Quarantine and chill and kindness chatty clubhouse: Jump in and join the conversation! All is welcome!

[flyingdumbo127]

Extra hug and prayers, Lynn

Good night to all of you

 

[lynxstch]

Guess I will be first again this morning, but not by my choice. I was sound, and I mean sound asleep. They woke me to give me a pill. And informed me that I was being moved to another floor, at 1 am??? Lower level of care floor, which would be ok if I did not now have someone else in the room who snores like a freight train nurse says she never gets out of bed either. But this curtain across her side, and one down my side is making me feel claustrophobic already. Hopefully I can either get somewhere to get the valve fixed or go home to wait till I am ready to soon!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Guess I will be first again this morning, but not by my choice. I was sound, and I mean sound asleep. They woke me to give me a pill. And informed me that I was being moved to another floor, at 1 am??? Lower level of care floor, which would be ok if I did not now have someone else in the room who snores like a freight train nurse says she never gets out of bed either. But this curtain across her side, and one down my side is making me feel claustrophobic already. Hopefully I can either get somewhere to get the valve fixed or go home to wait till I am ready to soon!

Nice to see you posting first again, Lynn! Things didn’t feel right here when you were unable! I’m glad things are progressing for you, but sorry you have to deal with being in a double room. Those can be difficult for everyone. But my best advice is to count your blessings that you got through your acute episode and are now well enough to go elsewhere, even if it’s not as nice as you would like. Remember, someone else might’ve been bumped for you to come in. My own belief is that The Universe places us where we’re supposed to be. Maybe there’s a reason you’ve gone to that room when you did. Trust that you’re where you’re supposed to be and that we are fortunate to live in a place and time where we have such good medical care at our fingertips. I used to tell myself when I was unhappy about the medical things I was going through that there was a time not too long ago that I might’ve died from what I had going on had I not gotten the care that I got, when I got it, which can be a sobering thought. We have to keep these things in mind when we’re feeling like things are out of our control. I know you have a lot on your mind, but you have to take this time for yourself to get better or you won’t be any good to either yourself, or Mr. L. (Or the cats, or your friends and family, etc.) So hang in there, please. Try not to get super upset about things as it will only make things worse for you. If you need ideas about things you can do to keep busy, I’m sure we all have lots! Sometimes the surgical consults can move slowly. As I’ve mentioned many times here lately, things in hospitals are crazy right now. They’re nothing like they were pre-pandemic. Many staff are probably pretty new who are replacing those that left. Try to be the reason that someone smiles today. It will be good not only for the other person, but for you.

From my heart.

 

[lynxstch]

Nice to see you posting first again, Lynn! Things didn’t feel right here when you were unable! I’m glad things are progressing for you, but sorry you have to deal with being in a double room. Those can be difficult for everyone. But my best advice is to count your blessings that you got through your acute episode and are now well enough to go elsewhere, even if it’s not as nice as you would like. Remember, someone else might’ve been bumped for you to come in. My own belief is that The Universe places us where we’re supposed to be. Maybe there’s a reason you’ve gone to that room when you did. Trust that you’re where you’re supposed to be and that we are fortunate to live in a place and time where we have such good medical care at our fingertips. I used to tell myself when I was unhappy about the medical things I was going through that there was a time not too long ago that I might’ve died from what I had going on had I not gotten the care that I got, when I got it, which can be a sobering thought. We have to keep these things in mind when we’re feeling like things are out of our control. I know you have a lot on your mind, but you have to take this time for yourself to get better or you won’t be any good to either yourself, or Mr. L. (Or the cats, or your friends and family, etc.) So hang in there, please. Try not to get super upset about things as it will only make things worse for you. If you need ideas about things you can do to keep busy, I’m sure we all have lots! Sometimes the surgical consults can move slowly. As I’ve mentioned many times here lately, things in hospitals are crazy right now. They’re nothing like they were pre-pandemic. Many staff are probably pretty new who are replacing those that left. Try to be the reason that someone smiles today. It will be good not only for the other person, but for you.

From my heart.

You made me cry, but you are right. And I will try to do what you said to do today. Thank you for all of your post!!

 

[Snowysmom]

@lynxstch I am sending more thoughts and prayers to you. I am glad you got to see Mr. L. That must have made you feel better. Take it one day, one thing at a time. Once you speak with the cardiologist things will be more clear and you can make informed decisions. I understand about the double room and having to have a challenging roommate. Hopefully it won't be for long.

@FlyingDumbo I hope you find that this dentist is patient, kind, and competent. A smaller office is a good thing as they are probably more likely to take your needs into consideration. It is hard to find a new dentist or doctor.

