Princesses: Do you say they're real?

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In another thread there was much discussion of how parents who pretend with their children that the princesses are real deal with the fact that more than one cast member plays each character. Some parents make what I'd call heroic efforts to make sure that their child isn't disillusioned.

My wife and I were talking about this last night, and now we're very curious about how other parents handle the subject of "real" princesses.

To us, princesses seem a little different that some other Disney characters in that they are, in a sense, historical (in the case of Pocahontas, literally so). So how does a parent who wants to keep the "reality" of a princess intact deal with the character's historicity? If your child was studying history and asked "is this when Sleeping Beauty's dad was king?" how would you answer? Do you, at some point, make clear that "reality" and "Disney reality" are two different things?

All of this came to mind because my wife worked at Renaissance Faire when she was a teenager, and there were some people working there who treated the place like the real world (they wouldn't discuss "back stage," etc.). Because the Faire had some characters who were playing real people (such as royalty), you had an odd situation in which a parent might tell their child that they had met Queen Elizabeth and encourage the child to believe it was true. To us, this seemed odd.

I don't want anyone to think I'm being disapproving or flaming or anything -- I'm really just curious. From the time he was very young, our son was only comfortable with Disney characters, Santa Claus, etc. if he knew they weren't real. Once he did, he could play along just fine (and, at age 7, still does). Because of this and because we don't do the "pretend it's real" thing with our son, this is just plain outside of our experience.

Thanks a bunch!

--Dominick
 
We never told our children any of the characters were real. They just believed they are. Recently my DS5 told me that thay are just costumes :guilty: That they aren't real. I was heartbroken. So now I have to keep him quiet so he doesn't ruin it for everyone else. He already went around telling the neighborhood kids and his brothers that Santa isn't real. :scared1: So Christmas eve I made him put out milk and cookies and a carrot and in the morning he was SOOOOOOOOOOO excited to see if santa came and ate them. So maybe it's not too late for him. :confused3
 
Let me start by saying I have no little Princesses of my own, just a little pirate I'm trying to turn into Prince Charming. . .

For us, we tend to talk about Disney being a place of its own (OK, two places since we've been to both WDW and DL in the last year) with "real" royalty. In that "reality" there are multiple kings/queens/princes/princesses. Do we treat the CMs as if they were real royalty when we meet them? Yes! DS5 removes his hat and bows deeply (I'm trying to get him to say "My, you are a beautiful princess!" but he's having none of that! LOL!). I guess for us there is the real world and there is Disney where that reality can be totally different.

Does DS think it's real? I don't know. I haven't asked and he's never brought it up. He's five so we may not be there yet. We don't actively protect the magic, but neither do we intentionally "spoil" it.

It will be interesting to see how others answer.
 
It hasn't come up. I am sure my son no longer believes they are real...........particularly since he knows the difference between cartoons and live action, and that both are make believe..........unless it's reality TV! But, he just never said anything.........he's nearly 11 and hasn't said anything about Santa, Tooth Fairy or Easter Bunny. I know he knows, but it's just not voiced. It was the same with us when we were kids. I don't know at what age he figured it out. My younger one already has said he knows the fuzzy ones have "guys inside there". But I don't know what he thinks of the princesses and other face characters. It's all just fun to us!
 

We have always encouraged the magic at disney and along with santa claus as the magic with him is just as strong. If she truely believes that they are real than that is fine with us. I still get excited and feel that they are real when I am at disney myself. So I would never tell her otherwise. We all get to the age when we know the adult reality but until children get to that age what is the harm if the believe. Disney addict 4 life.

Theresa ::MinnieMo :wave: princess: :bounce:
 
When my DD11 was about 5 we went on the Disney Cruise. She was so petrified of Captain Hook that we finally told her that it was just someone in a costume. That eventually lead to her knowing that all the characters were people in costumes. We did tell her that when Disney picked the person to play the character they picked someone who would "become" the character when they were in costume. She had no problem with Captain Hook after that and she believed in Santa and the Easter Bunny till between 9 and 10. My DS5 isn't afraid of any of the characters so we've never said anything to him.

Have a magical day!

:wizard:
 
We encourage the magic. Our 7 yr old DDs dream is to live in Florida and "be" Cinderella. And our 9 yr old, well he wants to drive a WDW bus LMAO. Anyway, they both know deep down that its all pretend, but they love to make believe its all real!
 
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I'm with ksjayhawkfan! We've never tiold our DD(5) one way or the other. She just BELIEVES in princesses, santa etc etc. I think it's a wonderful part of being a child and think there's plenty of time for them to find out about the 'real' world when they're older!

