Quitting College Athletics, Advice Needed

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

https://www.disboards.com/threads/quitting-a-high-school-sport-need-advice.3736659/#post-60308170

Thanks for digging that up. I don't think this is a troll based on their posting history on other topics. But there's a thread from 2017 where they say they are 14 but a sophomore in high school so this may be someone who excels in academics but they struggle with interpersonal relationships. As if they have a hard time reading social cues, engaging in social circles and has a hard time maturity-wise recognizing their own faults, I'm not sure if their therapist is working on that but I hope so. Makes a lot more sense now with several other threads over time understanding the roommate thread. Someone who struggles with interpersonal relationships will likely see the roommate situation way differently as well as team dynamics.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I'd like to see the posters that called the fake teammates names such as witches etc come back...

I’m right here.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

It would be nice to know what, in fact, is actually going on here. OP hasn’t come back to clarify whether she’s a senior or what, after being asked. From the thread a few weeks ago, I had the impression she was not. I didn’t go searching through the rest of her history.

Regardless of what happened on a HS team - college is a different story. If she, in fact, is on a D1 college team, was contracted to play, and has been ostracized as described, it’s still wrong, and possibly illegal. I also think that, as described, if the girls on the team are treating a fellow player this way, they are witches.

If this is all a lie, then OP needs help in more ways than one. Still not going to mean to her, like some here have been.

 

[Mle8308]

OP, please speak to your parents and therapist. From your prior trip report posts, they seem like caring people who love you very much. Clearly there are some issues. The DISboards are not the place for sharing this type of information or asking for advice in your situation.

 

[GreatLakes]

Am I understanding this correctly, you played one year as a freshman in high school, could no longer play the sport because of an injury, but became a college division I athlete for 3 years?

With a partial athletic scholarship no less.

Apparently she is a child genius that gets through school Doogie Howser style but also good enough to still land a scholarship and spot on a D1 team. This is despite having a few less years of physical development which usually impacts athletics. Most high school aged kids that aren't freaks of nature can't play at a college level let alone D1 on a scholarship.

I can smell Denmark all the way from here.

 

[TwoMisfits]

It would be nice to know what, in fact, is actually going on here. OP hasn’t come back to clarify whether she’s a senior or what, after being asked. From the thread a few weeks ago, I had the impression she was not. I didn’t go searching through the rest of her history.

Regardless of what happened on a HS team - college is a different story. If she, in fact, is on a D1 college team, was contracted to play, and has been ostracized as described, it’s still wrong, and possibly illegal. I also think that, as described, if the girls on the team are treating a fellow player this way, they are witches.

If this is all a lie, then OP needs help in more ways than one. Still not going to mean to her, like some here have been.

It's why I've been reading this thread, but not posting. After seeing and responding in Op's old roommate post, I'm sensing this current post may be at least a part fantasy, and not a full reality, at this time.

 

[dvcgirl67]

I'm wincing a bit at some comments.....let's all remember our OP is 19 years old.....and we all know that our brains aren't fully developed at that time...etc. Gentle and kind advice is in order for a very young adult....especially from a bunch of strangers. Hoping OP is all good.

 

[sam_gordon]

I'm wincing a bit at some comments.....let's all remember our OP is 19 years old.....and we all know that our brains aren't fully developed at that time...etc. Gentle and kind advice is in order for a very young adult....especially from a bunch of strangers. Hoping OP is all good.

Maybe.

 

[QueenIsabella]

I don't think we have any "early college high schools" around here. All high school students are allowed to do dual enrollment, and many take AP classes. In addition, I know of several who took one or more college courses during the pandemic when many high schools were not meeting in-person full-time. One student I know graduated a year early from high school last year, and absolutely did participate in extra-curricular activities for all 3 years -- drama club, band, chorus and figure skating. Knowing this person as I do, they not only graduated high school early but also carried more than a year of college credits into their "freshman" year this fall. So it is entirely possible -- the pandemic opened an opportunity for considerable online learning for those with the ambition and ability. Probably very unique to that time period and not as easily accomplished now that schools are back in-person.

Early college high schools may be a North Carolina thing--I'd never heard of them until we moved here. They are actual high schools, located on college campuses, and the students graduate with an AA as well as a HS diploma. They have a rigorous application process (as they should--they also have a rigorous academic schedule).

My older two didn't go to HS in NC, but my younger DD did the IB program, and DS16 is doing dual enrollment (you may recall a thread a few months back, he was considering starting college early, but chose not to). Both were able to keep up their instruments (cello and violin, respectively), ballet, and, for my son, Scouts. Both also take/took AP classes. Given that they're smart, but not the super brilliant, super motivated type, I have no doubt that there are students who could do more than they choose to.

That said, there seem to be holes in the OP's story. It seems beyond odd that a college would recruit a D1 scholarship student, but then they would play less than 4 years. It's also passing strange that someone who was injured and didn't play would even be recruited to a D1 school. And, as others have said, she wouldn't have reached her peak strength/playing ability if she were so much younger than the rest of the team. If her academic stats are accurate, it would make more sense for her to play at a club or intramural level, rather than the varsity route. Most colleges have this--we looked into it for our oldest, who ran cross-country, but wasn't interested in competing at the college level.

 

[jrmasm]

I’m right here.