Yesterday I went to the house to do more cleanup. The clothes are either donated, washed for the memory quilt, or in bags to be donated. That was so hard to do. A really good friend drove 2 hours from NH to have lunch with me. We went to a restaurant that Chris and I went to frequently. I wasn't sure if I could do it but having my friend with me helped. It also helped that she is very supportive and does not give me the usual platitudes that everything will be better and easier for me and I will be stronger and wiser. Those things make me angry, sad, and just do not help. My friend has a sister who lost her husband 3 years ago. Her sister told her recently that her heart has just started to feel just a bit lighter. She understands that grief is a long and personal experience. I will grieve for Chris for the rest of my life. What will change is how my grief presents itself and integrates into my life. I am reading the book my therapist recommended and it is helping a bit. I can only read a bit at a time without crying. Today I see the therapist. I have a list ready with things to talk to her about. I see my doctor on Thursday and may talk about something to help with sleep, I don't like to take anything but melatonin is not helping and the calming teas relax me to get to sleep but I wake up many times during the night.

 

[lynxstch]

@lynxstch I am sending more thoughts and prayers to you. I am glad you got to see Mr. L. That must have made you feel better. Take it one day, one thing at a time. Once you speak with the cardiologist things will be more clear and you can make informed decisions. I understand about the double room and having to have a challenging roommate. Hopefully it won't be for long.

@FlyingDumbo I hope you find that this dentist is patient, kind, and competent. A smaller office is a good thing as they are probably more likely to take your needs into consideration. It is hard to find a new dentist or doctor.

Yesterday I went to the house to do more cleanup. The clothes are either donated, washed for the memory quilt, or in bags to be donated. That was so hard to do. A really good friend drove 2 hours from NH to have lunch with me. We went to a restaurant that Chris and I went to frequently. I wasn't sure if I could do it but having my friend with me helped. It also helped that she is very supportive and does not give me the usual platitudes that everything will be better and easier for me and I will be stronger and wiser. Those things make me angry, sad, and just do not help. My friend has a sister who lost her husband 3 years ago. Her sister told her recently that her heart has just started to feel just a bit lighter. She understands that grief is a long and personal experience. I will grieve for Chris for the rest of my life. What will change is how my grief presents itself and integrates into my life. I am reading the book my therapist recommended and it is helping a bit. I can only read a bit at a time without crying. Today I see the therapist. I have a list ready with things to talk to her about. I see my doctor on Thursday and may talk about something to help with sleep, I don't like to take anything but melatonin is not helping and the calming teas relax me to get to sleep but I wake up many times during the night.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Good morning,

Lynn, Pea-n-Me had many wise words. I am glad you are taking care of yourself.

Snowysmom, I am happy to see you proactive about getting the help that you need to get through this difficult time in your life. I don't see you wallowing in your sorrow but moving forward a little at a time.

DH left early this morning to take his sister to a doctor's appt. I have a shift at the Welcome Center at church this afternoon. Will get soup in the crockpot for dinner.

 

[footballmouse]

Happy Tuesday morning

Not much to report on, just a little busy at work (I know, surprising!). Just wanted to stop by and say hi .

Hope everyone has a good day.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Lynn, it is so good to see you posting first. I was thinking last night that I miss your daily good morning pictures. A small gift you have given us that means so much to me not because of the always cute and upbeat picture but that you are checking in with us all. You are who is special to us, my friend. I am so grateful to God that you are where you need to be! I, of course, would LOVE for you to be healthy and home, you know that. But sometimes we all need to stop, be still, and finally learn to that we need to (and God wants us to) take care of ourselves!

I have shared that last year for me was such a blessing in many ways but particularly because after a truly taxiing and unhealthy in so many choices of daily living during 2019, the start of the pandemic in 2020, literally halted my rushing almost headfirst into a continued and sadly growing situation, some church related. I became stiller, learned to better listen to His still, small voice, and with His Grace and Care became healthier letting of physical weight but even more than that the burdens of what had become to me almost toxic stress and baggage. I have always been someone ready to jump in to assist another and pray to still be that way. However, I was finally ready to "get" that wait a minute, I do matter, too. I am not able to truly love or care for let alone serve or witness Christ, if I am not of good, joyous, and peaceful spirit! In a different way, if you think about it, Mr. L is being given this same gift of precious time to go forward more fully in life!

I pass on the above words now to you, my dear friend. You MATTER. View this time as the gift which it is. Not saying by any means it is easy, of course not. It is needed. Why? YOU ARE! God has plans and joys for you! He and in a human way all of us, especially Mr. L, need you to choose a better way of living. As you know, for some time, I have been very concerned about you because it sounded like you were as I once did but in an even greater way, rushing yourself into burnout. Take His Hand now, give thanks, and know from nearer to you in MD to all the way across the country here in LA, your Quacker family is by your side in spirit. We care!

❤ to you Pea. What a beautiful post, my friend. Thank you with all my heart. You are also so very special indeed.

Snowysmom, continued prayer and a ton of admiration too for you! So very proud of you, my friend. One step, one day, even, one moment at a time. You are never alone! We all care, too.

For all of you, especially Lynn, Happy Tuesday

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Wow, no one has posted since I did this morning. Prayers that means each of you has been busy, ideally in a a good way! Wishing all a cozy, relaxing evening

 

[Breezy_Carol]

All is well here. Cold and rainy. I miss Florida. Made spicy chicken soup in the crockpot and it was good.

