PMS in a Handbasket--Don't be afraid, just bring us food... Part 2a

[Tigger&Belle]

Awww, Julie, today will be a tough one for sure. Took me a couple years before I could even talk about my dad without crying after he died. Couldn't figure out how people came up with the "one year of grieving" guideline. Hang in there is the best advice I can give and we're here for you!

 

[Missy1961]

Well, I stopped in to see if anyone was home! I am avoiding going to bed because I am avoiding dealing with tomorrow. I have to take my kids to the state capital for a tour with our group and I DO NOT WANT TO GO!!!! Didja get that??

And, tomorrow would have been my mom's 80th bday and she passed away in Feb. I would just like to skip over it all. Right now, I really should stop feeling sorry for myself and go to bed.

Julie, for you. I still miss my mom and it was 5 years in Feb. I understand what you're feeling.

 

[phorsenuf]

Awww, Julie, today will be a tough one for sure. Took me a couple years before I could even talk about my dad without crying after he died. Couldn't figure out how people came up with the "one year of grieving" guideline. Hang in there is the best advice I can give and we're here for you!

One year of grieving. That's hogwash. I don't think we ever stop grieving, the pain just lessens is all.
Best to you today Julie.

 

[Missy1961]

One year of grieving. That's hogwash. I don't think we ever stop grieving, the pain just lessens is all.
Best to you today Julie.

You're right. Julie, we're here for you & we understand.

 

[phorsenuf]

I'm really wrestling with something right now and I'm hoping you all can help. I've "known" most of you for a few years now through the way you post and I think I'll get the most honest answers from you all instead of posting to the entire board.

We are going to Disney in August for the free dining. I think I told you all about it how DH didn't want to take that week off too but did anyways as an anniversary present to me.

Well lately I just seem to be rethinking the whole thing. I mean I really want to go but a part doesn't. It'll be the week before the kids go back to school. I feel we have done nothing at all this summer for day trips. We go campng for 10 days the first week of August, get home, have 3 days and we leave for Florida. We'll basically be gone the whole month of August.

My MIL will be coming into town 3 days before we leave (see previous post here somewhere about that ) and I know she's going to let her yippee ankle biting dog in my house while I'm gone not caring I don't want it here. I don't want to hear from our family we are going again to Disney, etc., etc., etc.

I'm really re-thinking the whole thing and I don't know what to do. I have one DS who is excited to go, one who is so-so (it's the whole away from friends thing) and a DH who is doing it to make me happy.

Maybe I'm just battling some mild depression or something, I don't know. I just wish I could shake these seeds of doubt.

Any suggestions how to get out of this funk or feel good about going?

 

[L107ANGEL]

Can you postpone the trip for the holiday break?? I think you have alot on your plate with the wedding, the MIL attack and the 10 day camping trip. I would feel overwhelmed as well.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

4's, sometimes it's hard to work through the feelings and figure out exactly what they really are. At least I seem to have that problem. Are you really thinking that you don't want to go or are you feeling overwhelmed with everything you have going on (which would be my answer with the two trips, the MIL visit, and the wedding planning)? If you don't go, will you regret the decision or feel relieved?

Can you go with the son who wants to go? I am so in favor of mom/child trips. I used to think that everyone should go on all the trips together...that is until I had two trips basically ruined. One trip was to your neck of the woods before Jake was born and our 3 kids did nothing but complain and another trip was a trip to WDW with all 4 of the kids. My middle 2 complained like you wouldn't believe. At that point I decided that every trip did not need to be a family trip. Add the fact that my DH does not care about going to WDW very often (every 3 or even 5 years is fine with him) and he prefers not to even go with the kids. The end result, which I told my DH was that I needed to "plant my own garden and nourish my own soul" . So I started taking the kids, one by one, to Orlando. We've made some wonderful memories and I get lots of trips there. We stay on a budget so it hasn't been too expensive. One trip involved my mom for her first and only trip to WDW and Universal at 81yo, memories that I cherish very much.

Sorry that it's so long winded, but is there any way that you and one son can go? Leave the others at home. That way you can have your fun and those that don't really want to be there won't have to be there.

But if what's holding you back is the timing, how about scheduling for another time after the wedding?

Also, how about shortening the camping so you have more days between trips?

 

[Shugardrawers]

Can I go back to bed? I didn't want to get up in the first place but Pete had to poo.

 

[bigmerle1966]

4's, sometimes it's hard to work through the feelings and figure out exactly what they really are. At least I seem to have that problem. Are you really thinking that you don't want to go or are you feeling overwhelmed with everything you have going on (which would be my answer with the two trips, the MIL visit, and the wedding planning)? If you don't go, will you regret the decision or feel relieved?

What she said. I know before going on my last trip I felt the same. I think it was because there was just to much going on here with work. I work for a before and after school care program and the last day of school was the day we left for WDW. I have to make sure before I go on vacation that everything is done and that everyone has instructions on where EVERYTHING is, because that way my butt is covered. I just couldn't seem to get excited about my trip but once we were on the road I felt much better.

 

[Briarmom]

Well, I stopped in to see if anyone was home! I am avoiding going to bed because I am avoiding dealing with tomorrow. I have to take my kids to the state capital for a tour with our group and I DO NOT WANT TO GO!!!! Didja get that??

