"Playdate" Should they have provided lunch?

[Zandy595]

I didn't really want to call it a playdate because the boys are all around 13yo, but I couldn't think of a better word. So, DS was invited to his friend's house today from 12pm to 4pm, along with 2 other boys. He wasn't told that they would have lunch there, but I thought for sure they would since most people don't eat lunch before noon. DS got home at 4pm and was starving. I asked if his friend's mom gave them anything to eat and he said no. I'm surprised she let 4 teenage boys go 4 hours without giving them any food.

So my question is: if your DS invited friends over at that time of day would you have served lunch?

 

[golfgal]

I would have fed my own kids before they left--I would have expected them to get a snack of some kind while there too though. Our kids eat lunch by 11:30 at school so on weekends they are more than hungry by noon.

 

[clovergirl5]

I would have given my kid lunch before they left to go over to a friends if it was at 12. If my house where the friend was coming to, I would have asked the kid if they ate at home before they came over. If they didn't, I probably would have given them lunch.

 

[camlace]

Not necessarily...what time do they eat at school? My sister's lunch is at at 1045. So for her to eat lunch at noon it totally out of the norm. I always ask when my daughter visits a friend or we have a friend over to confirm if lunch will be served (or if I need to feed the visiting child).

 

[happygirl]

I would have fed my own kids before they left--I would have expected them to get a snack of some kind while there too though. Our kids eat lunch by 11:30 at school so on weekends they are more than hungry by noon.

I agree!!

I'm just starting to get into the whole playdate thing. They usually get a snack

 

[Zandy595]

Not necessarily...what time do they eat at school? My sister's lunch is at at 1045. So for her to eat lunch at noon it totally out of the norm. I always ask when my daughter visits a friend or we have a friend over to confirm if lunch will be served (or if I need to feed the visiting child).

All the boys have lunch at 1:30 at school.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

I wouldn't expect lunch unless the mom specifically said she'd be providing it. However, since they're 13, she may have just figured they'd raid the fridge if they were hungry. I usually schedule playdates for my 11 year old a little later in the day like 2 or 3 so they've already eaten lunch. Then I tell the boys to come downstairs if they get hungry so they can have some crackers or something. They rarely tear themselves away from the Wii to eat!

 

[wdwfan16]

I would have served food and snacks. When my teen nephews come over I stock up on food of all types. It seems they they can go about 43.5 seconds without food.

 

[Wall-E1]

I never offer to serve lunch at my house when my son's friend's are over. Of course there is no need to as everyone just helps themselves to whatever they want in the kitchen, whenever they want. They're all teenagers now, so it resembles a shark feeding frenzy when they all go into the kitchen. I just stay as far away as possible when it is going on, for fear of losing a finger or toe.

 

[1PrincessMomma1]

I always serve lunch for a noon or so get together. It just makes sense to me. Our friends do the same.

 

[mefordis]

It seems like he should have gotten offered some kind of snack over there. My oldest is 6 yrs old but i imagine when she gets to be that age, I'll still offer her and her friends something to eat if she has friends over for 3 or 4 hours.

 

[Minnesota!]

snack = yes, lunch = no.

Around here, lunch is served between 11 and 1130. So by noon we would have passed the "lunch" window and I would assume that a light snack (cheese/crackers, etc) MIGHT have been served had the boys said they were hungry...

 

[Magic Mom]

By the time DS was 13, I stopped making sure kids were fed when they were over, unless they were there during meal time.

 

[Zandy595]

I guess I was mistaken. I've always considered noon to be lunch time. I like asking questions here and learning I've been wrong all these years. Makes me a more open-minded person.

 

[mhsjax]

I guess I was mistaken. I've always considered noon to be lunch time. I like asking questions here and learning I've been wrong all these years. Makes me a more open-minded person.

Same here. My kids eat lunch around 10:45 and 11:00 at school but they are up a lot earlier also. There is NO WAY on the weekends or summer that I am going to rearrange my lunch time because of a school lunch time. They aren't getting up that early and therefore aren't eating breakfast that early. They can and do wait until at least noon. And yes if kids were over at my house( Words can't describe how much I hate the words play date) I would tell them to eat something if they wanted to.

 

[Tinijocaro]

I've always thought that once they are out of preschool, it's not called a playdate anymore. Just having friends over.

 

[Hillbeans]

I would have served food and snacks. When my teen nephews come over I stock up on food of all types. It seems they they can go about 43.5 seconds without food.

I don't think i've ever hosted a playdate where food of some sort was not eaten. If not lunch, definitely a snack, especially for 4 hours!

 

[Pakey]

I raised 3 boys and by the time they were 13, I would not have "made" lunch for them. I would have expected my son to bring them into the kitchen to do their own raiding if they were hungry.

 

[MariDisney]

I'm surprised a group of boys 13 years old didn't just spontaneously eat everything in the kitchen and possibly the neighbor's kitchen as well. DD is 10 and if she or her friends were hungry they'd go to the kitchen and make a sandwich or hot pocket or something. Even at 10 my involvement would need to be very minimal.

 

[Bluestars]

I wouldn't expect lunch unless the mom specifically said she'd be providing it. However, since they're 13, she may have just figured they'd raid the fridge if they were hungry. I usually schedule playdates for my 11 year old a little later in the day like 2 or 3 so they've already eaten lunch. Then I tell the boys to come downstairs if they get hungry so they can have some crackers or something. They rarely tear themselves away from the Wii to eat!

Me too. But my son knows to come on down stairs and tell me if he or his friends are hungry. Then I would either make a lunch or give them snacks. I always let his friends know that if they get hungry or thirsty, just say something. If his friends came over at noon, I would assume they had already eaten unless they let me know. My son is 14 though. At that age I figure they can let me know.