 

[frog3101]

Good morning bump. Hope today brings nothing but good to all Quackers.

 

[footballmouse]

Good Wednesday morning!

Nothing much going on today. Not even cooking tonight, having some leftovers. Received an email yesterday regarding the job that I interviewed for a couple of weeks ago, I didn't get the job. Oh well, maybe that means I'm supposed to get a better job. I would love to work in a school, they just don't pay very well and I cannot take a pay cut. You know what question I hate to hear in an interview, "What do you see yourself doing in the future?". Or "What is your 5 and 10 year plan?" I have no idea! Do you say to still be working in the same position? This shows that you aren't planning to jump ship in a couple of years, or does it show that you have no ambition to improve yourself? My 10 year plan, really? I hope I'm retired or getting ready to retire. I'm not too upset about it.

Survivor night, I'm excited!

Hope everyone has a good rest of the day.

 

[Snowysmom]

Thinking of you Lynn and hope you are doing better and can go home soon.

Thoughts and prayers to all who need them.

I am off to the house and to the bank to close out another account. I am trying to consolidate the finances to just 2 financial institutions to make life easier. I finally got someone on social security yesterday. According to them I am in the queue at the Cambridge office. They are really busy and will get back to me sometime. I got a bit snarky and asked the rep if she thought they would get back to me by February when I need benefits to start. She wasn't sure how to answer that. She just said I am in the queue. Well, I will keep calling every 7-10 business days. I will be like a terrier with a bone. Fidelity was great and that is all settled. Now I just need the certificate to be updated so I can file the ins claim.

I saw the therapist yesterday. She really is the right one for me. I am glad I ended up with her. She acknowledges the grief and the pain and offers soft suggestions or makes me think about how I would like to do something. She asked me to talk about Chris and my first words were, He was such a good man. She said that she got that from the way I have talked about him. She said she can see the love we had and that I have such great memories with him. I just wanted more memories. It was nice and also sad to talk about him to someone who really listened and was really interested. I see her every 2 weeks.

Have a good day.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good Morning Friends,

For Lynn, Taz, and IIRC someone else who especially likes Donald today's picture is extra for you. Although, as a Quacker family, we all should have an extra place in our heart for Donald and Daisy! I do hope when we have our meet up we can get our picture taken with them, and of course, with our very favorite mice, too. Lynn, I just felt like it was the right thing to do to post today's picture. I hope that's okay with dear you! I so have appreciated your doing so for us for such a long time, I wanted to say thank you in an extra way by doing this. Let me know, my friend. I'd be happy (and maybe other Quackers can help me)! each take a turn posting a picture until you are well and home. Just an idea.

Thanks, Frog, so happy you have become a Quacker regular!

Hugs, Footballmouse, I admire your outlook! The right job will indeed come to you, my friend. i am sorry this current one, at least for now, wasn't it.

Carol, I've never been to FL, but do miss the warmer weather here!

Snowysmom and how extra thankful to God I am to read your post. Big hug to you, my friend and know always you are in my prayers.

Continued prayers for you, Lynn!

Today, dad and I are expecting some bigger deliveries including his new comforter and a new night stand for me. Tomorrow, I have what will probably be my last cleaning with my beloved dentist before he retires. I have not yet heard back from my email to the new dentist. I will ask my current dentist tomorrow, if he would reach out to the new dentist (dentist-to-dentist) on my behalf and just briefly share with him some of my extra needs. I am not quite comfortable asking my current dentist to do this just that I would sure appreciate if he did. I'll pray on it more today

Wishing all of you a good Wednesday. Stay cozy!

 

[PollyannaMom]

Wow, no one has posted since I did this morning. Prayers that means each of you has been busy, ideally in a a good way! Wishing all a cozy, relaxing evening

I was just busy yesterday - looking after the twins I tutored last year because they had the day off school, but their mom didn't. It was nice to hang out with them, and of course to get a "puppy fix" because they have a cute dog.

You know what question I hate to hear in an interview, "What do you see yourself doing in the future?". Or "What is your 5 and 10 year plan?" I have no idea!

Same! (And I like your attitude that the right job is still waiting for you.)

 

[lynxstch]

Going to ask for all of your prayers tomorrow morning, when they are going to do the cath, the TEE, and possibly a cardio very, which is shock heart to see if it will go back in normal rhythm. I hope all goes well, and if it does I will catch you all on the flip side. If not, it was nice having a Quacker family, love all of you. Lynn

 

[Snowysmom]

Prayers for you Lynn.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Hooray for puppy time, PollyannaMom

Huge prayers for you, Lynn❤

 

[lynxstch]

Very sad right now. Summer took 2 of our cats to the vet. One will be fixed on Nov 19, they had to put our older one to sleep. He had diabetes and kidney failure, and she said it wasn't fair to him to try and keep him alive. He was 12 1\2.