Please weigh in on sensitive family situation

[luvmy3]

Again, please clarify at exactly what point would you not be willing to forgive and forget???! Seriously, there are limits. I'm not bitter or resentful. . .just drawing the line. . .so exactly where is your line???

ETA- I live in the community where Maurice Clemmons gunned down 4 innocent police offers. . .less than a mile from my home. His family supported him.. .well because he was family. so just where is your line between right and wrong?

Didn't see your edit and honestly I'm not going to address it as any rational person wouldn't have even asked.

 

[MichelleVW]

Or maybe they just don't having any clear understanding of being wronged. . .kinda like people that think domestic violence is ok because they have never known anything different.

Lol, or maybe they just dealt with it and grew up and moved on instead of becoming bitter about the cards they were dealt.

It's pretty much your way or the highway huh?

 

[luvmy3]

You sound really bitter....that's sad.

yes, she speaks volumes as well

 

[hambirg]

You sound really bitter....that's sad.

Kinda judgemental for somebody who claims they're not.

It's ok. . .we all get it. .. cheating not a big deal to you all. .. perfectly normal behavior. . nobody gets hurt. .. yeah. . ok.

 

[MichelleVW]

Kinda judgemental for somebody who claims they're not.

It's ok. . .we all get it. .. cheating not a big deal to you all. .. perfectly normal behavior. . nobody gets hurt. .. yeah. . ok.

Nope, not judgmental, but observational. FTR, I never said that no one gets hurt, but I'm not going to disown someone because of it.

 

[hambirg]

Didn't see your edit and honestly I'm not going to address it as any rational person wouldn't have even asked.

See that's where we differ. Infidelity is miles wrong in my book. .. and I'm honestly curious about people who think it's not. Sorry if I don't live in your world where family members cheat on their spouses and it is seen as normal and perfectly acceptable. It does really make me wonder what kind of ethical standards you are all living under.

 

[hambirg]

Nope, not judgmental, but observational. FTR, I never said that no one gets hurt, but I'm not going to disown someone because of it.

So again, where is the line? How many people have to be hurt before it is unacceptable in your book?

 

[MichelleVW]

See that's where we differ. Infidelity is miles wrong in my book. .. and I'm honestly curious about people who think it's not. Sorry if I don't live in your world where family members cheat on their spouses and it is seen as normal and perfectly acceptable. It does really make me wonder what kind of ethical standards you are all living under.

Good Lord...no one sees it as normal and perfectly acceptable. But it happens and you move on...you don't shun family members because of it.

 

[MichelleVW]

So again, where is the line? How many people have to be hurt before it is unacceptable in your book?

Sorry, but I don't play the "what if" game.

 

[luvmy3]

See that's where we differ. Infidelity is miles wrong in my book. .. and I'm honestly curious about people who think it's not. Sorry if I don't live in your world where family members cheat on their spouses and it is seen as normal and perfectly acceptable. It does really make me wonder what kind of ethical standards you are all living under.

Please quote one post where I said it wasn't wrong, or it was normal, or it was acceptable. I'm not going to disown my family because they made a mistake.
I think you need to step away from this thread, clearly you have issues about infidelity and thats fine but maybe therapy would be better for you than a posting on this message board.

 

[hambirg]

Good Lord...no one sees it as normal and perfectly acceptable. But it happens and you move on...you don't shun family members because of it.

And I disagree. Sorry I was just PMing with an attorney from Texas that came to check out this thread, because I posted this question an another forum. . .a legal forum. And yep. . .sister is likely to lose her parental rights in her state. So do you still keep your mouth shut and allow your sister to make so many bad decisions that in the end it hurts her? After all. . she's an adult. Personally I think you all sound like enablers. So uncle Bob is an alcoholic, gambler that is making many bad choices. It's not my job to judge him. .. so I keep my mouth shut. . pretend that the choices he's making are all okie dokie and watch him go down the sh*tter. Uh. .. that's just not me. I'm going to tell you exactly what I think of your crappy choices whether you are wanting to hear them or not! I feel an obligation to pull your stupid head out of the sand! Hey, overly hormonal sister! You might lose your child because you are thinking with your crotch and not your head. . .just saying. . .dum*ss!

 

[hambirg]

Please quote one post where I said it wasn't wrong, or it was normal, or it was acceptable. I'm not going to disown my family because they made a mistake.
I think you need to step away from this thread, clearly you have issues about infidelity and thats fine but maybe therapy would be better for you than a posting on this message board.

And maybe you don't have a clear understanding about the legalities of this issue. .. so if you are ok with your sister's infidelity and think that it isn't going to hurt anybody or that there aren't going to be any legal ramifications for her stupid behavior. . .and you don't have any ethical responsibility to point that out to a loved one who is clearly acting like an ignoramous than you won't have any problems clapping while she loses all rights to her child.

 

[luvmy3]

And maybe you don't have a clear understanding about the legalities of this issue. .. so if you are ok with your sister's infidelity and think that it isn't going to hurt anybody or that there aren't going to be any legal ramifications for her stupid behavior. . .and you don't have any ethical responsibility to point that out to a loved one who is clearly acting like an ignoramous than you won't have any problems clapping while she loses all rights to her child.

YOu know I'm really sorry for whatever happened to you

 

[hambirg]

YOu know I'm really sorry for whatever happened to you

No pity needed. I feel sorry for you that you don't understand that most people don't share your views that a family member's immoral, self destructive, hurtful behavior is A-OK! And that, in fact, it takes a lot more backbone and love to not bury your head in the sand and be an enabler than to stand up and fight for what is really in the best interest of a loved one.

It's ok. .. I wouldn't expect more from some people. Pat yourself on the back. .. right up until your sister is crying that she lost the parental rights to her only child. It's not always easy to be the voice of reason.

 

[hambirg]

Wow. . . ok. . . tumble weeds. I guess the "my sister is now gay and I have to do everything in the world to support her choice, no matter how immensely stupid it is because in my family we always support our family no matter what" crowd has left the building.