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[flyingdumbo127]

Hooray for an overall brighter day for my Quacker family. I am so grateful. I've enjoyed reading about your Christmas shares so far ITA that parenting is not for the faint of heart and that certainly at 16 a teen is old enough to take responsibility for her choices! Continuing prayers for your DH Lynn and for no more water coming in AuntieMe3!

 

[PollyannaMom]

Hi, everyone. Thanks for the prayers! DS did get admitted, but was in the pediatric ER area through the night (because there wasn't a regular bed yet) so I was allowed to stay with him. The nurses were very nice, and they even brought in a cot for me to catch a bit of sleep on.

He is still getting IV fluids (but slow ones now) and those and the extra sleep are, I think, helping. The docs seem to have figured out what's going on, but I'm not sure he'd like me being too specific to (to him) strangers, so I'll leave it for the moment that they have a plan in place for him that they think will fix the problem.

He is to stay until tomorrow morning, though, so they can do careful food challenges to make sure he can keep things down.

Only one visitor per patient is allowed right now due to COVID protocols, so DH and I swapped around noon, and I got to come home and take a shower, etc.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Little Christmas Traditions:
When DS was small, we would always go to a certain Christmas store (it was a pool place in the summer and turned to holiday themed in the winter) to see the train display, get a picture with Santa, and have a treat in the special coffee shop. We would also make "reindeer food" to sprinkle on the lawn, and open one present on Christmas Eve.

@lynxstch, I'm so glad your DH got into the rehab floor!! Hopefully you will both get excellent care and communication there!

@sweetpeama, teens can definitely be trying. - I hear they grow of it by 25.

And to anyone else I meant to answer, but lost my train of thought, best wishes on whatever you need!!

 

[easyas123]

unlike 16 year old who will bring up things from years ago even after you have appologized and made it up to her.

No. You are the parent. Don't entertain it her drama. Don't engage if she can't speak to you in a respectful manner.

Plus she has a phone and we provide her phone card though this month I am so tempted to not provide it unless her attitude changes before it runs out on the 17th. I also provide her with money for her coffee card but that is going to be cut off again until attitude changes. Not that it will do any good because DH will just buy them for her-he is 90% of the problem in truth because he lets her get by with stuff and just gives her what she wants if we can afford it-

Yeah, gotta be on the same page with these things. I'd pull the phone & coffee $$$. Good attitude = perks. All of us managed to be teenagers, working/communicating with friends, without cell phones and survived. Like I said, a bit -or at first a lot - of Tough Love can help make inroads with drama/attitude.

I feel like I'm coming off harsh, hope it doesn't seem that way. I just come from a old fashioned point of view, you are the Parent, you are in charge. YOU get to make the decisions about what the child does, and obviously - yes, as they grew older and earn EARN more perks that goes with more responsibilities. It's your home, and you get to establish how people within treat each other.

Hi, everyone. Thanks for the prayers! DS did get admitted, but was in the pediatric ER area through the night (because there wasn't a regular bed yet) so I was allowed to stay with him. The nurses were very nice, and they even brought in a cot for me to catch a bit of sleep on.

He is still getting IV fluids (but slow ones now) and those and the extra sleep are, I think, helping. The docs seem to have figured out what's going on, but I'm not sure he'd like me being too specific to (to him) strangers, so I'll leave it for the moment that they have a plan in place for him that they think will fix the problem.

He is to stay until tomorrow morning, though, so they can do careful food challenges to make sure he can keep things down.

Only one visitor per patient is allowed right now due to COVID protocols, so DH and I swapped around noon, and I got to come home and take a shower, etc.

Oh good, I hope the plan works out. I agree, I think sleep & fluids can go a long way. I hope he has a peaceful night, and you & your husband, too!

 

[easyas123]

eens can definitely be trying. - I hear they grow of it by 25.

I've got one going on 26 and sometimes I wonder! Meanwhile his little brother has walked a straight line his entire life!
Funny how two kids less than 2 years apart, raised in the same house by the same parents in the same way can in some ways be two different people.