My DD wants to be Ariel when she grows up and even as we speak, she's wandering round in her ariel wig and costume telling her 'father' (not her Daddy! - Father like Ariel calls King Triton) that she would love to be a human. Also for dinner she's having 'fish shapes' and 'lobster legs' (fries to you and I). No worries!!!!! ;) princess:
 
I have to agree with the other poster, there is reality and then there is Disney "reality". My son, who is 12, (and I for that matter :teeth: ) do know that the characters are in costumes and everything, but when we are in WDW, when we see Goofy, Mickey, or even a Princess, that's what we see. Goofy, Mickey, a Princess, it never even dawns on us that they are people in costume. We both act like 5 year olds, we get so excited when we get to see characters. :Pinkbounc And I hope it stays that way for a very long time. I'm never growing up! :rotfl:
 
i have to say "they are real." if my son can hug or shake hands, that's real to me. beyond than that, he knows that all these characters are just that. none of these "royals " ever existed or ruled any kingdom on this planet. there is a historical reference for VERY few characters in wdw. since my son knows the characters are all fictional, there seems nothing for us to explain.
 
DD (5) believes they are real, I kinda might have told her they live in the castle. She never really said much about the other characters she met like Donald and such, So I dont know her inital thoughts. But then 2 weeks after we were home on the way to school she informs me that they werent real characters, just costumes. (Who told her!!!!????!?) She does still think the princesses are real but that might be easier as they are face characters that she talked to. I think to let them believe what is real for them. I told her donald might be a costume but only in a magical place could I meet Donald Duck. She does believe in Tinker Bell and tells everyone Tinker Bell left her lots of presents. This past trip she worked nightly like Santa and was very busy sneaking things out of the parks and into the room each night.
 
Agree with parents who take their childrens' lead!

We took our DS to WDW for the first time when he turned 5 (it was a birthday trip). We'd just had breakfast at Chef Mickeys and had cuddled up with Chip and Dale -- then arrived at MK and there are, Chip and Dale. The chipmunks had clearly been there for a while -- it was obvious they hadn't just run in ahead of us! So I turn to my son and say, "wow, Chip and Dale -- I wonder how they got here so fast!" And my darling, sweet, DS looks up at me and says, calmly and slowly, "Mama -- they are people dressed up to LOOK like Chip and Dale, it's not really them. They are cartoon characters." How precious is that?! Of course, he's 7.9 now and still ardently believes in Santa and the Tooth Fairy, but we let him tell us what he thought of those characters!
 
My dd4 was looking at pictures on these boards last night and there was a picture of a little girl with Snow White. My dd says, "SW isn't real, it's just a lady in a costume with probably a wig on" I asked her who told her that and she said "it's obvious!!" We didn't discuss it anymore. I was crushed, she was fine with it. She does still believe in Santa and the Easter Bunny.
 
My DD says the characters are like Santa. Santa can't be everywhere at once so he has helpers that pretend to be him.So for her there are helpers that may pretend to be the character, but you never know when the real one may show up! She is almost 10 and still believes. I am 40 plus and do too! :wave:
 
I tell my son, who is 4, that they are stories where we are using our imagination - this way I can explain that witches aren't real, which is a major factor for him. BUT, he believes that the Princesses he meets are the real ones from the stories.
 
Disney is as real as you want it to be. I mean when you see Mickey, you are looking at Mickey not a paper cut-out or a painting you are looking at MICKEY. My daughter (6) made a comment last year that Cinderella looked different, that did not change the fact that she was taking a picture with Cinderella who at that time on that day was the real Cinderella. I think you may be over analyzing things. Was Cinderella a real person documented in history books? Of course not. But when you see her in the parks she is as real as real gets. .02
 
I really appreciate all the replies (and hope for more)!

I'm in the "it's real at Disney" camp. As I mentioned in the original post, my son really never did believe, but he enjoys interacting with the characters and "playing along." In fact, he's very excited that when we visit WDW in a few months (his first trip) there's a chance he'll meet Kim Possible.

--Dominick
 
NATALIEBELLESmom said:
We have always encouraged the magic at disney and along with santa claus as the magic with him is just as strong. If she truely believes that they are real than that is fine with us. I still get excited and feel that they are real when I am at disney myself. So I would never tell her otherwise. We all get to the age when we know the adult reality but until children get to that age what is the harm if the believe. Disney addict 4 life.

Theresa ::MinnieMo :wave: princess: :bounce:

I'll second that statement! My thought exactly. "Real" life will come soon enough. :)
 














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