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[AuntieMe3]

View from our room. It actually looks a lot darker out there than the picture. It drizzled a bit but we have some thunder and lightening... I'm not a fan.



I ended up starting my Christmas shopping today while FB and Instagram were down this morning and I was stuck trying to be quiet in the room while DH napped on his lunch break. LOL I got the three of us matching pjs pants...well pants for DH and I and shorts for DD, as well as gifts for DD, my sister, both BILs, SIL, my sister and a friend. Just one thing for each from Old Navy, they were having a sale with an additional 30% off so I ended up saving over 50% off. Trying to get the adults I buy for taken care of early so then I can just concentrate on DD, my niece and 2 nephews.

Not sure what we're doing for dinner yet and it's already almost 6pm, DH will probably be working late again today so I may just get something here at the hotel by myself.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Smart shopping, AuntieMe3. It sure thundered here earlier and for maybe half an hour tops poured as well. Seems to have quieted down now. I also am so not a thunder fan.

I am watching more of Love Strikes Twice and think it's getting better!

Wishing all of you a good evening.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning everyone. It was very warm here overnite, is foggy now, calling for 78 and chance of rain. Once again, I was so tired, and so sore, that I thought I would sleep well, and didn't Did too much once again I guess. Today the only things I plan on doing are gathering the trash, cleaning the litterboxes, and putting groceries away after SIL and Niece bring them later this afternoon.

Nothing else new here, same old same old I guess. Hubby does need to make an appt this week , or next to go and get his Real ID and his license renewed. Since they only do it by appt, I am going to try for a Saturday morning one. When I did mine,,there was noone else in there, lol

Have a nice morning all

 

[Snowysmom]

Good Morning All. I have been MIA for a while.

Last Wednesday my DH passed away. I was not able to wake him up in the morning. He had passed during the night. He had no known health issues. It was a truly horrific time and I would not wish that on anyone. The 2 worst phone calls I had to make were to my sons to tell them that Dad passed. The town fire and police depts were very nice and respectful. He was only 67.

We had his services on Saturday. The boys did an amazing job with pictures and the slide show. We played music with the slide show. The first one was I got you Babe. My DH and the boys always danced to that song no matter what they were doing. If it came on radio, the got up and danced in a circle together. They did that well into their teen years. Then we played Beatles songs: Here Comes the Sun, Follow the Sun, Please Please Me, and Love Me Do. The boys did amazing eulogies that showed what kind of husband and Dad Chris was. He such a kind man and family was everything to him. I truly do not know how I am going to get through the rest of my life without him. We were married 45 years. We were supposed to celebrate our 50th together. I am so lost.

I am staying with my older DS which is about 50 minutes away from where we lived. The kids don't want me to go back to the house to live alone and actually said they won't let me. But, I can't go back there to live alone. The one decision I have made is to clean out the house and sell it. It will be a fixer upper but it has a newer roof and newer heating system. It is in a popular town and in a good friendly neighborhood. I have wanted to sell the house and buy a condo even when Chris was with me so this is not a rash decision. I may buy a condo. The kids say we will discuss the future once we deal with the house. Plus seeing a therapist will help me look at my options. I am taking time off from work to deal with all that I have to do.

I know my Quacker family is there for support so I reached out to you. I am on and off the computer depending on my mood which right now is being devastated. I ask why he had to go and get no response. I just hope he knew how much I loved him and appreciated him.

 

[footballmouse]

Good Tuesday morning

Just working in the office today . Noticed in my yard yesterday that we definitely have moles , I am not happy about it! I take care of my yard all summer and have it treated all year and now this. My yard is going to look like crap . It will be too expensive to hire someone for this, a friend said that their quote was $100 per mole. You don't even know how much it will cost b/c you don't know how many there will be.

Lazy night for dinner last night. Ds3 brought his leftovers home from lunch so him and I just ate on that. Tonight I'm putting a small ham in the oven. I'll throw some pineapples in with it and call it dinner. Ds likes veggies so whatever can I grab from the cupboard will be our vegetable. I think I put more thought in the cat and dogs dinners than ours.

Everyone have a good day

 

[easyas123]

Good day to you all. It's been several days, so I've tried to skim thru the last few pages, but I'm sure I missed a lot!