Unless of course, the younger was was just better at getting away with things

 

[sparkle78]

QOTD: little silly Christmas traditions

buying Godiva chocolate. When we first started dating we bought a box of carmels from The Godiva store, a holiday decoration from the Disney store, and a tin of mixed popcorn to share with guests when they came to visit. Sadly, those stores are no longer in the mall. So we buy our popcorn tub from the boy scouts in the fall and order the chocolate online

 

[sweetpeama]

@PollyannaMom I sure hope she outgrows it at 25 because not only does she hate the state she was born and raised in due to some fantasy card game she is into not being carried in any stores around here to hating the entire country and wanting to live some place that has her heavily leaning towards socialism and everything handed to her wish list. She plans on saving her money so she can move to one of those countries to live she has no idea where. Yes I know she is going to be in for a rude awakening in how much she will end up paying in taxes both there and here as she will have to pay us income tax on money earned in another country unless the law is changed plus getting over to another country just to live even short term unless she is attending sch ool, military spouse, and a few other limited open doors in the first place. By the time she has the money saved to make the move hopefully she has outgrown her attitude.
One of my cousins ended up living in Austrralia with a job he got with a company doing the same thing he had done in the miltary but he was in his mid 30s and it was supposed to be short term. He met his 2nd wife there and they got married her when he was in his late 30s they lived there for a while and then moved her for a while when they had been married long enough for her to be able to get residency and a green card so she could teach. She did get citizenship and a few years ago they moved back to Australia at least for a few years. A family member is renting their house here as they did not sell the house as they do plan on someday moving back here to live either in that house or their semi self contained house they are building out of town a ways along with going back and forth to their place in Australia. To be honest if I had the money I would send her to stay with them because while he does have some of the same views but not as drastic-everyone who does not believe me is wrong I am willing to discuss but only if you agree with me and if you dare to disagree with me your closed minded that she has. He will engage in intelligent debate listening to your side on issures and attempt to come to a mutual conclusion with if needed having an attitude of why we might not agree we are family/friends and that is what matters more. He and his wife might be able to get her to see things from another point of view while still letting her see her friends she has made online there (opposite side of the county from where my cousin and his wife live) while giving me some piece of mine that someone is keeping an eye on things that I trust. That or hopefully they come for a visit sometime soon and she and I can sit down with him and talk over various issues and she can learn how to do it with respect and consideration towards other instead of this yourview is wrong so your a terrible horrible person.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Continued hugs and prayers, PollyannaMom! I am so glad your DS is getting the care he needs and that you and your DH were able to take turns being their with him! Love the reindeer food tradition! How fun

I agree completely with you, Easyas! It is not easy for kids of all ages to hear "no" or that we (as a family) need to sit down right here and now and have a conversation.

Try to remain calm, Sweetpeama should you do this, remind your DD of course that you love her first and foremost. You are so grateful for her. Ask her to start by sharing what her ideas are to help all of you (so it's not strictly about her) as a family better work together in support of one another! What does she think of a simple daily calendar that each person is responsible for checking daily and also adding in any appointments or activities to? Show her a basic chart that you have created ahead of time of daily household chores, it can be something very simple. You could also for added fun, have the chart show a picture of your dog or other animals and what care they require and at what times each day. Sign up yourself for a slot and have your DH do likewise, so she can see the chart already in effect and that Mom and Dad are both on the same page about it! Then ask her what care task she would like to sign up for that day. It might be a pain to implement something like this but it might also be tangible (non confrontational) way for her to truly see (I am a visual person) some of what goes into running your household!

As a family, sit down and try to set some ground rules on treatment of one another. You don't always have to agree with one another or even like a end decision made by a parent, but every person of the family needs to always be spoken to and treated in a kind, respectful manner. No exceptions. Go from there and know we're in your corner.

 

[lynxstch]

Hi, everyone. Thanks for the prayers! DS did get admitted, but was in the pediatric ER area through the night (because there wasn't a regular bed yet) so I was allowed to stay with him. The nurses were very nice, and they even brought in a cot for me to catch a bit of sleep on.

He is still getting IV fluids (but slow ones now) and those and the extra sleep are, I think, helping. The docs seem to have figured out what's going on, but I'm not sure he'd like me being too specific to (to him) strangers, so I'll leave it for the moment that they have a plan in place for him that they think will fix the problem.

He is to stay until tomorrow morning, though, so they can do careful food challenges to make sure he can keep things down.

Only one visitor per patient is allowed right now due to COVID protocols, so DH and I swapped around noon, and I got to come home and take a shower, etc.