Are you standing by your comment that a group of girls that you’ve never met or spoken to or might not even be real are a bunch of witches?

You can be supportive without making nasty comments about others when you don’t have the entire story.

 

[dvcgirl67]

Maybe.

Well, I would rather err on the side of kindness in this circumstance and believe her.....especially since she told us she's struggling with some things.

 

[Allison]

That said, there seem to be holes in the OP's story. It seems beyond odd that a college would recruit a D1 scholarship student, but then they would play less than 4 years. It's also passing strange that someone who was injured and didn't play would even be recruited to a D1 school.

I don't think a D1 school is recruiting someone who only played as a freshman in high school and was told they couldn't play anymore.

 

[robinb]

Maybe.

I believe that she's 19. If she's not, she's playing the long game according to her other posts on the DIS, including a trip report. It takes zero effort to be kind to her or to simply scroll past if you think she's faking. In this instance, I too would rather err on the side of kindness than to falsely accuse someone of being a faker/troll.

 

[QueenIsabella]

I don't think a D1 school is recruiting someone who only played as a freshman in high school and was told they couldn't play anymore.

Me, either. People who are defending her should read her post here: https://www.disboards.com/threads/quitting-a-high-school-sport-need-advice.3736659/#post-60308170

There, she states that she was injured, surgery didn't fix it, and she's been managing the team as she can no longer play.

 

[ashley0139]

Me, either. People who are defending her should read her post here: https://www.disboards.com/threads/quitting-a-high-school-sport-need-advice.3736659/#post-60308170

There, she states that she was injured, surgery didn't fix it, and she's been managing the team as she can no longer play.

A thread with almost the exact same title. Interesting.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Are you standing by your comment that a group of girls that you’ve never met or spoken to or might not even be real are a bunch of witches?

You can be supportive without making nasty comments about others when you don’t have the entire story.

Do you “stand by” calling out and shaming a young girl here who’s obviously got some issues when perhaps a PM would’ve done - if you really cared about what you say?

 

[dvcgirl67]

Well....little things can turn into huge issues in the minds of younger people....probably a good idea not to pile onto a young adult who is struggling....with accusations of lies, etc.

 

[jrmasm]

Do you “stand by” calling out and shaming a young girl here who’s obviously got some issues when perhaps a PM would’ve done - if you really cared about what you say?

i only called out the posters that blindly jumped to her defense and started calling others names.

 

[TwoMisfits]

I'm not sure this is allowed - delete if it's not...but I figured I'd post this almost as a "be careful" post...

Thinking on this for the last hour and the past 3 Op posts...doesn't this seem like a very well thought out catfishing operation, done on a board where the average age would be parents/grandparents of a high school student/college student with a median income or above who would feel bad for the stories?

I mean, if you're the real person, you don't get your age wrong. And it really seems like the age isn't adding up here across the posts...and it's not close.
And you don't have the exact same issues the exact same way again and again. And it seems like they do.

And you don't have problems that always involve money without ever asking for money. That's the real thing that brought this to mind. I mean consider...

HS - should I leave the field hockey team, lose my friends and team, and then not get scholarships. Ask without an ask...
College - should I break my lease b/c of toxic roommates and find new housing. Ask without an ask...
College pt 2 - should I leave abusive D1 college team and lose my partial scholarship. Ask without an ask...

And adding in the mental instability and fragileness and the direct asking for our opinions each time...getting us invested to want to help...and then to help further through PMs...

Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I shouldn't have watched that catfishing doc on the Notre Dame football player whose NFL life got ruined by being catfished by someone who was probably this sophisticated.

But if I'm not wrong, I really thought these thoughts should be shared for the good of the board and its great posters.

 

[QueenIsabella]

I'm not sure this is allowed - delete if it's not...but I figured I'd post this almost as a "be careful" post...

Thinking on this for the last hour and the past 3 Op posts...doesn't this seem like a very well thought out catfishing operation, done on a board where the average age would be parents/grandparents of a high school student/college student with a median income or above who would feel bad for the stories?

I mean, if you're the real person, you don't get your age wrong. And it really seems like the age isn't adding up here across the posts...and it's not close.
And you don't have the exact same issues the exact same way again and again. And it seems like they do.

And you don't have problems that always involve money without ever asking for money. That's the real thing that brought this to mind. I mean consider...

HS - should I leave the field hockey team, lose my friends and team, and then not get scholarships. Ask without an ask...
College - should I break my lease b/c of toxic roommates and find new housing. Ask without an ask...
College pt 2 - should I leave abusive D1 college team and lose my partial scholarship. Ask without an ask...

And adding in the mental instability and fragileness and the direct asking for our opinions each time...getting us invested to want to help...and then to help further through PMs...

Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I shouldn't have watched that catfishing doc on the Notre Dame football player's whose NFL life got ruined by being catfished by someone who was probably this sophisticated.

But if I'm not wrong, I really thought these thoughts should be shared for the good of the board and its great posters.

I don't know if that's what we're seeing here. I see a troubled person who should step away from the DIS boards and get some help by in-person friends, family, and therapists. She says she can't talk to people IRL because "they're all biased"--that makes me think they're saying what she doesn't want to hear. Whatever problems she's really having in her life, the DIS boards aren't going to fix.