do the same thing as you...... take him home.

Thats funny....."Can't live with them; can't put them back"!

 

[Mom2Em]

Boy, I am dating myself but times have changed... If I had ever asked that, I would be locked away until my 21st birthday... I wasn't even allowed to call a boy unless it was for homework help and even then...

 

[KimOhio]

there is always a window to get in LOL take him home

 

[Serena]

If I had asked that question to my mother??

No, that would have never happened.. I knew better, and my daughter should know better, but she is always going beyond the bounderies of what I think is appropriate. And then she's ranting and raving that I'm unreasonable.

Just 2 more years and she'll be away in college. Actually about 21 months.


It's about that time that my youngest will start being a teenager. Boy am I glad I will only have one at a time.

 

[Beauty]

Well I'm going to be the different one here. Now maybe I'm a little younger (30) but I know I'm not much younger. Maybe also our circumstances are a little different.

First of all John's mother never has cared a bit for him so it was nothing for her to go off and leave him in a single wide trailer for as long as she wanted. Well John and I had been dating for probably 6 months and my mom and dad loved him to death. Every time the weather got bad we would go pick him up and he would spend the night on our couch. It got to the point where he would stay at my house most weekends. There was NO sex going on.....there was nothing going on but sleeping, safety and security. I think to this day thats one of the reasons why my mother is more of a mom to him than his "birth" mother ever was.

 

[Serena]

Beth he has spent the night here before when he was homeless. The thing is, they spend an incredible amount of time trying to be alone and even if he is sleeping up here on my floor and her in her room. She knows how to sneak up here. I've caught her before. I've got really good hearing and she can do it. She wasn't doing anything then, but I can't count on that.

I just called her and told her that either she comes home now, or he gets dropped off regardless on whether he gets in or not.

 

[Beauty]

See thats very different then from our situation......I would never have tried to sneak up front. I knew better plus I knew I would have been grounded for life. I was always a little too good as a teenager anyway so I was terrified of anything sexual anyway at this time. With your situation I don't blame you one bit.

Heck, Its weird sleeping in the bed with John now that my mom and grandmother live here.....and we've been married 13 years...LOL!!!

 

[Serena]

Oh that reminds me. After my wedding, after the first night at the hotel, we stayed with my parents. Talk about strange. That first night at home, he got scared and sent me to my old bed. It was too weird for him.
After waking up to my parents laughing their heads off, the second night I was allowed to sleep with him.

Less than 10 days later he left for germany.

 

[Beauty]

LOL! I am so much worse than John.....I just feel weird but I'll get over it. John and mama both laugh at me....mama's room is downstairs on the whole opposite side of the house from ours.

Don't feel bad about your honeymoon.....when John and I were married we had been in the hotel (we stayed here our honeymoon night) 15 minutes and all of our friends showed up to go in the hot tub and pool......talk about romance...LOL!

 

[Serena]

Hot tub and pool?, darn I missed it. lol

 

[Beauty]

LOL! You would have fit right in!! Oh and I forgot to mention the Pizza afterwards

I tell you what though we all still laugh about it to this day and I wouldn't have traded that night for anything. We all had a blast....all 10 of us.

 

[Serena]

I bet you do.
It's usually the things that don't go quite as planned that we laugh at the most.

 

[hercamore]

HI Serena,

I would have the done the same thing with my dd. and her bf.

But, what's up with Will's mom? Wouldn't give her a mother of the year award.


Herc.

 

[Serena]

Actually, no, but at least she hasn't kicked him out in a few weeks.

 

[Buckalew]

You know, my parents let my boyfriend spend several nights with us when we lived only about 30 mins away but around the mountains and in bad weather, I'm sure it was a smart decision. We both slept downstairs in a split foyer and never tried anything. Of course, you'd have to know my mother. She's a toughie!
Serena, I'd have done the same though. It is all about trust and if you feel uncomfortable with trusting either of them to stay away from each other during the night, then he shouldn't stay. You certainly don't need any more people to take care of at this point in time, do you?!
My BF at the time had a pretty bad homelife from which I was going to save him. Then, I decided (after 4 yrs.) that his families lifestyle just wasn't going to jive with my idea of love and marriage--& he had known nothing else of love and marriage.

PS Turns out I was right about him too!

 

[browneyes]

Is there a way to bypass the teenage years? If so, someone PULEASE let me know how!

Laurie, let us know if he gets into his house.

 

[Serena]

Yeah, she's saving him alright. I have to admit to doing the same thing when I was her age, but I got smart faster than she is. But then again, she hasn't gotten into as much trouble as i did.

I wouldn't be feeling so harsh if I didn't know that he had a choice to stay home in the first place.
And if I didn't think they were trying to get around my new rule that she cannot spend both sat and sun with him. It's only one day on a weekend now. It's for a lot of reasons that she finds totally unreasonable.

 

[Buckalew]

Like, "Because I said so." ?? LOL

Your doing great with a teenaged DD, Serena. , like browneyes, am scared of that time! I was so good but I'm sure I'll pay for DH's raising!!