Continued prayers for your son

 

[lynxstch]

I am home..its 94 and HOT out. Lawn needs mowing , but it is going to sit there and wait till it cools down. I will go out after dinner and put the sprinklers on in the garden

No more needed updates today, as nothing changed since this morning, just waiting to hear what the xray shows, if anything...
What I really want to say to all of you right now..for the advice,,for the concern, for the information, for just being here is --



From the bottom of my heart. I am relieved somewhat now, that he will at least get a chance..and trying to be hopeful that he can manage to improve.

 

[easyas123]

From the bottom of my heart. I am relieved somewhat now, that he will at least get a chance..and trying to be hopeful that he can manage to improve.

Sounds like he is on the right path!

 

[flyingdumbo127]

It sure does sound like he's on the right path, Lynn, well said, Easyas Love the cute duck image, too, thank you, friend.

 

[PollyannaMom]

They are on their way home!

Apparently, they were able to discharge him today after all. I have the bland crackers and Pedialyte popsicles at the ready!

Thanks again, everyone!

 

[easyas123]

They are on their way home!

Apparently, they were able to discharge him today after all. I have the bland crackers and Pedialyte popsicles at the ready!

Thanks again, everyone!

Yay!

 

[Snowysmom]

Pollyanna Mom Great news! It so hard when our kids are sick. Hope he feels all better soon.

To everyone who needs a boost or a break, I am sending good thoughts and prayers to you.

Part of my work is up and running. I have been able to get some things done over the past 2 days but still cannot access spreadsheets which is about 80% of my work it seems. Hopefully tomorrow! I went into the office today and others are feeling the stress of having to play catch up.

Happy Thursday.

 

[Snowysmom]

I forgot about Christmas traditions. We go out on Christmas Eve to look at Christmas lights. We did it before kids, took the kids when they were at home, and still do it. We go to the same places each year as there are some very well decorated houses complete with music. We also have pancakes for breakfast on Christmas. I also make sugar cookies from a recipe from the Betty Crocker cookbook.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Hooray, PollyannaMom!

I'm sorry, Snowysmom, so frustrating when technology we depend on (especially for work) is not cooperating! I love that you go look at Christmas lights, I'll have to do that one year and sugar cookies always taste best at Christmas, don't they?

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Slipping thread is not allowed!

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning everyone. Well its morning anyhow.Hubby calls me at 9 and tells me the night nurse insisted on putting in an iv when he was still on the fifth floor, and there was no reason for it. He is not getting fluids, no iv meds, and all that did was put one more thing in the one hand he can use right now. There was still no word on the xray results

Then the phone rings again at almost 10, Hubby calls me again and wakes me out of my first sound sleep in days. They were moving him to the 7'th floor, only to have to move him again today to the 6'th. They said they needed the bed for someone coming down from ICU, but at almost 11 at night? That could have all waited till 7:00 am. They get him up to the 7'th floor just before midnite, and the nurses there weren't even aware someone was being sent up there.

Then I get on FB to message my sister in law and tell her what was going on, and find a message from my niece being typed at the same time I am typing, that they were at the ER at Potomac Valley Hospital in Keyser. They had to go to Morgantown yesterday for a Drs appt, left here at 10 for a 2:45 appt, stopped at some stores first, had lunch, and instead of just coming home after the appt, they went shopping again. My sister in law started sweating and couldn't cool down, felt better when she got back in the car with the ac going,,and then started feeling bad again on the way home. She was dehyrated. They gave her iv fluids and told her to rest out of the heat. Apparently she sat in the car while niece had her appt, I assume she must have put the ac on now and again while waiting, but it wasn't enough. And it's supposed to be in the 90's again today. I got stepdaughter to drive me this morning before she has to drive to near Morgantown to pick up her hubby from his 2 weeks away at his job, and I guess I will have to figure out how to use a cab to get home. I told sister in law to rest all morning, and call me and let me know how she was feeling later. . So it was after 2 when I finally fell asleep, and I woke with a start at 5 with 3 cats sitting on the bed staring at me because their breakfast was late, lol.

I hope today goes better for everyone!

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Oh, Lynn, so not what you needed. Hugs and extra prayer that today is both restful and positive for both you and your DH!

Friday hugs to all