QOTD: What is your go-to drink, and how often do you drink it?

During the day I drink a lot of water, I don't mind unsweetened ice tea once in a great while, but I'm not a soda pop drinker. I generally have a glass of wine in the evening, and on the weekends sometimes enjoy a vodka club or martini.

Lynn, hope you had a nice birthday and anniversary! And hope your back is feeling better soon.

Ditto that, hope your back has ceased bothering you so much -

Had to check with DS to make sure the President wouldn't be on the bike trails. That is where he rides when he does

Funny, we have a similar problem down there with one of our jobsites...we need to take video and photos with a drone often and when Biden is in town they jam up the signals that allow drones to fly.

Where do all of you get seasonal placemats?

I LOVE a good wander around Home Goods/Marshalls. They have such different/interesting stuff. Old standby is Kohls. Used to like to check out Pier 1 as well.

Watched 1/2 of the Disney WDW 50'th annivesary special

I meant to record that but ended up forgetting all about it!

Anyone reading anything good right now? I need a new book idea

Regretfully, not at the moment. I've hardly had time to sit down much less read, although in truth that is my own fault for not making time. Now this time of year I'm often up in the big tractor for hours at a time. My husband put a bluetooth radio/speaker thingy in there so I can play audio books thru the speaker to help pass the time. Most recently I've listed to The Great Mortality https://www.amazon.com/The-Great-Mo...33440105&sprefix=the+great+mor,aps,143&sr=8-1 Good Omens https://www.amazon.com/Good-Omens (One day I WILL have a pet names Sister Mary Loquacious, what a great name -audiobook/dp/B00S999ED8/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Good+omens&qid=1633440132&s=audible&sr=1-2and this weekend I've started a book called The Jamestown Brides.https://www.amazon.com/The-Jamestown-Brides-audiobook/dp/B07R116RXD/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+jamestown+brides&qid=1633440171&s=audible&sr=1-1 I've also listed to a ton of books from the Great Courses catalog - mostly history-based.

unless you count rereading Harry Potter

Another go-to for me if I can't find anything else!

he's looking at a Subaru Forrester.

My Mother had a Outback station wagon. It was a super comfortable car. I have another family member with one now and they love theirs.

I made reservations for my SIL trip in March. I'm so excited to have this trip to look forward to!

We have travel plans this March as well, and we are soooooo looking forward to going come hell or high water!

So - we've been busy, just the usual fall stuff that keeps us busy. Grape harvest is half over as well. We are having a 50th birthday party for my husband this weekend and I've been busy sweating over the details. This coming weekend we also take possession of our new foster dog/puppy. Appears she may have some (not unsurmountable) health issues which will see us up at the specialty vet practice so that ought to keep us busy. I'll be hosting Thanksgiving this year for family that will be around. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday and I love the hustle and bustle and full house and all the prep & cooking and everything that comes with it.

Tomorrow afternoon I am on the road, but tomorrow evening I am doing a enforced "chill-out". Husband and eldest will be hunting down in southern MD so the dogs and I will have a quiet house with no one to prepare dinner for. Maybe that will be a great time to crack open a new book. Or work on my Thanksgiving lists I have a meeting in-office this afternoon, a meeting at a jobsite down near the DE shore tomorrow afternoon, and another meeting down at the DE shore at another jobsite Thursday afternoon. In between that I need to go shopping for all the food needed for a big party and work on those arrangements. I am taking Friday to tie up loose ends, and meeting the water guy over at eldest new house- we are gifting them the whole house water system/filter/softener whatever it is for the new house. Water there is terrible, but now that the well is drilled we can get moving on that so that they can have that installed ASAP after settlement.

Dinner this evening will be pork chops, not sure if they will be grilled or baked or what. I'll figure that out later, right now I consider it a accomplishment that I remembered to take them out of the freezer.

 

[easyas123]

I just hope he knew how much I loved him and appreciated him

Oh Snowysmom, I'm so very sorry for your loss, and your son's loss. Your sons sound like wonderful young men who have rallied to support their Mother at this unbelievably difficult time. I'm sorry, I know no words will offer your peace at this time, but I'm am truly sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

@Snowysmom, I don't know what to say. That is terrible and heartbreaking. I don't know what I would do in your shoes. I am so sorry. I am glad your sons are helping you through this terrible time.