And, tomorrow would have been my mom's 80th bday and she passed away in Feb. I would just like to skip over it all. Right now, I really should stop feeling sorry for myself and go to bed.

Sorry Julie. I can't imagine what that pain will be like.

 

[bigmerle1966]

Can I go back to bed? I didn't want to get up in the first place but Pete had to poo.

Nighty night Shug.

 

[Briarmom]

Phors-I took my ds to Disneyland when he finished Kindergarten. Dh stayed home with dd (who was about a 18 months...and had been to DL a few times). We had the best trip ever. Even tantrums and flat tires and driving in LA couldn't get us down.

T&B has some good questions to ask yourself.
Lemme go on record to say that if my MIL would go to WDW with us, I would stay home.

 

[ChuckB]

Of course I didn't

still no PM though

4's - I have to agree with the advise you have gotten already, we have 4 children also, DS's 16 & 13, DD's 7 & 12, the DW and I have started going and doing with/without the kids, we take the ones that want to go when we have a trip planned, and it has made things easier on us and our trips alot more enjoyable

and before I forget .....

morning to all

 

[Tigger&Belle]

T&B has some good questions to ask yourself.

Can you tell I'm always asking myself questions?

I'm really bummed about our vacation, if you can call it that. Sorry if any of you are from Ohio...

With Zach's Bar Mitzvah coming up in November, we decided that we needed to come up with something fairly inexpensive for vacation this summer. We still wanted to do something, but nothing too big. We really wanted to go to Universal, but knew that would be too expensive and my DH wanted to go to California, but that REALLY would have been expensive. So we had a family vote, got season passes for Kings Dominion, about 2 hours from here, and for our vacation will go to Cincinnati and will spend a couple days at Kings Island (and can use the Kings Dominion passes) and we'll do stuff around Cincinnati. And no, we don't have family in Ohio...

The other half of the story is that for next spring break our plans were to go to Orlando and go to Orlando, with maybe a couple days at WDW. Zach will be in 8th grade this year and when he goes to high school and hopefully makes the high school baseball team, I think he'll have to be here during spring breaks, so this next spring break might be the last one for some time that we can get away for awhile. But now with the job problems that my DH is having, the Orlando trip is one hold and very likely will be cancelled.

Just knowing I had that to look forward to was making going to Ohio tolerable. Who gives a rat's rear about going there? I know that it will be fine. Zach is planning the trip and keeps coming up with things to do and restaurants, etc. He keeps e-mailing me things and then runs in to tell me to look at what he's sent me, which is pretty cute. He's a miniature trip planner like me, so I can't act bummed about the trip to him. But I can whine to all you, right?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

still no PM though

You asked for it!!! Let me know if it works--I'e had a problem posting/sending pics

 

[ChuckB]

You asked for it!!! Let me know if it works--I'e had a problem posting/sending pics

it worked .... and I should have known better

 

[phorsenuf]

OK, I'm back from getting my hair cut (which I cut short and really like).

Thanks for all the kind words. I do want to go but it's just that stupid nagging feeling for some reason. I don't think I feel too overwhelmed with everything because for the most part I have things pretty much under control.

I certainly don't have a problem with missing my MIL, I will have more than enough time with her! LOL

I know if we don't go I will regret not making the trip. I probably could go with just my DS-14 and I know we would have a blast together but I also know nobody really wants to stay home (I don't think).

I just need to get a little more excited about going is all, someway, somehow.
I know once we get there we'll have a blast as always.

I could postpone but really the only reason we are going is for the free dining and the unbelievable dela I got that will actually help subsequent trips. Plus we want to hit WWTBAM one more time.

Cutting short the camping trip is not an option. The kids would string me up if I even suggested it. We have too much fun on this trip and it is our favorite thing to do. 10 days isn't even enough sometimes! LOL

Oh well......Maybe I'll feel different in the next few days. I tend to go up and down like this so I'm sure I'll be "up" soon enough. I swear I'm bi-polar sometimes.

Thanks again.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

How about mentioning to your family the possiblity of only going with your 14yo? Pay attention to their reaction... It might turn them around and get them more excited or it might make them fess up that they really don't want to be going, in which case you might have a better time without them. Otherwise it sounds like you really do want to go and these are normal feelings for you. I often have the same sort of feelings before a trip--so much to see and plan and I'm always concerned that I won't have a great time.

Is WWTBAM really going to close? I keep thinking that it won't be open the next time we go, but I suppose the next time we go it really won't be open. My 12yo will be VERY bummed--he enjoyed it a lot last trip. We'd go from RnR (for him) to ToT (for me) to WWTBAM (for us both) and catch some street acts whenever possible. We spent almost all our time at MGM. My 6yo liked it a lot when we were there, too. He complained about going, but once I made him go once he really liked it.

Sorry, Chcuk--you were warned! For those of you who haven't gotten it--it's a very disgusting toenail.

 

[Shugardrawers]

I'm so bored I could SCREAM!!!!!!!!!! Someone come play Qwerty or Jungle Gin over at Pogo with me.

I wanna see the PM too

 

[Tigger&Belle]

It's sent, but don't say I didn't warn you!

Notice how teva isn't asking for it?