One bit of advice, do not do anything rash or life changing for 6 months. Let yourself process this. When my dad died, I didn't want my mother to make any major changes for 6 months/

to you and your sons.

 

[PollyannaMom]

@Snowysmom on such sad and shocking news.

I just hope he knew how much I loved him and appreciated him.

I'm sure he did!

And we are definitely all here for you.

 

[lynxstch]

@snowsymom--omg I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your husband. Your post made me break into tears. I feel so bad for you and your family. Since my hubby is also 67, but not in the best of health, I know it's always a possibility, but to have it be so sudden, and with no known health problems is just horrific. Sending you prayers of love and support from your DIS family. Your husband knew how much you loved and appreciated him, and how much he will be missed. Your DIS family is here for you if you need to vent, or talk, or just to be silently thinking of you
Love,
Lynn

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

(((huggles))) to @Snowysmom

I am so sorry.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

The thunder and rain tapered off last night pretty early as did some noisy neighbors. I was concerned at one point because it sounded like loud fighting. I could not pinpoint where just that I had heard the man ranting once before. Keeping the woman especially in prayer! Otherwise I slept well.

I hope your DH’s Real ID appointment goes quickly Lynn. Not needing one is definitely an advantage of not being able to fly and being a homebody in general.

HUGE hug and more prayer than I can express in words, dear Snowysmom. I am truly so sorry, my friend. No words, just love. Please, please remember you are not alone, God is with you. I am so thankful it sounds like your children are very supportive and there for you and of course all of us, your Quacker family care a ton too. We are here whenever you need us.

I take it a mole is a pesky critter, Footballmouse? If so, it can scamper away elsewhere from me that’s for sure! I hope your yard repair doesn’t end up costing too much.

Good to see you this morning, Easyas! Dad and I cashed in a bunch of coins to Coinstar on Sunday. We used some of the money to get these placemats on Amazon. They were more costly than normally we would have spent but because of the coins the price felt lower if that makes sense. Once again kudos to Amazon for exceptional customer service, in two ways. First, the placemats came yesterday. They were only ordered on Sunday as I said! Second, in the description it is clearly stated that you are purchasing 6 placemats. We only received 4. I contacted Amazon NOT to complain (4 is more than enough) but simply to let them know I had only gotten 4. The agent confirmed I should have indeed received 6. Despite my saying I was happy with the 4 and that was fine. I was not asking for any type of refund, he insisted on giving me a full refund! So the 4 placemats were free. Extra blessing indeed. Happy upcoming 50th to your DH and prayers for an easy transition into your loving care for the new pup.

That is wonderful advice Carol! Extra hug to you on your dad.

 

[lynxstch]

The thunder and rain tapered off last night pretty early as did some noisy neighbors. I was concerned at one point because it sounded like loud fighting. I could not pinpoint where just that I had heard the man ranting once before. Keeping the woman especially in prayer! Otherwise I slept well.

I hope your DH’s Real ID appointment goes quickly Lynn. Not needing one is definitely an advantage of not being able to fly and being a homebody in general.


Not being able to fly is not an option for not getting a read ID..everyone MUST have them I am told


HUGE hug and more prayer than I can express in words, dear Snowysmom. I am truly so sorry, my friend. No words, just love. Please, please remember you are not alone, God is with you. I am so thankful it sounds like your children are very supportive and there for you and of course all of us, your Quacker family care a ton too. We are here whenever you need us.

I take it a mole is a pesky critter, Footballmouse? If so, it can scamper away elsewhere from me that’s for sure! I hope your yard repair doesn’t end up costing too much.

Good to see you this morning, Easyas! Dad and I cashed in a bunch of coins to Coinstar on Sunday. We used some of the money to get these placemats on Amazon. They were more costly than normally we would have spent but because of the coins the price felt lower if that makes sense. Once again kudos to Amazon for exceptional customer service, in two ways. First, the placemats came yesterday. They were only ordered on Sunday as I said! Second, in the description it is clearly stated that you are purchasing 6 placemats. We only received 4. I contacted Amazon NOT to complain (4 is more than enough) but simply to let them know I had only gotten 4. The agent confirmed I should have indeed received 6. Despite my saying I was happy with the 4 and that was fine. I was not asking for any type of refund, he insisted on giving me a full refund! So the 4 placemats were free. Extra blessing indeed. Happy upcoming 50th to your DH and prayers for an easy transition into your loving care for the new pup.

I too got excellent Amazon service this morning. I ordered 2 long handled cat litter scoopers to save my back. They were supposed to be here today. It shows they were shipped with USPS (I got an email yesterday that they would be here a day early, so today, instead of tomorrow), but the tracking number belongs to UPS. And the number doesn't exist on either carrier. They issued me a refund, assured me that they would be here by Thursday even if they have to reship them, and gave me a $10 promotional credit on top of it!

That is wonderful advice Carol! Extra hug to you on your dad.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Wow go Amazon, Lynn! I didn't think I needed one since I don't travel at all! For me "travel" post plague will=a day trip, maybe overnight to DL! Otherwise it'll be church and being so blessed also to get to finally help dad do laundry and shop

Forgot to say earlier I did watch the rest of Love Strikes Twice. I did enjoy parts of it. Overall, I thought movies with similar (going back in time main storylines) like Big and Flight of the Navigator were a ton more endearing. This one just felt "off." It was so hard to believe that Maggie was truly supposed to be only 18 for the majority of the movie particularly during the courtroom scenes. I also (never) approve of pranks or intentional deception which is what the characters do at the end. Not kind or right at all. I did think Josh was quite handsome and seemed like an all-around good guy. I was glad Maggie at least realized that! It also is always heartwarming to see older folks (Maggie's parents), even fictional, happily in love after 40 years.

In a book report, several books are in transit to the library closest to me. I also was able to order a bunch on Paperbackswap

Extra Snowysmom and love to you and everyone else.

 

[AuntieMe3]

@Snowysmom I'm so sorry for your loss. I just can't imagine what you're going through right now but know we are all here for you if and when you need. Much love to you and the rest of your family.

I just hope he knew how much I loved him and appreciated him.

He knew....

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Good Morning All. I have been MIA for a while.

Last Wednesday my DH passed away. I was not able to wake him up in the morning. He had passed during the night. He had no known health issues. It was a truly horrific time and I would not wish that on anyone. The 2 worst phone calls I had to make were to my sons to tell them that Dad passed. The town fire and police depts were very nice and respectful. He was only 67.

We had his services on Saturday. The boys did an amazing job with pictures and the slide show. We played music with the slide show. The first one was I got you Babe. My DH and the boys always danced to that song no matter what they were doing. If it came on radio, the got up and danced in a circle together. They did that well into their teen years. Then we played Beatles songs: Here Comes the Sun, Follow the Sun, Please Please Me, and Love Me Do. The boys did amazing eulogies that showed what kind of husband and Dad Chris was. He such a kind man and family was everything to him. I truly do not know how I am going to get through the rest of my life without him. We were married 45 years. We were supposed to celebrate our 50th together. I am so lost.

I am staying with my older DS which is about 50 minutes away from where we lived. The kids don't want me to go back to the house to live alone and actually said they won't let me. But, I can't go back there to live alone. The one decision I have made is to clean out the house and sell it. It will be a fixer upper but it has a newer roof and newer heating system. It is in a popular town and in a good friendly neighborhood. I have wanted to sell the house and buy a condo even when Chris was with me so this is not a rash decision. I may buy a condo. The kids say we will discuss the future once we deal with the house. Plus seeing a therapist will help me look at my options. I am taking time off from work to deal with all that I have to do.

I know my Quacker family is there for support so I reached out to you. I am on and off the computer depending on my mood which right now is being devastated. I ask why he had to go and get no response. I just hope he knew how much I loved him and appreciated him.

Omg, @Snowysmom. Devastated to read your post. What an awful thing to have to live through. Sending you really big virtual hugs and prayers. I’m so glad you are with your family. My father passed similarly at 66. It changed our lives in a big way, because it started the process of my Mom coming to live with us. We built an in-law apt and she was here with us for 25 years. Overall it worked out well. But the process of selling the house and building onto ours was a tough one. Fortunately it was before I had kids so although I was working a weird schedule at the time, I had time to do what I needed to do. I’m sure you will work it all out in time. I’m glad you had a tentative plan in place already, which may help make things a little bit easier. I’m sure in this market, your house will sell quickly. But it is a lot to take on, so my thoughts and prayers are with you. My beloved sister in law lost her husband suddenly this summer, as well, at only 62. Same thing, no warning, no known health problems. It is one of the reasons we stayed a couple of extra nights at Disney last month, life is short and you just never know. (Of course I see it in my work, as well.) We have been trying to help support SIL as best we can since then, but it’s been so hard for everyone emotionally. DH and DS are going over there to do some work on their house this weekend. I try to check in with her as much as I can just to see how she’s doing. Know we are here for you, and we care. I hope that he and Jasper are together in Heaven. I believe that they are. I am available by PM any time at all if you want to talk more.

 

[Owlpost23]

Good Morning All. I have been MIA for a while.

Last Wednesday my DH passed away. I was not able to wake him up in the morning. He had passed during the night. He had no known health issues. It was a truly horrific time and I would not wish that on anyone. The 2 worst phone calls I had to make were to my sons to tell them that Dad passed. The town fire and police depts were very nice and respectful. He was only 67.

We had his services on Saturday. The boys did an amazing job with pictures and the slide show. We played music with the slide show. The first one was I got you Babe. My DH and the boys always danced to that song no matter what they were doing. If it came on radio, the got up and danced in a circle together. They did that well into their teen years. Then we played Beatles songs: Here Comes the Sun, Follow the Sun, Please Please Me, and Love Me Do. The boys did amazing eulogies that showed what kind of husband and Dad Chris was. He such a kind man and family was everything to him. I truly do not know how I am going to get through the rest of my life without him. We were married 45 years. We were supposed to celebrate our 50th together. I am so lost.

I am staying with my older DS which is about 50 minutes away from where we lived. The kids don't want me to go back to the house to live alone and actually said they won't let me. But, I can't go back there to live alone. The one decision I have made is to clean out the house and sell it. It will be a fixer upper but it has a newer roof and newer heating system. It is in a popular town and in a good friendly neighborhood. I have wanted to sell the house and buy a condo even when Chris was with me so this is not a rash decision. I may buy a condo. The kids say we will discuss the future once we deal with the house. Plus seeing a therapist will help me look at my options. I am taking time off from work to deal with all that I have to do.

I know my Quacker family is there for support so I reached out to you. I am on and off the computer depending on my mood which right now is being devastated. I ask why he had to go and get no response. I just hope he knew how much I loved him and appreciated him.

 

[Owlpost23]

I am so sorry that this happened to you.I want to say some words of comfort but there are none.Hugs to you and your boys.Your husband sounds like he was a peach....

 

[lynxstch]

80 degrees, sunny and warm outside. Took me most of the day, but I got 2 loads of laundry done,,dishes done,,just finished emptying litter boxes, niece is going to put that bag in the car for me with the rest of the trash for tomorrow. They are at Walmart..and once again, not one can of cat food on the shelves? This is getting ridiculous!

Hubby wants a salad for dinner with chicken and cottage cheese, I think I just feel like a couple of eggs on toast--my back is hurting pretty bad right now. Just took tylenol (motrin does nothing), and am going to put an ice pack on it,,seems to help more than heat does. Just have to bring up the last load of laundry and I can quit for the day.

Great news on Mr L's medications to report on. Social worker just called. She will meet with us Monday when he has an appt at the COPD clinic, and take the info they need. Proof of income, proof of out of pocket drug costs, and the heart clinic will submit paperwork to the drug company's for his Entresto and Farxiga, and the COPD clinic will submit theirs to the drug company for Anoro. Once we get the approval letters in the mail from the drug company's, the drug company's will be sending those 3 drugs to hubby by mail..at no cost! That is some racket..since we just paid $966 for those 3 drugs last month..and they can send them for nothing..how much are drug company's actually making on these things???? geez...but we are more than grateful to the social worker for looking into it and finding out that there IS help out there for those who need it!

Have a nice evening everyone

 

[flyingdumbo127]

That is fantastic news, Lynn! (I know Mr. L likes Goofy)